Krissyboy
Aug 13, 2012, 07:20 PM
Ok here the low down.
My ex and I where together for 3 month ( I know not very long) I'm 25 she is 23.
When we first got together everything was amazing I mean really strong when have loads in common, enjoy eachothers company and generally get on great!
I have a few insecurity issue but we wa dealing with them, she also had quite a few male friends which never helped my insecurities and I was never backwards in coming forwards shall we say and I let her know it made me uneasy.
Anyway everything was going fine a few minor arguments but nothing major.. She wrote me a letter about 6 or 7 weeks ago saying how she wants to spend the rest of her life with me and how she didn't know what love was until we met she had a argument with her mum and decided to move into my place to cool off she was there for a while and then lost her job
Things then started to turn bad she wasn't close to me anymore and was very moody, I think maybe I tried to hard when she lost her job to make her happpy.
Anyway she decided to move back to her parents house saying we were living in each other pockets and she wanted space but we were absolutley fine...
When she moved home we were texting loads and still meeting up and she would still stay once or twice a week.. she then said she wasn't getting the space because we were always texting... anyhow 3 weeks ago we went to her brothers wedding things were OK but not great, had a nice day and I got a little drunk and we had a row when we got back to our hotel, the next day she didn't talk to me all the way home, she dropped me at my door and went to her house, the next morning I receive a text message saying.. its over I don't love you anymore I need time for me to focus on getting a job and sorting my head out (she is also seeing a shrink about a incident that she went through a few years back)
We were still in contact I was pleading her to come back and she wouldn't budge, I took her out for her birthday at the beginning of this moth and we had a nice chat and sorted a few things, she said she is 50/50 anout us and wants to see how it goes with us and get a job before she considers us getting back together and she doesn't want any other man atall just wants her time. She also said I pushed her away with being insecure and question her male friends.
She asked me to totally leave her alone until she knows what it is she wants, I have not been able to do this as she is the 1 for me and I can't watch her slipp away! She says there may be a chance for us but she isn't sure,
Today she found out she has just been successful in getting a job... so basically my question is how long should I give it before I bring up getting back together now she has a job? And do you think I can still win her back although I haven't yet given her space? I really don't know what to say to her about stuff and I keep repeating myself...
Please someone help!
My ex and I where together for 3 month ( I know not very long) I'm 25 she is 23.
When we first got together everything was amazing I mean really strong when have loads in common, enjoy eachothers company and generally get on great!
I have a few insecurity issue but we wa dealing with them, she also had quite a few male friends which never helped my insecurities and I was never backwards in coming forwards shall we say and I let her know it made me uneasy.
Anyway everything was going fine a few minor arguments but nothing major.. She wrote me a letter about 6 or 7 weeks ago saying how she wants to spend the rest of her life with me and how she didn't know what love was until we met she had a argument with her mum and decided to move into my place to cool off she was there for a while and then lost her job
Things then started to turn bad she wasn't close to me anymore and was very moody, I think maybe I tried to hard when she lost her job to make her happpy.
Anyway she decided to move back to her parents house saying we were living in each other pockets and she wanted space but we were absolutley fine...
When she moved home we were texting loads and still meeting up and she would still stay once or twice a week.. she then said she wasn't getting the space because we were always texting... anyhow 3 weeks ago we went to her brothers wedding things were OK but not great, had a nice day and I got a little drunk and we had a row when we got back to our hotel, the next day she didn't talk to me all the way home, she dropped me at my door and went to her house, the next morning I receive a text message saying.. its over I don't love you anymore I need time for me to focus on getting a job and sorting my head out (she is also seeing a shrink about a incident that she went through a few years back)
We were still in contact I was pleading her to come back and she wouldn't budge, I took her out for her birthday at the beginning of this moth and we had a nice chat and sorted a few things, she said she is 50/50 anout us and wants to see how it goes with us and get a job before she considers us getting back together and she doesn't want any other man atall just wants her time. She also said I pushed her away with being insecure and question her male friends.
She asked me to totally leave her alone until she knows what it is she wants, I have not been able to do this as she is the 1 for me and I can't watch her slipp away! She says there may be a chance for us but she isn't sure,
Today she found out she has just been successful in getting a job... so basically my question is how long should I give it before I bring up getting back together now she has a job? And do you think I can still win her back although I haven't yet given her space? I really don't know what to say to her about stuff and I keep repeating myself...
Please someone help!