Nikki803
Aug 14, 2012, 09:16 AM
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months. Its pretty serious. I am 24 and he just turned 29. He has already been married/divorced (when he was 19) and also has two boys 9 and 10. He got out of an 8 month relationship 3 ½ months prior to us getting together. We make each other laugh, and it's joy to be around each other. He is a good man. A little jaded. When we first met, we were together all time. Inseparable.
Now, I understand the beginning is the “cupcake phase“, as we call it. But we have went to seeing each other all time to seeing each other once a week. Don't you think that's a big gap? We talked about spending less time together, because everyday was a bit much. I understand that we need our own personal time/space, but once/twice a week? When we aren't together, we communicate everyday, all the time. The communication is there.
About a month ago his family (that reside in the state we live in) had a get together because another one of his family members were coming into town. He didn't invite me. Now, I have met his family. I have even traveled 5 hours away to another state to meet his family. (He is not originally from the state we reside in now.) And he has also met my family. But why wouldn't he invite me. But I didn't say anything. The weekend after that they had another get together, and once again, he didn't invite me. So I asked him, babe why didn't you invite me? I asked to see if it was a specific reason why. He replies and says “babe something's you're aren't going to be included in”! WHAT? I am confused. Why would he say something like this to me? I would want him to be with me, because we are a couple. Am I wrong?
Well last night, I think what he said put the icing on the cake. We were on the phone laughing and joking. And he says “dang, one of my friends are in town” and my response was “who”! Not to pry or anything, but that would be anybody's response. I asked who and he said “huh“. I asked again and he said “huh“? Then he says “babe remember we talked about you're not going to be included in everything”. That really upset me. So I just told him to have a good night and hung up the phone. He hasn't tried calling or anything. So I called him this morning to tell him that we have to talk in person. I honestly don't think he is ready to be in a serious relationship with me.
Can anyone give me any advice?
Now, I understand the beginning is the “cupcake phase“, as we call it. But we have went to seeing each other all time to seeing each other once a week. Don't you think that's a big gap? We talked about spending less time together, because everyday was a bit much. I understand that we need our own personal time/space, but once/twice a week? When we aren't together, we communicate everyday, all the time. The communication is there.
About a month ago his family (that reside in the state we live in) had a get together because another one of his family members were coming into town. He didn't invite me. Now, I have met his family. I have even traveled 5 hours away to another state to meet his family. (He is not originally from the state we reside in now.) And he has also met my family. But why wouldn't he invite me. But I didn't say anything. The weekend after that they had another get together, and once again, he didn't invite me. So I asked him, babe why didn't you invite me? I asked to see if it was a specific reason why. He replies and says “babe something's you're aren't going to be included in”! WHAT? I am confused. Why would he say something like this to me? I would want him to be with me, because we are a couple. Am I wrong?
Well last night, I think what he said put the icing on the cake. We were on the phone laughing and joking. And he says “dang, one of my friends are in town” and my response was “who”! Not to pry or anything, but that would be anybody's response. I asked who and he said “huh“. I asked again and he said “huh“? Then he says “babe remember we talked about you're not going to be included in everything”. That really upset me. So I just told him to have a good night and hung up the phone. He hasn't tried calling or anything. So I called him this morning to tell him that we have to talk in person. I honestly don't think he is ready to be in a serious relationship with me.
Can anyone give me any advice?