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wigsdabomb23
Aug 11, 2012, 07:35 PM
So, a little background. I'm a 26 year old male who met a college senior (girl) who I worked with. She initially showed a lot of interest in me which I reciprocated. She was very flirtatious and become very visible flustered and red whenver we spoke. Sometimes she would be unable to speak and couldn't make eye contact which she said never happened. She also would try and find out if I had a girlfriend which I always played down. She had asked me to review her resume and we began emailing one another. I asked for her number one day and we went out 2-3 times. By all accounts the dates went well. We had text back and forth and she had mentioned that she was very interested in me but never would have approached me unless I made the first move. She also stated that she wanted to continue talking when she returned to school in the fall and would be coming home several times a month (she was done working at the same company). Things seemed to be going well. The next week she was going out of town to visit family. The night before she left, she asked to hang out and we went to dinner and came back to my place to watch a movie. As she was leaving she said that we would remain in contact while she was gone. She sent me a message that night letting me know she made it home which I did not respond to because I fell asleep. The next evening I sent her a casual text to make sure she made it to where she was flying to but kept it very brief. She responded and we text back and forth a few times before I mentioned I did not want to keep her but just wanted to say hi. She did not respond and I then did not hear from her the rest of the trip nor did I contact her. Upon her return, the next day I sent her another message asking her how the trip was but got no response. I'm confused as to what happened? I don't believe I did anything to cause this shift in behavior. Should I wait and see what happens?

Fr_Chuck
Aug 11, 2012, 07:49 PM
What ever happened about using that silly text device to perhaps CALL her,
Why do people live their dating lives texting each other, in a phone call you hear words, can tell emotion.

So use those silly little keys for numbers instead of letters and call her

Enigma1999
Aug 11, 2012, 07:55 PM
See this is why I hate texting!

Things can be easily misconstrued. Then there is the "why isn't she/he responding? Did I do something wrong? Is she/he not interested?" Things of that sort.

Pick up the phone and call her. Really... Tone of voice is very important. Well to me anyway...

Homegirl 50
Aug 12, 2012, 07:47 AM
Call her and find out. Texting is so teenage. You're an adult. Converse verbally!

wigsdabomb23
Aug 12, 2012, 01:48 PM
I guess I'm looking for some help on how to start that conversation? I'm guessing I just completely ignore that we haven't spoken and be very casual?

Wondergirl
Aug 12, 2012, 02:17 PM
"Hi, this is wigs! How are you doing?"

Enigma1999
Aug 12, 2012, 03:56 PM
"Hi, this is wigs! How are you doing?"

Couldn't have said it better!

here2assist
Aug 13, 2012, 05:19 PM
Just call. People read into the content and frequency of text messages way too often. It's not an indicator or a gauge of your relationship. I'm glad the new guy I'm seeing picks up the phone. Texting is great for quick messages but conversations warrant a phone call. My last relationship I went down that stupid, ridiculous path of questioning why he didn't respond after a certain period or what did he mean by this message etc.