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summercupcake
Jul 30, 2012, 08:25 PM
My question is. Sweet and simple... Is it illegal for a 14 year old girl to date à 16 year old boy?? It's not sexual or anything like that!!
And how do u tell the parents if you know there going to Flip?!

80Rhodes
Jul 30, 2012, 08:42 PM
It isn't illegal but your parents may be concerned for your safety and put a foot down on it. Two years does not seem like a big difference but it is in terms of maturity and experience. He has more of it than you and may try to take advantage of you.
The most important thing is to be honest with your parents. Tell them even if it means they will flip out or tell you mot date this boy. The good thing that comes of this is They will start trusting because you are being honest and mature. Don't rush into anything, you have so much time!

ScottGem
Jul 31, 2012, 03:56 AM
Its not illegal to date UNLESS your parents don't allow it.

So you tell your parents you want to date this boy, have him come over to meet them so they can get to know him.

Fr_Chuck
Jul 31, 2012, 03:59 AM
To date the parents must know and give permission. Failure to do this can result if many issues. Both the 14 year old and 16 year old must let their parents know. If the "flip" and say no, then you can't. Many 14 year old are not allowed to DATE and so much depends on what you call dating.

summercupcake
Aug 1, 2012, 01:01 PM
It isnt illegal but your parents may be concerned for your safety and put a foot down on it. Two years does not seem like a big difference but it is in terms of maturity and experience. He has more of it than you and may try to take advantage of you.
The most important thing is to be honest with your parents. Tell them even if it means they will flip out or tell you mot date this boy. The good thing that comes of this is They will start trusting because you are being honest and mature. Don't rush into anything, you have so much time!

Thanks your answer was very helpful. As the others confuzed me a little. What do you think you be the best way to tell the pearents. Especially when they have problem trusting you because of what others say??

80Rhodes
Aug 1, 2012, 09:00 PM
The best way is to calmly approach your parents and be willing to really listen to them as much as you are doing the talking. Your parents love you and may not like the idea of you dating just yet. You may not like hearing that because I know you really want this. But. I also know your parents just want to what is best for you. You are their little girl! I am certain you believe dating this boy is not sexual and you should stress that when you talk to your mom and dad. To prove this, Maybe you could agree to having group dates or he could come over to your house or you could go to his. Compromise. Start slowly! It is true that boys are very persuasive and very horny! They really will say ANYTHING to you to try to get into your pants. Keep this in mind. Your parents, as lame as you may think they are, know a thing or two about this stuff and do not want you to be in a situation that you are not ready for. Like... being alone in this boy's car and he is putting a lot of pressure on you to do things you are not ready for. So! What are you going to do? Talk to mom and dad about how you like this boy and would like to date him but you will compromise and see him under supervision if necessary. This will show some maturity on your part and rebuild their trust in you. I cannot tell you how important that is. Your relationship with them will be better and will make you all happy! Always do what is right, it will make some people happy and amaze others! Good luck to you! :)