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Brandon25
Aug 20, 2012, 11:40 AM
My ex and I were together for about three months. She recently broke up with me because I wasn't happy with her personality. I was happy with her but only because she loved me... and I was looking for a reason to leave her the whole time... I realize this situation is stupid because I should have been the one that left her.. but now that she's gone.. I feel like id do anything to get her back... Ive blown up her phone and she's so annoyed with me that she's almost to the point where she doesn't want to be my friend anymore... she said that she needed a few weeks without me contacting her and that it hurts her when she sees me. I asked her if we would ever be together again and she said she couldn't tell the future.

What in the world is going on, and how do I stop feeling like I do?!

C0bra_M3nace
Aug 20, 2012, 12:00 PM
You feel the way you do because you're letting yourself. To make it easier, stop talking to her. It's so hard to be friends with an ex for this reason, that's why it's best to part ways and accept what was not meant to be and move on with our lives.

If you just stop all contact with her, it will get easier but only you decide how easy it is. You are the only one allowing yourself to be hurt by this.

Brandon25
Aug 20, 2012, 12:09 PM
You feel the way you do because you're letting yourself. To make it easier, stop talking to her. It's so hard to be friends with an ex for this reason, that's why it's best to part ways and accept what was not meant to be and move on with our lives.

If you just stop all contact with her, it will get easier but only you decide how easy it is. You are the only one allowing yourself to be hurt by this.

But why do I all of a sudden want something that I never wanted to begin with... I guess I'm the only one that can answer these questions... it just helps sometimes to hear it from someone else.

C0bra_M3nace
Aug 20, 2012, 12:15 PM
But why do i all of a sudden want something that I never wanted to begin with...I guess I'm the only one that can answer these questions... it just helps sometimes to hear it from someone else.

I'm sure you've heard the phrase,

"You don't know what you've got until it's gone."

I think it rings true here. You say you only stuck around because she loved you. I think it's the love you miss, not her particularly.

Stop talking to her and start moving on my friend. No sense in reminiscing the past, when you can be enjoying the present and focusing on the future.