There's this guy at work that has been driving confusing me. He's a team lead over cashiers and with me working the sales floor, we had never talked before. One day I was joking around at the service desk with one of my friends who is a cashier. She introduced us and since than him and I have become instant friends.When I walk by him, he always hollers at me so that I will stop and talk to him. Even when I come in on my off days, he stops whatever he is doing and talks to me. One of the things that confuses me is that he treats me differently when some people are around. When no one is around he flirts and tells me his plans and things about himself. But if people are around he treats me like a team member, like he wasn't just flirting with me 2 seconds before. Like the other night, he made me stay past my time to cover a department, so another team member could go to the huddle. After the other team members left, he called me to make sure that I wasn't mad at him. He is very very serious about keeping his work and personal life separate. He also keeps spouting off the rules to me about how he is not even allowed to hang out with team members only team leads. But than he messages me to come and hang out with him and so on. When I questioned him about how isn't him hanging out with me mixing work and personal life, he responded with that he trusted me not to mess up his work environment. He always drops little hints into the conversations about himself and everything. Another one of the team leads over the cashiers who I am extremely close with told me that they told her that the rules were that they could date and hang with team members as long as it didn't interfere with the job. The other night I ran into him and his friends at the pool hall and the first thing he said to me was "What took you so long to get here?". After they left him and his friends went to eat and I went home. When I got home I had a message from him asking me why I didn't come eat with them. He's not a really shy guy, he's actually very outgoing.I've never ever had a boyfriend, any boy that I ever liked has always put me in the friends only category. He is the first guy to even show just interest in me that is maybe a little more than just friends. I think he knows that I like him but I'm not sure. He's told me that work relationships, never work out, not statistically anyway. People at work have noticed and tell me that he treats me different than he does anyone else there. I'm just not sure. Sorry for the long text I really needed to get me off my chest.

I think you guys have something. Maybe he acts different at work because he doesn't want people to think he's fooling around (instead of working) or maybe he's just shy with his feelings about you. In either case, I think you have the potential to built a real meaningful relationship. And statistically?? Who cares where you met him, if he is the right guy for you, then he is, regardless where you met him. Just do whatever feels right and what you are comfortable with. Good luck :)

Guys are funny... We act different and don't even notice it. Some guys are shy about liking girls at work or school. He likes you! Go for it! You mentioned you've never been in a relationship, and this is your opportunity to taste the fruit of love.

OK I am in exactly the same position. I know exactly how you feel. But as I am slightly more aware in my situation if it is the same then yes indeed he does like you, but he is probably just being professional and keeping love life/work separate. I know that might be hard for you, but think about it, its good to lay the rules at the start, as if you did date, gossip spreads like lightning around shops (as I know from experience) and you will become the talk off the shop, therefore it you keep it to a minimum hopefully there will be less gossip, and people will hopefully not discuss you as much, or look down on either of you guys for being unprofessional. Another reason this is good, and god forbid it happening, but say you dated and it didn't quite go to plan, you know where you stand, it probably means it would be less awkward in work if you know he is going to treat you like everyone after and possibly this would lead to less awkwardness, if you can see where I am coming from?

but yes he likes you, TALK TO HIM and go for it! It would be good to keep in touch, as I could not understand more, as I have never been in a reltionship before but the guy I like has, and therefore I am worried that I won't be good enough etc!

but all the best, good luck and I hope it works out and you can both be very happy and totally understand each other! =)