View Full Version : Parents abuse me
Sharbono2013
Aug 17, 2012, 02:10 PM
Im 17 and I used to live with my dad because my mom didn't want me or my sister and walked out on us. My dad physically, emotionally and mentally abused me. I did what I was told but if I didn't do perfect or his way he whipped me with his belt or slammed me against walls by my throat. On fathers day of 2011 he and his girlfriend beat me up, broke my nose, burnt me with cigarretes and threw me on the road. I called 911 and an officer came and got me and my dad was acting like he was my best friend. He is a heavy majiuana user and been doing it since he was 16. I left for Wyoming and stayed with my mom while my sister got emancipated. It was good at first but when we moved back to Montana it all went down hill. I was getting bullied in school and the school wouldn't help me. I couldn't do my own homework because I couldn't get help and mom wouldn't help. We get in fights everyday and I'm about ready to live in my car again. She is psychotic and has attempted suicide a lot. She steals from me. I lock my money in my car and sleep with the keys. She looks me in the eyes and says I wish I never would have had u, I wish I would have gotten an abortion. And she also says I wish I woukd have swollowed you when you were a sperm. It really hurts my feelings and she's always threatening to kick me out because she don't want to have responsibility for me and she threatens to sell MY horses, she says she's guna send me awayto the state and put me in a girls home): I'm tired of it and I want it to stop. Ive tried sticking up for myself but she only get meaner, so I learned to just ignore her, or try anyway. Idk what I have done to be treated like this. I was there slave pretty much. I had chores and I was OK with that but I was more like a maid. Im tired of hurting and I want her to stop. She's a heavy user like my dad to. And she made me a bunch of appointments today for psyciatric help... she lies and says she can't deal with me and I'm unruly. Everything she says is lies, and I hate how everyone believes her and I'm the bad guy. :/ she has mental problems and she needs help and I just want to move in with my boyfriend but he's combining. And I can't stay with his parents and him because there scared if I get hurt my mom will sue them for money. She whipped herself in the face with a chain at 1 of her old jobs and sued and got thousands.. she did that like 5 or 6 times and then she hacked my dads bank account and stole $10,000 and she never gets caught! I need help and I don't know what to do she left just a while ago and she said she was getting papers to drop me out of school! ): I don't want that I'm a senior this year! And she also said she was guna emancipate me.. she can't do that right? From what I've heard and read its to help the child right? She scares me! She puled a gun on me and dad once then put it to her head pulled the trigger but it was my old .22 and it jammed. And everyone thinks I'm the crazy one ): what do I do PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP!
Wondergirl
Aug 17, 2012, 02:24 PM
I moved this to Family Law where you will get more qualified help to deal with your immediate safety needs.
Do you have any out-of-state relatives who will help? How many sibs are there still at home?
JudyKayTee
Aug 17, 2012, 02:32 PM
You need to call Child Protective Services, probably also the Police.
I am confused that you are going through this abuse, are in high school, have money, horses and car. Where did those come from? Do you have title, ownership papers?
You or your boyfriend or his parents could get a protective order against her.
You need to do something, take some action. Do we know what State you are in?
Wondergirl
Aug 17, 2012, 02:34 PM
Do we know what State you are in?
"when we moved back to montana" from Wyoming, so Montana?
Fr_Chuck
Aug 17, 2012, 02:47 PM
I think we are missing a lot of this, many parents by high school can't help their kids with school, that is where teachers and study hall, other friends, tutors and the such come in.
So life has been tough
What I see is a spoiled girl ( whose mom allows to have her own horses) wanting to find an excuse to take off and live with her boyfriend,
May I guess a lot of fights with mom is over boyfriend?
joypulv
Aug 17, 2012, 03:33 PM
I too want to know how you happen to own a car and horses.
You can get good money for the horses if they are really 'yours,' and take 'your' car and go stay elsewhere while you get emancipated, or just run away. Montana does not jail teen runaways.
JudyKayTee
Aug 17, 2012, 03:40 PM
I too want to know how you happen to own a car and horses.
You can get good money for the horses if they are really 'yours,' and take 'your' car and go stay elsewhere while you get emancipated, or just run away. Montana does not jail teen runaways.
I don't want to get hyper here but has anyone checked the IP against other users?
Sharbono2013
Aug 17, 2012, 04:17 PM
Yes I live in Montana. An for those who think I am spoild.. im not. The only nice things I have is my horses which I bought and my name is on there papers and my grandpa bought me the car. It's a 1995 buick lasaber and the front end is out. Yea it isn't the best but its gets me where I want to go. Im not selling my horses because they mean everything to me. I came hear to get advise and help not to be called spoiled OK? And actually my boyfriend has nothing to do with the fights thank you.
JudyKayTee
Aug 17, 2012, 04:32 PM
Yes i live in montana. An for those who think i am spoild..im not. The only nice things i have is my horses which i bought and my name is on there papers and my grandpa bought me the car. Its a 1995 buick lasaber and the front end is out. Yea it aint the best but its gets me where i wana go. Im not selling my horses because they mean everything to me. I came hear to get advise and help not to be called spoiled ok? And actually my boyfriend has nothing to do with the fights thankyou.
How did you afford to pay for the horses? I'm sure you can appreciate that your story of abuse conflicts with your own money, your horses, your car (car insurance is not cheap). Could you live with your Grandfather? That would seem to be an option. I didn't realize you have other family. They must be aware of the abuse you endure. Will they interfere, keep you safe?
Sharbono2013
Aug 17, 2012, 04:35 PM
My gpa is 90.. his names on the title not mine.
Wondergirl
Aug 17, 2012, 04:38 PM
How old are your parents?
Sharbono2013
Aug 17, 2012, 04:40 PM
How old are your parents?
Moms 47 dads 50
JudyKayTee
Aug 17, 2012, 04:41 PM
Moms 47 dads 50
I noticed you skipped over my questions.
Where is your Grandfather in this? He gave you a car but hasn't gotten involved in the abuse?
joypulv
Aug 17, 2012, 05:50 PM
You won't say how you happen to own horses, plural. You won't trade them for freedom from abuse. Ergo, the abuse isn't as bad as you make it sound. There are kids in this world who would cut off an arm to get away from abuse. You have choices, and you have made some. You are not a captive.
Sharbono2013
Aug 17, 2012, 07:16 PM
I noticed you skipped over my questions.
Where is your Grandfather in this? He gave you a car but hasn't gotten
involved in the abuse?
He don't want to get involved he's 90. And I bought the horses with my 4-h steer money.
Sharbono2013
Aug 17, 2012, 07:18 PM
You won't say how you happen to own horses, plural. You won't trade them for freedom from abuse. Ergo, the abuse isn't as bad as you make it sound. There are kids in this world who would cut off an arm to get away from abuse. You have choices, and you have made some. You are not a captive.
Ive ran away many times and the police always bring me back
Wondergirl
Aug 17, 2012, 07:26 PM
Have you told the police why you ran away? (Why did you?)
Sharbono2013
Aug 17, 2012, 07:34 PM
Have you told the police why you ran away? (Why did you?)
Yes I've told them. My dad beat me and my mom stood and watched. Hiw would you feel if your mom looked you right in the eyes and said you were the biggest mistake? Hmm?
Wondergirl
Aug 17, 2012, 07:35 PM
Yes ive told them. My dad beat me and my mom stood and watched. Hiw would u feel if ur mom looked u right in the eyes and said u were the biggest mistake? Hmm?
And the police just took you home again each time?
Sharbono2013
Aug 17, 2012, 07:40 PM
And the police just took you home again each time?
Yes and I tried pressing charges and they won't do !
Wondergirl
Aug 17, 2012, 07:43 PM
Why not?
Wondergirl
Aug 17, 2012, 07:52 PM
It's time to make a call --
To report a possible case of child abuse or neglect, call toll-free (Montana) 1 (866) 820-5437.
Fr_Chuck
Aug 17, 2012, 07:58 PM
Obviously there were not bruises and marks, or the police would do something.
JudyKayTee
Aug 17, 2012, 08:00 PM
He dont wana get involved hes 90. And i bought the horses with my 4-h steer money.
You're being abused and running away and your Grandfather's reaction is to buy you a car?
Problems with the whole story.
joypulv
Aug 18, 2012, 01:48 AM
I'm going to backtrack. (Did a response to me get deleted, because I don't see profanity directed at me?)
You do act like a teen who has had a lot handed to you, and you have a typical teen attitude that something like valuable horses that YOU bought with YOUR 4H money are all yours, when you never would have earned that money were it not for a lot of help. Help you say you never got. Steers? What steers? Your parents smoked weed while you ran a farm? You are leaping right over a lot of basic questions, and your sense of entitlement shines through when you say you never got help with homework. I was a straight A student and never got one shred of help from parents, and so were a lot of other people.
On the other hand it does appear that you grew up in a loveless and extra disfunctional home. You are fighting mad at your parents and the world out of hurt, you get bullied in school (why? I assume you are as belligerent there as here?) and you want advice here but won't take any that you don't want to hear. Gee, I said LEAVE that house and you won't! Why, I'll bet it's because you don't want to give up what you have, and it's not just horses. (PS: not only did the steers cost so that you could buy horses, but keeping horses ain't cheap and who pays for that?)
And I have a feeling you weren't 17 the last time the police brought you home.
So you have a rotten family as many of us do or did, and we can't do anything about them. But you won't do anything about yourself to get out of there.
JudyKayTee
Aug 18, 2012, 06:43 AM
I'm going to backtrack. (Did a response to me get deleted, because I don't see profanity directed at me?)
You do act like a teen who has had a lot handed to you, and you have a typical teen attitude that something like valuable horses that YOU bought with YOUR 4H money are all yours, when you never would have earned that money were it not for a lot of help. Help you say you never got. Steers? What steers? Your parents smoked weed while you ran a farm? You are leaping right over a lot of basic questions, and your sense of entitlement shines through when you say you never got help with homework. I was a straight A student and never got one shred of help from parents, and so were a lot of other people.
On the other hand it does appear that you grew up in a loveless and extra disfunctional home. You are fighting mad at your parents and the world out of hurt, you get bullied in school (why? I assume you are as belligerent there as here?) and you want advice here but won't take any that you don't want to hear. Gee, I said LEAVE that house and you won't! Why, I'll bet it's because you don't want to give up what you have, and it's not just horses. (PS: not only did the steers cost so that you could buy horses, but keeping horses ain't cheap and who pays for that?)
And I have a feeling you weren't 17 the last time the police brought you home.
So you have a rotten family as many of us do or did, and we can't do anything about them. But you won't do anything about yourself to get out of there.
Yes, the post was removed.
And I'm still waiting to see why family members haven't stepped in.