I am really in need a girlfriend. I've had others, but its so hard to get someone I think is hot to like me. I'm 11. Someone get back to me. Don't SAY I'M TOO YOUNG CAUSE I'M NOT!!

Just be yourself young guy, and talk to one of your choice. Either she likes you or she doesn't, either she will be your girl friend, or she won't. Why do you NEED a girlfriend?

First of all if you aren't to young then you shouldn't have chosen child as your category

Yes you are far too young. For an 11 yr old to think that girls are "hot" is frightening.

I have to wonder what you think is a girlfriend at your age?

At 11, sorry no 11 year old girls are "hot" most 11 year old boys are not having that sort of sexual response toward girls yet.

Next you may have a girl and who is a friend and you hang out. I guess in a 11 year old way you can consider it a girl friend, But it is not a real dating situation.

It is far too young to be getting into a serious type relationship

First of all if you arent to young then you shouldnt have chosen child as your catagory

To be fair this question was moved for age appropriate advice.

To be fair this question was moved for age appropriate advice.

Where did he originally post it?

Relationships or Dating, and not being a teen, those ages end up in children. Then there is no doubt about the language, or approach.

Okay, take it from me, I'm a girl, I'm eleven, if you want a girlfriend that bad, then find a girl you like, or think is hot, and make sure she likes you back, then you ask her out, Seriously, you don't need a girl friend, you will be the gossip topic of the school. But if you have had girlfriends in the past, shouldn't you know how to get one?


At 11, sorry no 11 year old girls are "hot" most 11 year old boys are not having that sort of sexual response toward girls yet.

Next you may have a girl and who is a friend and you hang out. I guess in a 11 year old way you can consider it a girl friend, But it is not a real dating situation.

It is far too young to be getting into a serious type relationship

Actually, some are, I don't want to go into details. Many girls are "hot" right now, as they are through adulthood.

Oh YES you are too young to be concerned with this!

Actually, some are, I don't want to go into details. Many girls are "hot" right now, as they are through adulthood.

Don't leave us hanging - this is a Q and A board.

What makes an 11 year old "hot" (which, of course, is a sexual term)?

Ask her out? Do it yourself, since you think your old enough then go for it. Don't ask Me for help. :)

What makes an 11 year old "hot" (which, of course, is a sexual term)?

Being stuck in a house with no AC and it's 100 degrees outside ;). Otherwise, an 11 year can be pretty and the OP can like her.

This day and age scares me to death. Things have changed so much from when I was a child of that age. I thought about football, basketball and track. I went water skiing in the summer time and ran around with my friends. Things changed when High school hit and THEN I found myself asking girls out which meant holding hands, going to school dances together. I was lucky if my parents allowed me to take a girl to a movie and even then it was chaperoned.

You don't "have" to have a girlfriend OP. If you like a specific girl, ask her if she'll be your girlfriend otherwise, enjoy being a kid. Don't be in such a rush to grow up because your childhood won't last forever.

Stepping off my soap box now.

Stepping off my soap box now.

You aren't alone on that soapbox. I've spoken many times about how the media is encouraging children to grow up too fast. Children see movies and TV shows glorifying male female relationships at various ages. So if the media is glorifying it, then it is something they should aspire to. Never mind that that aren't emotionally prepared for it, never mind that thinking of a guy or girl as "hot" at 11 is leaves little room but to become sexual at a young age.

Shouldn't you wait for puberty to do its thing a bit more first? My son is your age and he is perfectly fine just worrying about himself right now. He knows that there will be plenty of time to find a girl and form a relationship when he gets older. He's not interested in rushing it.
I can tell you one thing, when you refer to girls as hot the way you do, than you are very immature. And if your intention is simply to have a girl because she is hot, than you have a lot of learning to do. Looks are not a good reason to base a relationship on and someday, if you pursue this, you will find out the hard way, it may not be right away, hell it may be 20 years from now or more, but you will find out and you will be severely disapointed- to put it lightly.
Focus on you growing into a person who is worth being with, and let time do its thing. I guarantee you will find a girl when the itme is right, and she'll like you for YOU not because your "hot".