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wrighty86
Jul 30, 2012, 01:06 AM
Hey guys... so my ex finished with me about a month ago, said she doesn't want it anymore. We have a 2 year old little girl and we lived together. At first I was weak and txted her all the time, etc. Then I realised that it was no good so stopped. In the last 3 weeks she has told me she does love me, and she is making a mistake by doing this. She would be all over me, sex the lot, then the next day she would be no I'm sorry its over again. Saying she so confused! This has really hurt me and done a lot of damage. As though when I get on with things she needs and wants me. Then it over again! Any advice on what to do would be great. Hardest thing is we still have to see each other because of our daughter

Gamed
Jul 30, 2012, 01:28 AM
She obviousy is emotionally unstable. If this was a college love story id say leave she isn't even smart enough to make a life decision that will last a day.

But this is different there is a child involved. You need to stop clinging to her she wants to leave let her go she doesn't deserve you. Show her that you aren't always going to be their waiting for her if she leaves. Next time she wants to break up say ''Fine you can leave to find what you want because all I want is a loyal partner and my daughter.'' If she comes back crying stay strong remember what she put you through. AS SOON AS SHE LEAVES see other people this will 1.Make her change 2.Youll meet someone new that's a better mother to your daughter and partner.

I'd love to hear what the outcome of the situation is.
Goodluck

wrighty86
Jul 30, 2012, 04:28 AM
Long story so stay with me... my ex finished with me like a month ago. We have a 2 yr old little girl too. We lived together and it broke me to move out and only see my little girl 3 times a week. At first I was begging and txting non stop, stupid as it only made her worse towards me. So as hard as it was I told her I love her and want our family to work, be together. After that I backed of, didn't text or anything. Just focused on my daughter and me. After about 3 days of me trying to be strong and realise single life is gun be OK, still have my daughter etc, she told me she does love me and want me so lets take it slow and get it all back. Had sex and all the loving things. So I feel great and then we wake up and she doesn't want me again. Destroyed me again. She has done this to me at least 5 times in the last month. I start getting stro.g and she then says what a mistake and she loves me, then she ruins me. I should learn from it but as I love her and want our family together I always believe what she says. When I leave her alone she wants me thwn she doesn't. Head is a right state at the minute and just could do with advice and some strength. We still see each other 3 times a week because of our daughter. In worried about xmas,bdays, being alone etc. Any ideas as I'm hurting and thinking I'm in the wrong for assuming we would work

Bbratzmama
Jul 30, 2012, 04:48 AM
Sounds like a case of she doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to either.. I would giver her the space she asked for. Keep an open mind, don't stay with someone that doesn't give you what you need because of your child. And if she loved you she wouldn't hurt you. PERIOD. I realize that people change but you don't hurt someone you truly love. Sounds to me like she is riding the fence post... Maybe talking to someone else when things don't go her way she calls you.. She needs to choose a side soon or it will slide smooth up her a*s... Good luck :-)