Okay. I am 21, my boyfriend is 24. So I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 7 to 8 months now. In the beginning I didn't want to settle down and I would still flirt with others and it was just bad. I know I hurt him is lot. We moved on from it and now, we are committed, and we have been together now for about 3 months. Well, in about 2 weeks or so he is going to prison for about 6-9 months. He got in trouble for selling drugs, sucky.

And so, in the beginning our sex life was good. It was hot, passionate. He wanted to do it all the time. Granted, in the beginning I did tell him that it is hard for me to have sex with just 1 person because I get bored. But I am way past that and I don't get bored anymore. I love him, and he knows that. I tell him that all the time.

But, ever since we found out he is going to prison, we haven't had sex that much. I feel like I have to beg for it, which sometimes I do- playfully. I try to touch him or something and he just says he isn't in the mood, or his stomach doesn't feel good. Just different excuses and I REALLY don't understand why. I masturbate more than I have sex. Why would he choose to masturbate over having sex/making love to me? I don't get it.

And so I just don't know what to do. I even try sending him dirty/flirtatious texts and all he says back are simple things. I told him maybe we can have a quickie today because I miss his c** and all he says is-- Okay :) -- just really bothers me. And it honestly, really hurts.

He jokes around and is like-- I don't like it when you pressure me, make me feel bad for not having sex. -- I don't know if he is joking or being serious. I really just don't know anymore. Maybe he is just scared of prison- which I understand. But still, I won't be able to have sex for 6-9 months!! That's going to KILL me!
So any advice?

You need to get your priorites straight girl, sex isn't everything, sex is making love, not simply a physical action, sex is where you make love, and you turn that love into something beautiful like a baby, I'm not saying your should have a child, I'm saying maybe you should reassure him about prison, in the uk, if a prison sentence is under 12 months, you only have to do half of it, not sure if it works the same anywhere else, regards to him not wanting to have sex all the time, well, maybe because you are now in a steady realationship and he believes you won't cheat, he is starting to take you for granted, and that he doesn't need to keep you excited, as for when he is in prison and the whole sex situation, get yourself a daammnn good dildo, I heard ann summers do amazing ones;)

So... you're more worried about how you'll have to go 6 to 9 months without sex than you're worried about him being in prison... that's how I read this.

I have 2 ideas here and I can't say for sure because I'm not there... I can only go off what you've written and how I'm reading it.

First idea... You are pressuring him too much and he's getting annoyed with you for doing it. As I said earlier, seems like that is your only concern, not that he is going to prison. Maybe that annoys him as well.

Second idea... perhaps he is more worried about prison than he is about sex. Maybe he is too worried about going to prison to concentrate on having sex.

Stop being so selfish and needy about sex with a guy who is more worried about jail than you. Is that all you think about?

Its just like what the other commentator pointed out, I think that he is very worried about going to prison rather than sex since 6-9months is a long time to spend in prison and many things can happens which could cause him to be considerably worried.
In this situation you should be more supportive of him if you are seriously dating. After all, who wants to go to prison?