I have been in a relationship since 7 months. . he is a very loving guy but don’t know what goes on but we have a fight, arguments almost every week. We even have broken up and patched up many times. Actually it is me who starts saying stupid stuff if he starts ignoring me or gets busy with his family and that thing annoys him a lot. It is still the same this time. I just don’t know how to bring him back. He doesn't respond to my texts and calls. Every time I promise that I won’t do that again but...
I am ashamed of myself. Please help me out.

Let the dust settle and see what happens when he cools off. Let him call you, so don't make a sappy pest of yourself.

Let the dust settle and see what happens when he cools off. Let him call you, so don't make a sappy pest of yourself.

Its going to be 5 days he is mad at me. I am dying for him . I know he loves me a lot but wonder how he can live without me so many days

I forgive him for his mistakes every time because whenever I try to tell him that he was wrong and etc etc and should apologize, he gets angry so now I just avoid this. But why doesnot he? Is a girl has to suffer always?

All due respect but the peace without you seems to be what he wants and what you were doing before turned him off so he left. Maybe work on your issues without him for now.

I am just scared, I may not lose hIm. .
Actually, after struggling hard, I have got this great boy. . he is different from all others and perfect for me.

All he wants is importance, love, respect and care

Leave him alone. He will either cool off and miss you, or he won't.

How much I would have to wait?

How old are you both?

We both are 19

Then you better be patient and figure he isn't looking to come back soon, so don't just wait. Treat this as a break up. Instead of being desperate, begging and apologizing, and letting your love guide you into compromising yourself respect, sit back and get yourself under control. If he hasn't missed you enough in a few weeks to a month,then he doesn't miss you,or the conflicts between you at all.

You said you always forgave him,but he never forgave you,so maybe you were in deeper than he was with your feelings. You should never be that dependent on some one to be happy. That's your job, even though you are hurt now by these events, you still deal with them,and your own feelings.

Break ups suck, and so do the lovers spats that cause them.

At 19 years old you need to spend a little time being single and learn how to be happy with yourself. I doubt you have spent much time living on your own and learning how to be self sufficient. Your way too young to worry about a serious relationship like this. Some tips to help make you a better girlfriend would be 1) learn to be happy with yourself. You can't make anyone else happy if you don't know how to be happy without anyone else. 2) Learn how to make your point without starting a fight. It takes two to argue. When a problem arises, take a breath. Think about what your trying to say. Speak clearly and know what you want from the discussion. After you have said your piece, stop talking! Listen to your partner or whoever you are arguing with. You will win more arguments by listening then by yelling. 3) Find a middle ground, and don't be afriad to admit if your wrong. Its OK to be wrong sometimes. It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't want to be with you anymore, so move on. Learn to be a better person to yourself, learn to be happy. Find a better man!

Thanku both of you. I guess it is going to workout now !

Wait for some time mehak :) I hope he will miss you soon. I know you must be feeling like dying to talk to him but this is not going to work . Learn to live like this because fights are obvious in a relation. Hang out with your friends and pass time on internet or TV or somewhere else. Just do not contact him until he contacts you. If you want to say sorry then go ahead be nice and promise him you will not do this again . But if he is not replying then give him some time alone let him miss you and cool down.

I have called him more than 20 times today and even have sent many lovely and apologizing texts. He didn't respond to any of them. Every time he does like this but now I have got tired. . I don't have that energy and passion now. He always proves me wrong and for the sake of my love, I admit every time. I am just totally confused. I have planned my whole life with him. How can I get rid of his memories?

i am just scared, i may not lose hIm. .
Actually, after struggling hard, i have got this great boy. .he is different from all others and perfect for me.

All he wants is importance, love, respect and care

If he were so perfect for you, you two would not have been arguing all the time.
Leave him alone, this is what he wants now. You take this time to work on yourself. All this arguing and breaking up in a 7 month relationship, is a sign that it is not working.

i have called him more than 20 times today and even have sent many lovely n apologizing texts. He didn't respond to any of them. Every time he does like this but now i have got tired. .i dont have that energy n passion now. He always proves me wrong and for the sake of my love, i admit everytime. I am just totally confused. I have planned my whole life with him. How can i get rid of his memories?

Girl, calling someone 20 times a day is obsessive. That is just crazy and he is probably thinking "I'm glad I'm done with this" Take the advice given here. Go out do things, learn to be happy with yourself as is sounds like you're not. Stop obsessing over this guy. This is sounding creepy.

Originally Posted by mehak ali
I have called him more than 20 times today and even have sent many lovely n apologizing texts. He didn't respond to any of them.

And that shows your love?? No that's shows desperation, and being out of control!

One m0nth back, I called him 100 times in 48 hours n 50 plus texts. He didn't respond to any of them.
I was not like this before. He made me change totally.

When I reply him late, he gets angry... How then he expects that I won't ?
He will make me physco soon. I am obsessed over this guy.

You need to go talk to someone, a therapist or something. This is way crazy. No wonder her does not respond to you. Are you this obsessive about other things in your life?
You need to leave this guy alone before he brings stalking charges up on you.
He's not making you psycho. You are doing this to yourself. Get some help.

I am this way just for this guy who just treats me like a crap

Then why do you want him back? This is crazy.

First you say he is a loving guy and is perfect for you, now you say he treats you like crap. You guys argued all the time broke up several times. This relationship was not working anyway. Get a life and leave him alone.
Do you work, have friends? Get busy doing things. Talk to a professional about this obsession you have. It is not normal or healthy.

I want him back because I love him

I am just done with my 12th grade. I am home all day. Get bore all the time. Tired of internet and TV. I left many of my friends because of him.

You need help.
Get yourself a job and some friends. You are obsessed with this guy and the relationship was dysfunctional.
You are not in love you are obsessed. There is a difference. This is not even rational.
I think you are bored and seriously need something to occupy your time and life and this guy is not the one.
Get some help.

i am just done with my 12th grade. I am home all day. Get bore all the time. Tired of internet and tv. I left many of my friends because of him.

Employment is also an option.

What if he comes back to me?

Hope you behave better or he will run away for good. Until that happens leave him alone!

OK thanks

what if he comes back to me?
I doubt that will happen unless it's for a booty call. But think about it, why would he come back? Ou guys fought all the time.
If you have any sense you will tell him to get lost.

Booty call? Didn't get you

I want to change him. Can you please suggest me how?
I can't leave him. He is the only one I am attatched to and spend time with.

i want to change him. Can you please suggest me how?
I can't leave him. He is the only one i am attatched to and spend time with.


You can't make anyone do anything and that includes loving you.

Well, if you can't leave him brace yourself for a lifetime of abuse, abuse which will only get worse as time goes on.

How do I test him whether he truly loves me or just playing with me and cheating on me?

one m0nth back, i called him 100 times in 48 hours n 50 plus texts. He didnt respond to any of them.
I was not like this before. He made me change totally.

when i reply him late, he gets angry... How then he expects that i wont ?
He will make me physco soon. I am obsessed over this guy.


I think you are already psycho. I don't know how long it took him to figure out you are an obsessive pest. I think I figured it out in three minutes.

Why are you so desperate?

I'm amazed that your parents haven't taken away your cell phone OR that he hasn't called the Police.

I'm sure he and his friends are laughing at your messages - and that includes a girlfriend if he's met someone.

booty call? Didnt get you

He would come back for sex.

i want to change him. Can you please suggest me how?
I can't leave him. He is the only one i am attatched to and spend time with.

You can't change a person. If you have to change them to be with them they are not the person for you.
You need a life. Get yourself a job or take some classes but leave this boy alone.

I am just afraid of losing someone I care. I know I am wrong but its difficult for me to get back.
I am sure, even trust blindly that he doesnot share my stuff with his friends

i am just afraid of losing someone i care. I know i am wrong but its difficult for me to get back.
I am sure, even trust blindly that he doesnot share my stuff with his friends


I know you're "sure" of things and so far all of your assumptions appear to have been wrong.

This isn't a blog. It's a Q and A site. You aren't listening, and I find the thread pointless.

I am listening to it and absorbing in my mind

how do i test him whether he truly loves me or just playing with me and cheating on me?
He has left you and won't answer your calls. How much proof do you need? If he is cheating on you, why would you want him back?
You have problems girl and I think this boy knows it. Get some help before he decides to press stalking charges against you.

Sure. Thanks