So for the past week, I've spent like 4 out of 8 nights with a female colleague, on three of those nights we have got drunk and I've ended up staying over at hers... no sex... just making out passionately... shes 20, I'm 29..

In between this, my friends blurted out that we'd seen each other... this took me some slight explaining with her to calm her down that I wasn't just there for sex.

Met her again now, and we must've touched once - she was flirting with me... but she wasn't drinking and I was... she was quite conscious of her complexion as shed said it had taken quite a battering with all the drink recently...

I feel like failed tonight as we've been getting on so well, saying how much we like each other and how we can't stop thinking about each other etc...

Shed sent me a barrage of drunk texts the other night stating how much she thinks about me and how she's not good enough for me...

Im totally confused tonight - I went to kiss her good night (I was about 5 feet away) and she walked off to her place...

What do I do next?

Try communicating when you are both sober. Maybe she is not too happy about what happened while she was drunk. Respect that and approach her when you have not been drinking.

I was sober this eve. She was like ice tonight. It appears that she only opens up physically after alcohol.

I'm concerned I wasn't as on form as I could've been tonight and although we alluded to doing things in the future - we didn't set anything up in concrete

Well maybe sober with a clear head she is not into you and could be embarrassed about how she behaved. I know I would be.

Behaved when? We've been texting all week... on our first date we ended up spending the night together. She tells me that she really likes me. She alludes to plans with me in the future. Like I said, it was only the lack of physical contact that was not there. Am I reading too much into this?

Behaved when? We've been texting all week...on our first date we ended up spending the night together. She tells me that she really likes me. She alludes to plans with me in the future. Like I said, it was only the lack of physical contact that was not there. Am I reading too much into this?

Was she sober during all of these text? You said she drunk texted you.
There is too much drinking and interacting here.
Ask her out again, if no response, forget about her. She seems young and flaky.

Yes, we've texted sober and been flirty etc.

Last night she cancelled her plans to see her firneds to meet me for a few hours before the bar closed... it just didn't go as well as Id hoped... probably because I wasn't physically escalating perhaps... similarly though I want her to know I'm not just about getting her into bed... and I appreciate that we've ended up there a few times and it has been really passionate talking all night - even being late for work the next day because of it. She seems like she has insecurities and is guarded...

Should I follow up today or leave it a few days.

She's out tonight, drinking, so I'd be surprised to hear from her today.

She's out drinking at 20?
I 'd leave her alone. Let her contact you. Don't chase after her, you're too old for that mess.
She seems to be about partying and having fun.

Im from the UK by the way hahah.

We've been in contact tonight... shes updated me on her evenings viewing