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Ajcastaway
Aug 2, 2012, 09:28 PM
Ive been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months now and I feel like were very close.. we haven't done anything sexualy though..
The problem is there's a guy who before we started dating my girlfriend said had a massive crush on, said she was in love with him, has pictures of him literally all over her room and on her phone and iPod, inevitably talks about him literally EVERY time we have a conversation, and she hangs out with him kind of often.. About a week after we started dating that guy asker her if she wanted to have sex. She told me and I quote "he asked me to have sex with him, and even though ive REALLY wanted to for a long time. I didnt".
Im usually not paranoid but (keep in mind I believe in abstinence and she's not a virgin) she said that she couldn't control her urdges and had to have sex... Im freaking out at the thought that she's going to have sex with him and I'm really freaking out so any comfort or advice is greatly appreciated

-aj

odinn7
Aug 2, 2012, 09:31 PM
You want comfort? Tell her to go to him and not come back.

You don't need a girlfriend that is going to sit there and say those kinds of things to you. One that has those kinds of thoughts. There is clearly some issue here and unfortunately, it doesn't sound like you mean as much to her as she does to you.

Me? I wouldn't put up with that. That is no way for her to be talking to you and treating you.

Dican212
Aug 2, 2012, 10:10 PM
I agree with Odinn7's comment, I might add that being with her will bring more uncertainty towards you, since what I've deducted from the question was that you had not done any sexual activity which I would say to be an important part of a relationship and with the notion that "she said she couldn't her urdges and had to have sex"... This would probably bring more stress on you could be constantly doubting her not sure of what exactly is "true" when your inquiring about it.

But if you really like her then you will trust her until she given you a reason to doubt since there will be problems in your relationships if you begin to doubt her before she has done anything.

This is just my thoughts on this, hope it helps.

BethVader
Aug 3, 2012, 12:40 AM
Agreed with the above comments. Ditch her.
Find a girl who actually wants to be with you.