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Thatguy494
Aug 19, 2012, 02:21 AM
Okay, so I met this really nice girl and we just had enough time to exchange numbers and whatever so we started a long distance relationship *i know, I know* because she lived in Chicago and I lived in Atlanta and we couldn't see each other on a daily basis but we started on the phone, then moved to skype calling each other everyday. It was amazing at first it was the first time I dared to think of the feeling 'Love' to describe a relationship. But just recently, when things started getting semi-serious *We were talking randomly about kids and what we would name them if we were to have any* I started seeing her differently.

She's been very bubbly and talks A lot and about stuff that doesn't really matter *Like boy bands and her dog* But whenever I bring up something that I think is important, she is unable to add on to the conversation because she doesn't even have common sense in some areas *She didn't know where the Effiel tower was... or who Moby was... * but she was always like this but I figured like, she would calm down at times? But she's like this whenever she has the energy to speak so it gets annoying.

I mean when we get along its great, but the issue is that she's all up~beat and slightly annoying alllllllll the time, and personally I've never really had a serious physical attraction to her, just thought she was cute but lately when I joke and suggest we go work out when I visit to help her get a better figure she laughs it off and says she prefers to be the way she is *shes like bone thin and barely has muscle or fat on her and I've always been sexually attracted to smaller frame women but usually those in shape and that are toned*

and the times she actually is quiet is when I usually have something on my mind I want to share, but get little to no response, which at times I just leave alone because I've asked her at times to "Please calm down babe" which in retrospect gives me that response but whenever I want to talk about something important she has nothing but dumb remarks to make and it makes me wonder at times how she can get by being so simple minded at times.

So all in all I'm not sure if I still like this girl, I want the world for her and I'm not as shallow as to leave because of these issues, but a friend says that if my complaints outweigh my satisfaction in a relationship then instead of trying to fix it just move on.

But she swears she loves me and etc and I was hoping to see her in person to break up with her *if it happens* I feel like I owe her that much, or who knows maybe when I am in her presence instead of listening to her over skype being slightly annoying *she has a habit of getting hyper when I'm sleepy and its irritating listening to someone sing tyler swift over headphones* I might appreciate her better?

I feel like I don't want to break up with her because I just feel like myself around her *when not aggravated* its just stuff like her body at times *Not being excessively shallow but she could stand to gain some weight~ in fact she lost some as a side effect of being 'in love' which really didn't help at all* And her personality, which I adore but she has the worse timing in the universe to be bubbly and obnoxious. I told her all this before, *besides the physical attraction thing* but she usually drives away from how I feel and I don't know, I know I'm still young and could move on, but I just don't want to look back and think of her as the one that got away...