Np038318
Aug 15, 2012, 04:31 PM
I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months--our relationship has been flawless. We never fight--just the occasional argument, or being annoyed with each other, but never any major problems. I get along with his family great, his mom wants us to get married, and his friends like me too.
The past three days he's been acting strange, unaffectionate as compared to usual. I wrote it off as nothing because I'm on my period and I can be emotional. I went to his house today and he was still being strange so I asked if he was happy? That's when he said we need to talk. He told me he was in love with me, that I'm beautiful and wonderful and I have been the best girlfriend he's ever had, (which he should think, because I've been absolutely perfect, and I really try to be that way). But he says, the reason he wants to break up is because the depth of which I am in love with him is much deeper than what he feels for me. He says I deserve someone better and it's not fair to me to stay in a relationship where I love him more than he does me.
I had no idea that he felt this way, and in my eyes he treats me wonderfully. He just says something isn't there for him. A missing piece. He cried so much during the breakup, more than me almost. By the end he was saying, I wish I could undo it and just grab you and kiss you and hold you. The he said he wanted to just take a break for a few days and he'll decide what to do. He says it was hurting him lots more than he thought and he does still love me and doesn't want to do something he's going to regret.
I know he's being truthful as to why, I just don't understand why he would be so drastic. Do I try and talk to him, tell him I'm hurt, or just have no contact? My friend went through a similar situation come to find out where she was in my boyfriend's position. She decided to stick out the phase and now, 1 year later they're still together and she says she now loves him more!
I want to tell my boyfriend these things so he's not only taking advice from his friends. I don't know what to do or how to act. Of course I want him back, but I want to know what's the best thing for me to do no matter what the outcome of the situation will be.
The past three days he's been acting strange, unaffectionate as compared to usual. I wrote it off as nothing because I'm on my period and I can be emotional. I went to his house today and he was still being strange so I asked if he was happy? That's when he said we need to talk. He told me he was in love with me, that I'm beautiful and wonderful and I have been the best girlfriend he's ever had, (which he should think, because I've been absolutely perfect, and I really try to be that way). But he says, the reason he wants to break up is because the depth of which I am in love with him is much deeper than what he feels for me. He says I deserve someone better and it's not fair to me to stay in a relationship where I love him more than he does me.
I had no idea that he felt this way, and in my eyes he treats me wonderfully. He just says something isn't there for him. A missing piece. He cried so much during the breakup, more than me almost. By the end he was saying, I wish I could undo it and just grab you and kiss you and hold you. The he said he wanted to just take a break for a few days and he'll decide what to do. He says it was hurting him lots more than he thought and he does still love me and doesn't want to do something he's going to regret.
I know he's being truthful as to why, I just don't understand why he would be so drastic. Do I try and talk to him, tell him I'm hurt, or just have no contact? My friend went through a similar situation come to find out where she was in my boyfriend's position. She decided to stick out the phase and now, 1 year later they're still together and she says she now loves him more!
I want to tell my boyfriend these things so he's not only taking advice from his friends. I don't know what to do or how to act. Of course I want him back, but I want to know what's the best thing for me to do no matter what the outcome of the situation will be.