View Full Version : How do I move on?
ahliya
Aug 11, 2012, 05:51 AM
Guys please give me advice on moving on. Please I don't want to think about my boyfriend at all. He has moved on. He has other relations, but why do I still care? It has been long we broke up, but I still cry, and don't want to.
Please help. Sincerely I am lost. I'm only 16.
talaniman
Aug 11, 2012, 12:20 PM
I don't know how long its been but you must first give yourself the proper time to mourn and heal from the death of this relationship, and tell your friends you want no news of him and do not seek news of him from the Internet or any other source and in time after following strict NO CONTACT you will eventually be able to move on as you rebuild, and regroup.
If this is your first real relationship, then being heart broken is really a hard thing to go through. Read these stickies for some great suggestions on coping with a break up.
Relationships - Ask Me Help Desk (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/)
ahliya
Aug 11, 2012, 01:06 PM
Thankx 4 responding:)
I have got no contact with that boy
Not at all but as he's my cousin I c him many tyms and when I c him I wnder oh god he has moved on so much he is alwys onn his phne and have chats with many girls but y am I carng and woryng about all dis:'(
Please help me dear:'(
I am vry young
I try mving on so much but he ends on my mind
Like whtever I do its like he's always on mind I just don't know what to do anymore:'(
talaniman
Aug 11, 2012, 03:01 PM
There is nothing to do but live your own life and be happy. We seldom forget whowe give our hearts too, but it just stops hurting after a while. Relax, seeing him a lot just keeps stirring feelings and memories, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing.
Your wounds are fresh that's all, but soon they won't be.
ahliya
Aug 11, 2012, 03:15 PM
Its really very easy saying that just forget everythng and move on
Ya I have tried billions of times bt I am failng evryway
U won't blv but you he doesn't even tak a second to thnk about me
I just don't know what to do
Its killing me deep inside I am dead
I don't want to thnk about him:'(
He's so hapy den why nt mih
He has mny relations bbut I don want to care:'(
Help me out please
Whtever he does wherever wnever I here his name I just want to know what hap why did thy say his name whts the stry behnd it
I don't want to do this
I ll kill myself :'(
talaniman
Aug 11, 2012, 03:31 PM
Did you even read the stickies at all? There are no easy ways to get over some one. Older people have done this for centuries and moved beyond the hurt of the first heart break with TIME. No one ever said it would be easy, as we all know it's the hardest thing you have ever done.
For our own good you have to go through this growing pain and be stronger and wiser for it. Now go cry on your friends shoulder and let them support you with their sympathy, and empathy. Hurts I know, but it will get better.
ahliya
Aug 11, 2012, 03:33 PM
Thrs no way m going to shw anyone my feelng here OK anyway thank you tc
talaniman
Aug 11, 2012, 03:43 PM
Break ups are a great time to have that one good trusted friend. I agree not everyone should know how hurt you are over this.
ahliya
Aug 11, 2012, 03:45 PM
I hardly trust anyone so I don't share anythng with anyone
I prtend that I just don't care about that boy
But you know my stry:'(
talaniman
Aug 11, 2012, 03:59 PM
I think I pretty much did the same way back in the good old days. Wasn't always as easy as I made it look. But it always got better.
ahliya
Aug 11, 2012, 04:03 PM
I read the stickies but you?
U wher some day in this situation hw did you rrecover? I mean I want to be as hapy as you are
Are you sre I will get over. Him
I wan to be happy
I just 4got hw does it feel to be happy anymore
What did you do?
talaniman
Aug 11, 2012, 04:27 PM
That chat/text is hard to understand and not allowed, but yes you will recover. I AM VERY SURE. Just be cool, calm, collected, AND in control of yourself. Always have a positive attitude about yourself.
This is but a passing storm on your journey through life.
LOLlover
Aug 11, 2012, 07:32 PM
Maybe to get over him you could start a new hobby one that you can do with friends to keep you busy and not wondering about him,also you could start new relations with new people
ahliya
Aug 12, 2012, 01:05 AM
I want to bcome like before fast
I am nly 16
Y is he hapy den :'(
talaniman
Aug 12, 2012, 09:07 AM
You better realize there is no FAST way to heal from a break up!
ahliya
Aug 12, 2012, 09:11 AM
Oright
But keep it on mind anythng Is possible and I trust god
Anyway good day thanks
guy4enjoy
Aug 13, 2012, 10:10 AM
Hi ahliya,
16 is not an right age to loving any one.. this is just an fatal attraction.. you have wait for at least one or 2 years.. I hope most of boys follow and propsed you.. because still you have age... please think...