So I'm in high school,
And I have a girlfriend who I love and things with that are going great. But the problem is my friend was talking to me over the internet one day while she wasn't sober, and accidentally expressed her undying love for me, and that she thinks my girlfriend is a "coniving who needs to get slapped". At the time I just blew it off, I mean she was really faded and no that's not the issue. When she asked me the next day what she said I told her and she told me it was true. And so far everything between us has been fine, strangley it hasn't been too awkward, but as I'm writing this she is stoned out of her mind on some painkillers which were proscribed to her by a doctor for her back, she injured it so don't worry she doesn't have like drug problems or what not. Anyway she just finished telling me she loved me and she kind of proposed to me. Right after telling me she wanted to murder my girlfriend. And just as a side note she didn't like her before she met me so its not just jealousy. Now I like my friend and I don't want to see her hurt but I love my girlfriend and I don't want to end up having to choose. It would be like being asked if id rather cut off my finger or my arm.

So my question is, what the hell am I supposed to do. What can I say to my friend that won't hurt her too much.

And I know it almost seems like I was leading her on but I thought it was just a tiny crush, she often talked about another guy she liked, unfortunately he's also taken and she kind of told him his girlfriend was using him and then proceeded to punch her square in the face. I also can't help feeling this is my fault.

What is your girlfriend like ? And what is your friend like ?

what is your girlfriend like ? and what is your friend like ?

My girlfriend is very beautifull, but has lots of anxiety because she has family issues, like bad ones she lives with a foster family, neither of us have had nice childhoods, even though I grew up ina richer neighborhood. My friend is a twin, but her sister is the polar opposite of her, and my friend really hates her. My friend plays lots of sports, she's strong and things like that, she always talks about running away to vancouver, and once (before she punched his girlfriend and he stopped talking to her) she stole her parents car and drove ou of town to where he lives, in another town. She's not the girly type as you can probably tell. None of us have a lot of friends, and most of mine are girls and are all a grade Above me. Including my girlfriend and my friend involved in this story

You've got a choice. You can't have a healthy relationship with your girlfriend if your friend is crazy and in love with you. You are going to have to choose to cut of your finger or your arm, you've just got to decide which one you can live without.

You've got a choice. You can't have a healthy relationship with your girlfriend if your friend is crazy and in love with you. You are going to have to choose to cut of your finger or your arm, you've just got to decide which one you can live without.
Thank you, this won't be easy, thank you very much for the advice, but is there a way I can let her down easy? Because I do see her every day in school which starts soon

Thank you, this wont be easy, thank you very much for the advice, but is there a way i can let her down easy? Because i do see her every day in school which starts soon
Also we hang ou with all the same people so that wouldn't be good

Thank you, this wont be easy, thank you very much for the advice, but is there a way i can let her down easy? Because i do see her every day in school which starts soon

There is no 'easy' way to let someone down, their reaction is solely based on the actual affection they carry for you and their character.

The only thing you can do is inform her that you are in a relationship and that it would not be fair to the relationship to continue the friendship with the feelings that are brought to the table. If you want to give that to her as light as possible, try wording it in a way that doesn't make it seem like it's her fault that the friendship is now over. That is tough, but if you avoid the word 'you' as much as possible you should be fine.

If ending the friendship is too drastic for you, there's not much else you can do. Her feelings won't just go away overnight if you tell her you don't feel the same, and I fear that by the time she does get over you, she will have caused damage to your current relationship.

My girlfriend is very beautifull, but has lots of anxiety because she has family issues, like bad ones she lives with a foster family, neither of us have had nice childhoods, even though i grew up ina richer neighborhood. My friend is a twin, but her sister is the polar opposite of her, and my friend really hates her. My friend plays lots of sports, shes strong and things like that, she always talks about running away to vancouver, and once (before she punched his gf and he stopped talking to her) she stole her parents car and drove ou of town to where he lives, in another town. Shes not the girly type as you can probably tell. None of us have alot of friends, and most of mine are girls and are all a grade Above me. Includin my girlfriend and my friend involved in this story

I can see your girlfriend is so good as you're saying and I can understand your friend cause I'm not the girly type too. But I guess your girlfriend is better and your friend is kind of immature I mean who steals a car and run away to god knows where! So tell her that you are happy with your girlfriend and that you love her as a friend only but choose the right moment to say it and the right words. But at last it's your choice choose the one that's close to you more and show you caring and loving more and good luck :)

Thank you very much for the advice, il use it wisley,
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