My family ESPECIALLY MY FATASS BROTHER treats me like a slave and blame me for doing stuff I don't do.

First of all my bro makes me get everything, do all the chores and its so annoying. If I don't do what he says he just freaking punches me in the face. I feel like my PARENTS don't care if I get beaten up anymore. BECAUSE THEY Don't LISTEN TO ME , EVER. When I'm on the computer they say STOP PLAYING and start talking about me When I'm on the computer doing my homework. They keep accusing me of and I hate them, ALL OF THEM I either want to kill myself and put myself out of my misery or kill them for peace.

PS WERE CHRISTIAN and I'm only eleven years old.

when I'm at home I feel like my freedom is gone. I'm never treated like a normal child because I'm smart but is that a reason to make me do everything??

They day that the buy everything I want when in the end they don't even get me anything. I ask for toys, they say they're useless, I ask for games they say NO and I'm over there thinking what the .

I'm smart and doing well in school, and they don't even give me any freedom?
they don't buy me what I want like they PROMISED.

a month ago my dad said that he'd give me minecraft in the school holidays and what did I get? NOTHING THEY Don't GIVE ME . To stop myself from inflicting pain to them or mysleft I write in a secret "i hate my life diary".

THE WORST THING THEY DID TO ME WAS GIVE BIRTH TO ME...

actually.. in a years time I'm going to see what happens and if it stays the same I'm going to confess to who I like and kill myself = EASE OF MIND AND EVERYTHING

... so, what exactly is your question ?

Your POTTY mouth comments have been removed and also LAZY Chat Speak is NOT allowed.
I appreciate the fact you are only 11, but my SIX year old daughter can write better English than your post.

My family ESPECIALLY MY FATASS BROTHER treats me like a slave and blame me for doing stuff i dont do.

First of all my bro makes me get everything, do all the chores and its so annoying. if i dont do what he says he just freaking punches me in the face. I feel like my PARENTS dont care if i get beaten up anymore. BECAUSE THEY DONT LISTEN TO ME , EVER. When im on the computer they say STOP PLAYING and start talking about me When im on the computer doing my homework. They keep accusing me of and i hate them, ALL OF THEM i either wanna kill myself and put myself out of my misery or kill them for peace.

PS WERE CHRISTIAN and im only eleven years old.

when im at home i feel like my freedom is gone. im never treated like a normal child because im smart but is that a reason to make me do everything???

They day that the buy everything i want when in the end they dont even get me anything. i ask for toys, they say theyre useless, i ask for games they say NO and im over there thinking what the .

im smart and doing well in school, and they dont even give me any freedom??
they dont buy me what i want like they PROMISED.

a month ago my dad said that he'd give me minecraft in the school holidays and what did i get?? NOTHING THEY DONT GIVE ME . to stop myself from inflicting pain to them or mysleft i write in a secret "i hate my life diary".

THE WORST THING THEY DID TO ME WAS GIVE BIRTH TO ME....

actually.. in a years time im going to see what happens and if it stays the same im going to confess to who i like and kill myself = EASE OF MIND AND EVERYTHING


Apparently your family has known you for 11 years and doesn't like or respect you.

It only took me two minutes to reach that same conclusion.

Yes, a 11 year old child does not get any freedom, not sure what ones you want.

A 11 year old works around the home, my 11 year old ( yes I have one at home) does dishes, does his own laundry, cooks some meals, has school normally year round, no summer breaks,

He does have mine craft ( silly game) but is grounded from it for not doing his chores, like trash, lawn mowing and so on.

So sounds like you are being treated as a normal 11 year old and are just hateful person

Sorry chickie, but you need to toughen-up. You may think you have it hard, and I totally understand how you feel. I was forced to do a lot of things, but I was basically a livein babysitter/maid. It wasn't my brother that punched me in the face, it was my stepfather. I raised my 4 younger siblings. I was being called "Mommy" at 11.

You need to stop and think about all the good things you have. One of your reasons that you hate life is that you didn't get Minecraft. I didn't get anything either but I'm not saying I was treated like a 'slave'. I know you want freedom, and I understand that. But you do really have to go to the extent of talking about suicide? Suicide is never the answer, especially if you are a Christian.

I'm 13 and still don't have much freedom but I have one freedom, Im free from my stepfather. Life is great, no matter what situation I'm in. As long as I'm alive, I'm grateful.

I think you're exaggerrating. Maybe you aren't, but I was 11, not long ago at all, and I know what its like. But I never once said I hated my mother. She gave birth to me and even if she treated me like crap(she doesnt) I would look forward to getting out of the house and living my own life.

I am sorry to hear your situation, if it's true. But look at the good things. You're too young to be thinking of dying.

Steph4353, that was a very articulate and well thought out response for a 13 year old. I hope our 11 year old poster sees the vast difference between the two of you, even two years apart.
Dear Raven! If you want to die please tell us what is REALLY going on. 11 year olds don't want to die because of not being bought a game or because they have to do chores.

A kid your age should be given time to be a child and have friends, yes you need to do chores even if you don't like it (nobody likes to do chores but somebody have to do it) It is unfair the fact that they don't listen to you and do nothing when your brother punches you. My best advise? You want their respect? Call child services, and tell them ALL the things they did to you, but be honest! And make clear that you feel they will mistreat you even more if they let you stay in that house. Don't be afraid, the social workers there to protect you and they'll find a way for you to be reated the

Sorry, I continue here, to be treated the way you deserve. It doesn't happens right away but if you complain in your school, talk to the nurse or ask for your counselor at school, they are there to help you and they take this situations very seriously. If all of this don't work keep fighting and go to the police. This is child abuse clearly! Fight for your rights, no body else can do it if you don't try yourself first. Good luck, and God bless you beautiful soul!

Sorry, I continue here, to be treated the way you deserve. It doesn't happens right away but if you complain in your school, talk to the nurse or ask for your counselor at school, they are there to help you and they take this situations very seriously. If all of this don't work keep fighting and go to the police. This is child abuse clearly! Fight for your rights, no body else can do it if you don't try yourself first. Good luck, and God bless you beautiful soul!


Where do you see the abuse in this situation? I note that the adults on the Board don't believe she's being abused.

And, yes, she should go to the Police, advise the Police that she's being abused and request to be placed in foster care. She can live in the foster care system, of course, until she "ages out" at 18.

I think that would be a good solution for all parties concerned.

One that Report is filed, of course, the Police will investigate her parents.

I don't see abuse here. Yes, her brother punches her, supposedly (remember we only have the posters word on that), but I doubt very much that her parents do nothing.

Actually, it sounds like her parents are doing a good job raising her. They expect her to do chores, be respectful.

If her attitude is even half what it was on this site then I don't blame the parents for not rushing out and getting her every little thing she wants. Toys are a privilege, not a right. If she wants toys then she has to earn them, by doing chores and showing respect. I don't believe for a second that her attitude at home is better than she's displayed here.

My advice to the poster, use the intelligence you claim to have and learn that things aren't handed to you on a silver platter just because you want them. Threatening to kill yourself will not get you what you want. Working towards those things will.

I have two kids of my own, a daughter that's about to turn 10, and a son that's about to turn 14. For birthdays and Christmas I try to get them the things they really want, within reason. But I do have certain rules. My daughter is begging for a cell phone for her birthday. It's not going to happen, and she knows it. I don't believe that children should have cell phones. There's no reason for her to have one and I refuse to allow her to become just another child spending every waking moment on a phone playing games and texting.

It's time to grow up a bit, figure out that the world doesn't revolve around you and what you want.

OK - you are eleven and you are speaking like a mad eleven year old, so it's not the end of the world and doesn't make you a bad person because you are speaking in anger and hurt. It's not the best way to talk though - as you can see from these responses, it kind of distracts people from wanting to help with your problems and they instead want to correct how you talk. So it's a good idea when you are talking to people and want help, to stick to the facts, avoid exaggerating, use good English and try to be logical in how you present the problem. When you are respectful and intelligent in how you communicate, you will get better results from other people.

Writing in a journal is a good idea but perhaps not the way you are going about it. Just writing about what you hate will keep you in a place of hate in your life. But if you focus on what you like about life, you will find that it will be easier to tolerate what you don't. Some good things to write about in your journal are things like your goals, and what you can do to achieve them, and your daily progress working towards them. You can also write down one thing every day for which you are grateful - may not be your family these days. Maybe it will be that you got to watch a movie in English class today, or that they had your favorite lunch at school. You can't control other people but you can certainly avoid thinking about them when you're having your private time away from them - think about somethng pleasant and it will reduce the percent of your day that is annoying and miserable immediately!

So, you are a smart kid. That's the first good thing about you. If you are smart, you can do well in school. If you do well in school, you will not have to depend on your family when you graduate high school because you'll have such great grades, you will be able to go away to college on scholarship. Know that the best way to manage a family you can't stand is to do too well at school for them to hold you back and keep you under their control when you are older. Straight As will get you out of the house when you graduate high school, to some great, fun, cool place where you can become a terrific success. College is a blast.

The second good thing is that you recognize that there are limitations in your family. If they do not follow up on promises to get things for you, knowing that is powerful. Next time they promise you something, assume it is not going to happen. If it's something you really want, consider what you might do to get the money to buy it yourself. My son used to shovel driveways, offer dog-sitting service and do yard work when he was your age and sometimes he made a lot of money. He also saved money he got for allowance or presents and really thought about what he wanted most, then bought those things for himself.

Brothers and sisters rarely get along at your age, so the good news is that your relationship with your brother is pretty normal. He shouldn't be punching you though and that needs to be dealt with by your parents. You need to talk to them in a mature way, when people are not already mad or arguing. If you have to, say, "Mom, I have some things I want to talk to you about. Can we go somewhere and talk?" Give your parents a chance to recognize that you're coming to them in a grown-up way to let them know you have serious issues to resolve, and don't approach them in an angry way.

Also don't make it an attack or it will back fire. It sounds like the only major issue here is that your brother bullies you. That has to stop. If you bully back, you are going to have to be part of the solution.

Do your share of the chores without complaining and leave his undone. Make plans to go to a friend's house or the library or some other place away from your brother so that he doesn't have the opportunity to bully you. Explain to your parents that you do not want to be home alone with your brother because he punches and bullies and bosses you around, and ask what other arrangements can be made. Also ask to have totally separate chores from your brother. For example, instead of being told together to "clean the house", ask your parents to give you separate chores from your brother. For example, you have to clean the kitchen, he has to fold the laundry. If the kitchen is clean, then they know you did your share.

Whether your situation is "abusive" is hard to know from what you've written. If you are being sexually assaulted or if the way your brother treats you is beyond bickering siblings irritating and tousling with each other, you should get help. If your parents don't help, go to your school counselor.

Not disagreeing with anything/anyone BUT the language had be cleaned up. This is no "annoyed" 11 year old.

Did anyone read this: "ALL OF THEM i either wanna kill myself and put myself out of my misery or kill them for peace."

Or kill them for peace?

I don't take suicide threats lightly and I don't take "kill them" statements lightly.

I realize this is an anoymous board but under some circumstances I truly wish it were not.

Not disagreeing with anything/anyone BUT the language had be cleaned up. This is no "annoyed" 11 year old.

Did anyone read this: "ALL OF THEM i either wanna kill myself and put myself out of my misery or kill them for peace."

Or kill them for peace?

I don't take suicide threats lightly and I don't take "kill them" statements lightly.

I realize this is an anoymous board but under some circumstances I truly wish it were not.

I missed the part about her killing them. Frankly, truth told, I skimmed over much of her question because of her attitude and language.

Threats to kill someone should be taken very seriously. This board is anonymous, but if those threats are actual threats there are ways to take the proper action.

but if those threats are actual threats there are ways to take the proper action.

Then someone here could track the e mail to find out where it came from and therefore find out where the OP lives ? That is computer forensics, is it not?

Then someone here could track the e mail to find out where it came from and therefore find out where the OP lives ? That is computer forensics, is it not?

I don't think it's about tracking the email. No matter what when you post on the internet your IP address shows. It doesn't show to everyone, for privacy, but there are way to get it, and if a threat like murder is made on this site then I think it's our responsibility to find it, and alert the police.

I don't think it's about tracking the email. No matter what when you post on the internet your IP address shows. It doesn't show to everyone, for privacy, but there are way to get it, and if a threat like murder is made on this site then I think it's our responsibility to find it, and alert the police.


I've made this argument before - I understand that "we" are not entitled to the knowledge but I do hope somebody tracks this down and reports it.

This is "don't pay attention, 11 year old" stuff - right up until she kills someone.

John Justice lived down the street from a friend of mine. She thought he was "odd." He talked about killing people but he was a good student, blah, blah, blah. Then he killed his family - and a neighbor. He served his time, got out, couldn't be controlled by his PO and went back in. Interesting reading from a long time ago. http://www.people.com/people/archive/article/0,,20092208,00.html

I've made this argument before - I understand that "we" are not entitled to the knowledge but I do hope somebody tracks this down and reports it.

This is "don't pay attention, 11 year old" stuff - right up until she kills someone.

John Justice lived down the street from a friend of mine. She thought he was "odd." He talked about killing people but he was a good student, blah, blah, blah. Then he killed his family - and a neighbor. He served his time, got out, couldn't be controlled by his PO and went back in. Interesting reading from a long time ago. Driven by His Long-Buried Rage, a 17-Year-Old Honor Student Lethally Lashes Out at His Family : People.com (http://www.people.com/people/archive/article/0,,20092208,00.html)
Drew Peterson lives down the road a bit from me. He threatened to kill his third wife (hearsay from her sister). She's still missing and he's on trial for killing the second wife whose body had to be exhumed.

No, don't take death threats lightly.

I do find it unsettling that right after the threat to kill her family OP said: "WERE CHRISTIAN." Well, that certainly makes me feel better!

I do find it unsettling that right after the threat to kill her family OP said: "WERE CHRISTIAN." Well, that certainly makes me feel better!
I noticed that too, was not sure what that had to do with anything in light of the rest of it. Definitely not any kind of Christian I know of.

I do think that the rule should be that if anyone threatens death on this site, the police should get involved. I don't care if it's a child making the threat, it's like abuse cases, better to report and say sorry later, than to not report and watch the child get beaten to death. If you make the threat, be prepared to face the consequences. I even think that should be one of the rules, so that posters are aware that we do take death threats seriously.

Not that long ago we had a poster that came here, admitted to luring a very young teen to his neck of the woods, bought her a plane ticket, posted here that he planned to have sex with her, had booked a hotel room. That man is now in jail, his posts on this site were emailed to the authorities. He was caught at the airport, with condoms and alcohol on his person. The girl is safe. She was 13, if I remember correctly.

Sometimes you have to take the written word at face value. If someone threatens, it's better to report and be wrong then to do nothing and they make good on their threats.

Sometimes you have to take the written word at face value. If someone threatens, it's better to report and be wrong then to do nothing and they make good on their threats.
In light of recent shootings in the US, it does seem like we should be our brother's keeper more than we are and thus report threats.

Not that long ago we had a poster that came here, admitted to luring a very young teen to his neck of the woods, bought her a plane ticket, posted here that he planned to have sex with her, had booked a hotel room. That man is now in jail, his posts on this site were emailed to the authorities. He was caught at the airport, with condoms and alcohol on his person. The girl is safe. She was 13, if I remember correctly.


I don't know if you're aware that after this whole problem he somehow got computer access, came back to AMHD, his posts were brought to the attention of the California authorities and he hasn't been heard from since.

No question - he had serous mental issues.

Yes, I think death threats AND suicide threats need to be handled in some way. Maybe this is a subject for a discussion board.

What if OP is posting here and kills her family? What if someone posts here and commits suicide? What is the legal line?

In light of recent shootings in the US, it does seem like we should be our brother's keeper more than we are and thus report threats.

Maybe we should take this up with the powers that be, start a new thread, see if we can't make a few new rules. :)

Maybe we should take this up with the powers that be, start a new thread, see if we can't make a few new rules. :)


Well, this will all come out... but I reported someone today to her local Police Department.

They can act on it or not. At least I know they know.

And it was no big, secret "investigation." I couldn't believe my eyes, ran a search, found out some info and notified the Police.

I hope no one minds, but I did some research of my own.

The OP is almost definitely a troll I'm sad to say.

He/She tells us that they are not allowed to be on the computer, yet he/she has uploaded SO MANY random crap videos about random stupid kid stuff. Marked so many videos as 'favorite' and quite obviously has enough time to do this on the computer.

AND, the OP does indeed play mine craft. I see him/her on the mine craft message boards everywhere, recruiting other players, and talking about playing the game. He/she even has you tube videos of him/herself playing it

So... im not sure what the problem is here... but I do believe OP is a troll

I hope no one minds, but i did some research of my own.

The OP is almost definitely a troll im sad to say.

He/She tells us that they are not allowed to be on the computer, yet he/she has uploaded SO MANY random crap videos about random stupid kid stuff. marked so many videos as 'favorite' and quite obviously has enough time to do this on the computer.

AND, the OP does indeed play mine craft. I see him/her on the mine craft message boards everywhere, recruiting other players, and talking about playing the game. he/she even has you tube videos of him/herself playing it

So...im not sure what the problem is here...but i do believe OP is a troll



Thanks, Jen. Beat me to it. Just took me longer.

I hope no one minds, but i did some research of my own.

The OP is almost definitely a troll im sad to say.

He/She tells us that they are not allowed to be on the computer, yet he/she has uploaded SO MANY random crap videos about random stupid kid stuff. marked so many videos as 'favorite' and quite obviously has enough time to do this on the computer.

AND, the OP does indeed play mine craft. I see him/her on the mine craft message boards everywhere, recruiting other players, and talking about playing the game. he/she even has you tube videos of him/herself playing it

So...im not sure what the problem is here...but i do believe OP is a troll

Good sleuthing Jennie. :)

But that does lead us to another issue. Trolling is also frowned upon. If this is a known troll, aren't there laws against that as well?

I know that recently a man was charged because he trolled the internet. I'll have to search for the link, give me time, but he posted unspeakable things on fb, and other sites, and he's been charged.

That's another issue, but also one I think we should take seriously. Trolling is not only cruel, but it wastes our time, especially on sites like these. It's because of these trolls that many times we don't take the posters that are sincere, seriously. We've been trolled too many times.

I hate to say it, but after being on this site for over 4 years, I now see a suicide thread and many times I either don't post, or I post something negative because I've experienced too many people lying about it. Same with rape threads, or the infamous "I'm so poor, my husband died, give me sympathy", threads. We all remember PP, the woman that posted pictures of herself that weren't her, and then, when we questioned her, killed off her husband, and sent fake death certificates to back up her lies. I ended talking to a person that's great at digging up the truth. PP was actually a 60 plus year old lady, and had been married more than 3 times. Nothing she posted was remotely true.

I've taken a break, and it didn't help. Truth is, most of the posts I answer I answer believing the person to be a troll. If they can prove they're not, I'll be sincere, and helpful. That's not fair to the small percentage (and I do believe it's a small percentage) of people that are actually dealing with issues, and actually do need help. Nor is it fair to those of us that have been burned one time too many times and no longer feel that the people posting here are telling the truth.

There has to be a way to rectify this, if not in actuality, at least within ourselves.

We all remember PP, the woman that posted pictures of herself that weren't her, and then, when we questioned her, killed off her husband, and sent fake death certificates to back up her lies. I ended talking to a person that's great at digging up the truth. PP was actually a 60 plus year old lady, and had been married more than 3 times. Nothing she posted was remotely true.


So I'm NOT going to be invited to spend time at her cottage on the sea in Spain?

What the heck!

I still have her photo on my computer - some day I'm going to find out who it really is.

So I'm NOT going to be invited to spend time at her cottage on the sea in Spain?

What the heck!

I still have her photo on my computer - some day I'm going to find out who it really is.

Judy, I actually downloaded a program that finds people on the internet. Sadly, it's limited. Unless that exact picture has been posted on the internet before, no luck.

But those pictures, as soon as she posted them, I knew she was lying. They looked like they were from a magazine, all of them. A few people commented that the one of her husband, they'd seen before.

But I did find her fb page, and a family tree she published, and I found out a lot of info. She lied to us all, and I have yet to figure out why. Why would you want to make yourself into something you're not?

So no, you can't go to her cottage in Spain, but you're still invited to my tiny house in Canada, and if you ever want to go to Germany, I have many relatives that would be willing to put us up for a few weeks. :) In fact, I own 1/13 of a home in Weikersheim. It's not grand, but it does have indoor plumbing, which is pretty cool considering it was built in the 1700's. The outdoor plumbing was added later. Still, things do go flush in the night. :)

Judy, I actually downloaded a program that finds people on the internet. Sadly, it's limited. Unless that exact picture has been posted on the internet before, no luck.


I own the professional version. You need a PI license to buy it. It couldn't ID the photo.

I'll get back to you about the vacation in Germany. I was looking forward to Spain so I'll have to change gears.

Judy, I actually downloaded a program that finds people on the internet. Sadly, it's limited. Unless that exact picture has been posted on the internet before, no luck.

I own the professional version. You need a PI license to buy it. It couldn't ID the photo.

I'll get back to you about the vacation in Germany. I was looking forward to Spain so I'll have to change gears.
Spain has the running of the bulls. Germany has really good beer. It really is a no brainer. ;)

You guys get all the cool toys. Lol. All I have is Google ;)

OH and I don't remember that poster! That is terrible!! I'm glad I didn't see it!

OH and i dont remember that poster! that is terrible!!! im glad i didnt see it!

Positive Parent was her name. You can still read some of her posts. She was banned, with good reason.

"Soon I was fantasizing about how to murder everyone who caused me pain and how to do it openly instead of in secret. I wanted everyone to seem them die by my hands, see me covered in their blood. I'm in High school now, a tenth grader, but I still wish I had killed them. To this day I think of several ways to kill people and I can't help it."

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental-emotional-health/why-do-like-imagining-peoples-deaths-not-sure-how-categorize-693483.html

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Raven, I think you need counseling! Talk to your minister.
You are at that age where you want freedoms (which you are too young for... ) and expect respect you do not deserve.
You are a child with an attitude problem. Grow up a little!

I think you should read "a child called it" followed by "lost boy" then you will realize how good you really have it, it's a true story of a young boy who is the target of his outraged mom, and if you think your being treated unfair be happy you don't have 20minutes to get your chores done other wise having horrible consequences, this little boy in the story had some real bad times from his mom putting his arm on the stove, to being closed in a bathroom with a bucket full of ammonia and bleach and told to clean it otherwise worse things will happen. Instead of asking for the game ask for these book, books are better for your brain and you can read basically anywhere so you don't have to hear the criticizing comments of your family. Just a thought...

I think you should read "a child called it" followed by "lost boy" then you will realize how good you really have it, its a true story of a young boy who is the target of his outraged mom, and if you think your being treated unfair be happy you don't have 20minutes to get your chores done other wise having horrible consequences, this little boy in the story had some real bad times from his mom putting his arm on the stove, to being closed in a bathroom with a bucket full of ammonia and bleach and told to clean it otherwise worse things will happen. Instead of asking for the game ask for these book, books are better for your brain and you can read basically anywhere so you don't have to hear the criticizing comments of your family. Just a thought...


If this child truly is being punched in the face frequently I don't think "cheer up, it could be worse" is very comforting.

If this child truly is being punched in the face frequently I don't think "cheer up, it could be worse" is very comforting.

Well I don't know about you but I grew up with an older sister and went through stuff like that, so people might even stretch the truth, she's a young girl, I know when I was young I took everything for granted. What she has to understand is that posting that she wants to kill her self cause of some childish acts is a little bit selfish, I think that she should show this post to her mom so that maybe her mom can understand more. I'm not saying its right for her brother to punch her, I think he may need a reality check, he's probable just a few yrs older then her and going through puberty, kids act up in that stage of life. And I really wasent trying to be comforting, I was stating facts. This girl thinks that her life is so bad that she wants to end it over petty things, like a video game. This little girl has her whole life ahead of her to a great future, I think she may need more attention at home, to me itt seems like maybe her parents need to realize that this preteen needs help adjusting to maybe some of the changes with her body and mind. The book I think would be better then some video game and it will also show her that what she's going through is like nothing. Ok Judy is this what I should say... Next time your brother punches you stick up for yourself hit him back give him a dose of what you've been saving through all your anger, I mean that's what it came down to for me, once my sister found out I can hold my own and freaken hit her quite a few times she wasent so bad, and when she was we would just beat each other up then still love each other in the end. Or Judy would you like me to say... Ohh you poor thing why don't you just go to the police. Things will get better or maybe even go to social services and be put in foster care where you'll be traded from home to home till your 18... What do you think Judy and where's your comforting post to this girl. She just seems to be going through normal preteen problems... Just saying :)

Well idk about you but I grew up with an older sister and went through stuff like that, so people might even stretch the truth, she's a young girl, I know when I was young I took everything for granted. What she has to understand is that posting that she wants to kill her self cause of some childish acts is a little bit selfish, I think that she should show this post to her mom so that maybe her mom can understand more. I'm not saying its right for her brother to punch her, I think he may need a reality check, he's probable just a few yrs older then her and going through puberty, kids act up in that stage of life. And I really wasent trying to be comforting, I was stating facts. This girl thinks that her life is so bad that she wants to end it over petty things, like a video game. This little girl has her whole life ahead of her to a great future, I think she may need more attention at home, to me itt seems like maybe her parents need to realize that this preteen needs help adjusting to maybe some of the changes with her body and mind. The book I think would be better then some video game and it will also show her that what she's going through is like nothing. Ok Judy is this what I should say... Next time your brother punches you stick up for yourself hit him back give him a dose of what you've been saving through all your anger, I mean that's what it came down to for me, once my sister found out I can hold my own and freaken hit her quite a few times she wasent soo bad, and when she was we would just beat each other up then still love each other in the end. Or Judy would you like me to say... Ohh you poor thing why don't you just go to the police. Things will get better or maybe even go to social services and be put in foster care where you'll be traded from home to home till your 18... What do you think Judy and where's your comforting post to this girl. She just seems to be going through normal preteen problems... Just sayin :)


This isn't a blog, a discussion between you and me. I was in a physically and mentally abusive marriage. Don't begin to tell me about abuse. Hearing about other women whose husbands killed them didn't help me at all. Not that it's any of your business but, no, my parents didn't allow "us" to use physical violence against each other under ANY circumstance, nor were my parents EVER violent toward each other. I realize that not all families are the same.

And please don't DEMAND a "comforting post" from me - not unless you're a mod - and that would require more than 7 posts under your belt (many of them questions and info, not answers) -or unless it's your question.

Your "Okay, Judy, should I say this" is both passive/aggressive and unnecessary. AMHD doesn't work that way. I find you remarkably confrontational on a thread where long-time experts and members had their own thoughts, particularly when you're 25 years old - not a kid (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/boyfriend-wants-3some-703096.html).

In fact, is this attitude toward me based on my response to your thread?

And just for the record - yes, if a person is being abused (and I'm not saying the OP is) he/she should go to the Police. Do you believe every complaint to the Police ends up with the minor in foster care? There's Court intervention, counseling, all sorts of things but, yes, bottom line - maybe you defended yourself with your fists. That isn't in my make up. Apparently it's not in the make up of the OP either. She needs to get intervention IF she's being abused. Yes, that's what I would have liked you to say. Foster care might be better than being punched in the mouth on a regular basis - just sayin'.

This isn't a blog, a discussion between you and me. I was in a physically and mentally abusive marriage. Don't begin to tell me about abuse. Hearing about other women whose husbands killed them didn't help me at all. Not that it's any of your business but, no, my parents didn't allow "us" to use physical violence against each other under ANY circumstance, nor were my parents EVER violent toward each other. I realize that not all families are the same.

And please don't DEMAND a "comforting post" from me - not unless you're a mod - and that would require more than 7 posts under your belt (many of them questions and info, not answers) -or unless it's your question.

Your "Okay, Judy, should I say this" is both passive/aggressive and unnecessary. AMHD doesn't work that way. I find you remarkably confrontational on a thread where long-time experts and members had their own thoughts, particularly when you're 25 years old - not a kid (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/boyfriend-wants-3some-703096.html).

In fact, is this attitude toward me based on my response to your thread?

And just for the record - yes, if a person is being abused (and I'm not saying the OP is) he/she should go to the Police. Do you believe every complaint to the Police ends up with the minor in foster care? There's Court intervention, counseling, all sorts of things but, yes, bottom line - maybe you defended yourself with your fists. That isn't in my make up. Apparently it's not in the make up of the OP either. She needs to get intervention IF she's being abused. Yes, that's what I would have liked you to say. Foster care might be better than being punched in the mouth on a regular basis - just sayin'.

Ok whatever Judy, really I wasent even writing to talk to someone who's post wasent up, I live one way and you live another. For instance you like to criticize people, and me I like to tell it how it is. So I'm done with writing to you thanks for this little dose of drama, haven't had that in a while. I'm here giving some thoughts to a person who matter of fact isent you, so I'm going on my merry way and I hope you find someone else to harass :)

Ok whatever Judy, really I wasent even writing to talk to someone who's post wasent up, I live one way and you live another. For instance you like to criticize people, and me I like to tell it how it is. So I'm done with writing to you thanks for this little dose of drama, haven't had that in a while. I'm here giving some thoughts to a person who matter of fact isent you, so I'm going on my merry way and I hope you find someone else to harass :)

Funny how you back down and make yourself the victim, when in all actuality your passive/aggressive behavior towards Judy was not only distasteful, but confrontational!

You are the last person who should be advising this 11-year-old.

... just saying

Funny how you back down and make yourself the victim, when in all actuality your passive/aggressive behavior towards Judy was not only distasteful, but confrontational!

You are the last person who should be advising this 11-year-old.

....just sayin

Yes, anyone with deep seated personal issues, I read the link that Judy provided, saying how 'freaked out' she gets when jealous tells me that she needs professional help.

I dislike the disrespect shown here to a long time member with a good track record for well thought through advice.

As the OP has NOT returned this thread is now
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