EastEndOpera
Aug 13, 2012, 10:45 PM
A little over a month ago my boyfriend of over a year received news his mother was very ill in hospital (fully recovered now). During this time, he told me he cared about me quite a bit (his words) and appreciated my staying with him when he got the news (we'd more or less kept things casual & light - but monogamous). I told him I'd fallen for him and he said he reciprocated sans the syrupy clichés, which frankly suit neither of us. Since then, he's had increasing unfavorable change at work (no more chance for growth in his current position & the company was purchased by a larger corporation) and is trying to get his personal business off the ground (it was in it's infancy when we met). Since the day he received the news about his mother (with whom he has a troubled relationship) - she is fully recovered now, we haven't been intimate. He has been testier than usual, but promptly apologizes. Thus is a man that prefers to handle everything on his own. So, I've just stopped by several days a week after work to see him & keep him company. It's all I can do, besides assuring him he's a good man and telling him that I know he can handle anything on his own (but, that I'm there for him should he need anything).
My concern in all of this is that I feel the passion has left his embrace & kiss. Often, when I catch his eyes, he looks at me with disdain. Or, acts like I'm ignorant when I don't understand some aspect (usually related to his work) of his conversation and ask for clarification. I have not exercised in several months (3), and I've put on more weight (about 6 lbs) while losing tone. So, maybe his loss of interest and his pulling away is a combination of all of these things. I don't know and, while I've questioned him about his testiness (which he said was due to the hard past few months), I'd feel like a narcissistic jerk bringing up the attraction bit. Any clarification anybody can offer would be greatly appreciated.
My concern in all of this is that I feel the passion has left his embrace & kiss. Often, when I catch his eyes, he looks at me with disdain. Or, acts like I'm ignorant when I don't understand some aspect (usually related to his work) of his conversation and ask for clarification. I have not exercised in several months (3), and I've put on more weight (about 6 lbs) while losing tone. So, maybe his loss of interest and his pulling away is a combination of all of these things. I don't know and, while I've questioned him about his testiness (which he said was due to the hard past few months), I'd feel like a narcissistic jerk bringing up the attraction bit. Any clarification anybody can offer would be greatly appreciated.