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Jezz182
Mar 6, 2007, 10:14 PM
I have a GF (new to dating need tips) and we just got together today. We've been crushing for a long time. Here's the problem. I like this other girl a lot. We're REALLY good friends. My GF knows we're close, but she doesn't know I like the other girl. We hang out more then I ever hung out with my GF, even before we were dating. The real problem is the other girl has a BF he's one of my friends. He knows me and the other girl are close too The other girl is one of my Gf's best friends. What do I do?

Jezz182
Mar 6, 2007, 10:35 PM
If you read my last post, then you know who I'm talking about. How do you know if a girl likes you? Any signs I should look for?

ashishhawking
Mar 6, 2007, 11:03 PM
By knowing that she likes you

I messed up
Mar 6, 2007, 11:50 PM
Um... wow. You just got together today, and you are already having regrets?? You said you had a crush on the girl you started dating? And she had a crush on you? In my opinion, you shouldn't have gotten with the girl you just got with today, IF YOU LIKED THE OTHER GIRL.

I don't know how you got into this situation, but if you really, really want the other girl. You'd have to break up with the girl you JUST got with, then wait for the other girl to break up with her boyfriend. Then If you wanted to remain friends with your ex and the girl (you want to be with)'s ex, you'd have to wait for everyone to move on from the breaking up. Although I can't see your ex, and her ex still being pals with you (if you date the other girl).

If I were you, I would stay with the girl you are with. You said you had a crush on her? So there must be something between you two. At least give your new relationship a chance, unless she really makes you unhappy. Also, you won't get anywhere with the other girl as long as she has a boyfriend (DON'T CHEAT!). So you shouldn't think about the other girl at all until she's single.

Let's just say everything goes your way

1st scenario: the other girl break up with her boyfriend and you break up with your girlfriend. Then you manage to get with the other girl. What if she makes you unhappy? Then you'd be kicking yourself for dumping the first girl you were with.

2nd scenario: the other girl break up with her boyfriend and you break up with your girlfriend. Then you make moves on the other girl. What if it turns out that she doesn't like you more than a friend? Then you'd be kicking yourself for dumping the first girl you were with.

Trust me, just take it easy. I know you like the other girl and sometimes if you are good friends with a girl you can misinterpret things they do. You might think they want to be more than friends, but in their mind they might just be thinking friends. I've been there. Just be happy with what you have and don't cheat because it will ruin everything.

Hope this helps you a little lol

cherrybubblesss
Mar 7, 2007, 12:28 AM
She will probably smile at you a lot, laugh at all your jokes,she might stare at you.also,after you make eye contact with her and she looks away, look at her again and if she plays with her hair or adjusts her jewelry or something like that it most likely means she's interested in you!hope I helped :)
Hehe and if you want to try and help me with my post that would be great! Lol :D

Jezz182
Mar 7, 2007, 03:25 PM
Thanks cherrybubbles

kristynn
Mar 7, 2007, 03:44 PM
If she's shy, it would be hard to find out if she likes you. Unless you approach her, talk to her, etc. you may not find out or take it as if she doesn't like you when in fact, she does, but she's too shy...

If she's not shy, she'll make eye contact, smile, she'll want to be close to you, she'll be happy when you're around, listen to you carefully, etc. etc. :)

Jezz182
Mar 7, 2007, 04:53 PM
There's this girl I like. She's fun, outgoing, goofy, and I always feel awesome when she's around. How do I ask her out?

JoeCanada76
Mar 7, 2007, 05:53 PM
Hi Her Name,

Would you like to go out sometime?

Jezz182
Mar 8, 2007, 04:10 PM
Two of my friends were going out. Now the guy wants me to tell her that he's breaking up with her. I don't want to hurt her feelings, cause I want to go out with her, and I don't want her to think that I'm taking advantage of the fact that they just broke up. I don't want the other friend to hate me for dating his ex either. What do I do?

Jezz182
Mar 8, 2007, 04:12 PM
Im telling her about the breakup tomarrow.

Nosnosna
Mar 8, 2007, 04:22 PM
Don't do his dirty work for him.

If he wants to break up with her, he needs to tell her himself... having someone else do it shows her a lot of disrespect, and being the one who does the telling puts a hefty chunk of that disrespect on your shoulders, too. She's going to shoot the messenger.

Be very careful dating the ex of a friend. There's a lot of extra potential for drama involved. You'll still have to deal with both of them, and if there's any residual feelings or bad blood between them, you're going to be caught in the middle.

manimuth
Mar 8, 2007, 04:40 PM
Stay out of this one! Let your friend know that he needs to handle his own business.

Jezz182
Mar 8, 2007, 09:15 PM
I am pissed and confused! My friend is going out with this girl who also happens to be a close friend too. I want to be more then a friend to her, but I didn't tell her because I didn't want to ruin what they had. Now he wants me to break up with her for him. I guess he wants me to do it cause he trusts me and cause she and I are friends. I want tell her cause I don't want to lose friend, but I'm afraid she'll bring hell down on me, which is worse cause I want to date her! Is it OK to date a friends ex?

Synnen
Mar 8, 2007, 09:18 PM
Have you thought about the fact that when he breaks up with her, she's not exactly going to be in the "oh wow. That sucked. Wanna date?" sort of mood?

Make your friend do his own dirty work.

missy_muffins1984
Mar 8, 2007, 09:25 PM
This is a very tricky situation and a hard one to touch on. On one hand you have a good friend of yours to which you have the whole bro's before hoes packt with, but on the other hand you have a girl who you adore and actually want and will treat her right and you know she is about to get her heart dumped on seven ways from tomorrow. Well first things first.. I would not break up with her for your friend because that is not your job... if he no longer wants her he needs to step up to the plate himself. Second he can't be as good of a friend as you thought if he would ask you to do something like break your friends heart for him and ruin a friendship that you have shared for a while. And third how long have they been dating? If they have not been together for that long or it wasn't really serious then I would say you ask her out... after she has had a bit of time to get over her heartbreak of course. Of course you do have to kind of trust your heart on these kind of things and at the end of the day the decision is up to you and you alone.

Hope this helps a bit

Jezz182
Mar 8, 2007, 09:46 PM
Thanks guys! Tomorrow's going to be hell no matter which way it goes. Should I say anything to cheer her up after it happens, or leave her alone? As a friend, I have no clue what to do!

missy_muffins1984
Mar 11, 2007, 01:23 PM
Hey,

The only advice I can give you at this point is be a friend... it takes no thought or effort to just be there for her. From the sounds of it you are already pretty good friends... so just let instinct guide you the rest of the way.

mj23Jordan
Mar 14, 2007, 12:43 AM
She'll hang around you a lot she'll look for you and when your with her she'll act a litlle nervouse... Just compliment her a lot and see how she acts

anotherquestion
Mar 14, 2007, 08:01 AM
If you really want your question to be answered read this *13 signs of falling in love***

13. When you're on the phone with them late at night and they hang
Up... but you miss them already when it was just two minutes
Ago1

12. You read their texts over and over again...

11. You walk really slowly when you're with them...

10. You feel shy whenever you're with them...

9. When you think about them, your heart beats faster and faster...

8 . You smile when you hear their voice...

7. When you look at them, you can't see the other people around
You...
All you see is him/her...

6. You start listening to slow songs, while thinking of them...

5. They become ALL you think about...

4. You get high just from their scent...

3. You realize that you're always smiling to yourself when you think
About them...

2. You would do anything for them...

1. While reading this, there was one person on your mind the whole
Time...

Cutie_Pie228
Mar 19, 2007, 07:31 AM
if you read my last post, then you know who i'm talking about. How do you know if a girl likes you? any signs i should look for?
I didn't read your last post, Im new to this. So tell me what's going on and I can give you advice.

Whitkneelovesninjas
Apr 4, 2007, 07:26 PM
I am pissed and confused! My friend is going out with this girl who also happens to be a close friend too. I want to be more then a friend to her, but I didn't tell her because I didn't want to ruin what they had. Now he wants me to break up with her for him. I guess he wants me to do it cause he trusts me and cause she and I are friends. I want tell her cause I don't want to lose friend, but I'm afraid she'll bring hell down on me, which is worse cause I want to date her! Is it OK to date a friends ex?
I think the best thing you can do, is first let your friend know how you feel about her, and make him do his own dirty work! Also, don't go for it RIGHT after they break up because I mean do you really want to be just a re-bound?
Hope everything works out.

Jezz182
Apr 19, 2007, 08:05 PM
3 Questions
1 There's this girl in my language arts class. She's constantly staring at me. I look right at her and she just keeps staring. Does she like me?
2 There's this girl I really like. She's amazing and I always feel good when she's around. Were friends. One of my other friends is currently dating her. She goes through bfs fast. I don't want one friend to break up with the other cause there will be akwardness when I hang out with either. But I also really like this girl. What do I do?

fanana
Apr 19, 2007, 08:12 PM
hope for the best cause I mean it sux cause she's your friends girlfriend... wait till he breaks up with her that's if he breaks up with her then after he breaks up with her ask her out if she says yes go tell her x-bf/ur friend if u can date his girl that's will prove that u are a good friend...

starsbooty
Apr 20, 2007, 11:08 AM
Friends don't date friends ex's, whether they like them or not. And if she goes through bf's fast why would you want to be another notch on her boyfriend belt.. come on... and the girl that's staring.. she probably does like you, or maybe your just nice to look at.. have you ever asked her what she was looking at, or why she is staring? Maybe she will tell you what you want to know! Or don't want to know...

alkalineangel
Apr 20, 2007, 11:15 AM
You can date a friends ex... at least if your friend is a guy.. just wait for him to get another girlfriend... he'll be over it... totally different scenario if we were dealing with girls and an ex boyfriend though... thats just off limits.

alkalineangel
Apr 20, 2007, 01:13 PM
Well I can say that this girl right here is married to the best friend of her ex, and they are just as close now as they were then. If the guy is mature and realizes that the relationship didn't work for him but might work for his best friend, then there is no issue. But it is only polite for the best friend to wait to make a move until the ex has started a new relationship...

Lowtax4eva
Apr 20, 2007, 01:16 PM
#1 Yes, she probably likes you, go talk to her if you like her

#2 if and when they break up it's best to ask your friend before asking this girl out, if he is cool with it then go talk to her.

alkalineangel
Apr 20, 2007, 01:50 PM
And in my defense, I never said to do it behind his back... I agree you should talk to him, but to say it is not right under any circumstances is silly.

Sodium
Apr 20, 2007, 02:02 PM
I feel That girls and guys have the same situation

starsbooty
Apr 20, 2007, 02:54 PM
Okay.. well.. why wouldn't it hurt a guy that his friend is trying to date his ex? Wouldn't that mean his friend was already thinking about her while they were still together.. this is never okay.. and its not completely different.. most guys want to seem manly around there friends and brush the broad off like it doesn't matter, in reality there is hidden resentment towards the friend who dishonored the friendship communication or not...

alkalineangel
Apr 20, 2007, 03:31 PM
I'm not saying it won't hurt someone. That is why you have open communication. And it doesn't mean that the guy was thining about her in any way while the two were dating. It just means that things either changed, or they saw each other differently after the breakup. All I am saying is that Women tend to resent anyone who dates an ex, esp. a friend, but men can and will get over past relationships and cope with a friend dating an ex, but most of the time it is only when they have moved on. And typically this is only with young love, teenage dating, once you start dealing with older men and women it is even easier. That is just my opinion.

Catalyst93
May 8, 2007, 06:02 PM
3 Questions
1 There's this girl in my language arts class. She's constantly staring at me. I look right at her and she just keeps staring. Does she like me?
2 There's this girl I really like. she's amazing and I always feel good when shes around. Were friends. One of my other friends is currently dating her. She goes through bfs fast. I don't want one friend to break up with the other cause there will be akwardness when i hang out with either. But I also really like this girl. What do I do?
Who is more important to you- your friend or this girl?