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MarieBrooks20
Aug 13, 2012, 10:13 AM
My ex boyfriend for some reason is always in my head! It's sooo annoying, I can't stand it. I don't want him back. We have both moved on with our lives and relationship wise but our relationship together was horrible. He was an emotional, crazy pathetic boy and I turned into a liar and a cheater afterawhile. When I first met him, I thought I could handle his drama but it was waaay too much and me being only 19 I did the best I could as far as trying to be understanding and trying to be there for him. Our relationship only lasted for three months. Sad I know. Afterawhile, I go sick of it and tried to get out of the relationship but he didn't want me to go and told me to stop being a quitter. He was driving me insane! This is a 22 year old man we're talking about and he's more emotional than I am and he was insecure. I didn't have time for that. It's a long story. We broke up, I got with someone else who I have known for a while and I tried to be friends with my ex but he kept wanting to be with me and he knew I had a boyfriend, and he would do stuff like try to kiss me and annoying crap like that. It even got to a point where I had to change my phone number because he would call or text me and start drama and get mad and say "well since you don't want to talk to me, I'll leave you alone." and I said okay, good! Two days later, who's texting me? It's crazy. Finally last month was when I had enough. I'm going to be honest, I missed being able to laugh and be silly with him so on Oovoo I saw he was online so I decided to say hey and it turned from that, to us talking about his father (which he told me he died then said he's still alive? ) to his new girlfriend calling me the B word, (mind you, I do not know this girl) and him calling me out and telling all my business from the relationship. I was blown away! First, I know he was just showing off, two, I'm thinking why is your girlfriend fighting your battles for you? three, she's saying they're in love and crap when I know they haven't been together that long. That evening was just full of drama so I had enough. I'm admitting, I was wrong for what I did to him in that relationship. Period, and also I should have just left him alone and not try to be friends with him. My point is, even after a month that that drama happened, I'm still thinking about him! I don't know why. It's not like happy thoughts, it's annoying thoughts! Anything I say, do or think about somehow it reminds me of him and it's driving me crazy. I know this was long but how can I stop? I tried ignoring the thoughts but it's not working for long.

Zeshawn
Aug 18, 2012, 01:08 AM
It won't be surprising if you're frustrated with a close friend or partner who's far less ambitious than you Or You didn't notice His Love for You or even you didn't even think that how much he means to you. There was some sort of careless in you. I think you are Careless and think about Yourself only. Dear, Love needs sacrifice. If you truly love You must need to make understanding between you both. There are lot more dynamic ways to reach what you want. If you know he didn't have relation with anyone then make sure he is just showing love. He wants you to come back to his life. He truly loves you if he is not in relation with anyone else. In Love people bend their knees and heads to their lovers. If you are true God Almighty will help you in putting your love in his heart for you. If you turned back to him on this thought that he will be happy with another girl it means there is jealousy in you and that proves your love for him. I have been in a relation with a girl from 9 years and you know what she act to me as you did to your boyfriend. What happened? Nothing... huh! Am thinking about her every time and she is happy without me. Love means Sacrifice. I 'll be not faithful to her I 'll love my girlfriend till my death and God knows I didn't did anything wrong to her... I Hope one day she 'll be back to me. Her Arrogance will break when she 'll realise that I was right when I told her Please wait for me that I shd get a good Job then we will be happy. You know what I love her a lot that She start conversation with me abusing me But I didn't say a word just because I love her and I know she is not a wrong Girl. I think she was doing that for departure and for giving me space for my success. Sacrifice is everything Love needs Sacrifice. Lesson to his words lesson to depth of his love. GO to him and Make apologise and excuse for what you did to him. And Made a Pervent Promise to each other that You 'll not hurt each other. You 'll try to keep Love Happy. What he wants will be respectful for you and what you wish will be his target and aim to full fill. People have to do things in ways that are best for them. Try to be patient. Much Much Love to you all and prayers... Remember me in your prayers.
SAD ZEESHAN.

joypulv
Aug 18, 2012, 02:10 AM
You are all over the map with this. You were online and there he was, and you just decided to say hi, after all that stuff about having to change your number? Come ON!
You aren't really letting go. You said yourself you miss some of the fun you had.
So... you are part of this, maybe not as much as he is, but you enjoy just enough of him to not be able to totally let go, both in terms of contact and of thinking about him.

There's probably also a touch of need to have something to be annoyed about in you that 'uses' him to be annoyed about. It could be anything, anybody. I tend to do that myself. You are feeling out of sorts or you stubbed your toe or broke a dish and you start thinking about someone who bothers you.