We have been in love for many years since 1995 broke up in 2010. We both moved on with our lives but ended up together. But now I seem to have lost the interest for I'm having so much fun with the other guy. But I would love to be with the father of my kids and be happy again but I can't feel him ever in bed. Help.

You can be good parents and friends without being romantic partners. Make a choice,and stick by it.

He promises to kill me himself and the kids if we ever leave and I have expirienced his true meaning to it now afraid to leave him that is why I humble ask if I can make some meaning into having the feelings back?

If you fear him then you need the correct help getting and keeping him from your life. Officials both social services, cops and especially family and friends.

That's blackmail, not love and threats make him dangerous. Protect yourself, and your kids.

Good luck.