I love him very much but I had to end it because we were in a long distance relationship. Although our time together was amazing, being apart from him upset me too much. He was also terrible at communicating via text, etc. Sometimes he’d go three days without contacting me. It wouldn’t have been so bad if he was in touch regularly.

Anyway, he’s already been sending me messages on Facebook. I was quite shocked because he seemed to take the break up well when I ended it. We even hugged and told each other to take care.

At first he messaged me saying ‘Are you OK?’

I replied saying ‘I think it’s best we don’t talk to each other for a while. I’m sorry…’

Then he said ‘I’m a bit confused with how sudden this all is to be honest. You couldn’t stop kissing me the last time we were together and now you don’t want to talk to me? It’s a bit strange don’t you think?’

What do you think is going on in his mind, guys? When we broke up we we’re chatting for at least half an hour about why I wanted to break up, e.g. the distance, him not being attentive enough… so it’s not like he didn’t get closure.

Also, just so it's clear, I broke up with him in person. Not by Facebook/text/email.

Are you finished with him or not? Pick one or the other. No wonder he is confused.

Maybe its not closure he needs but to be ignored. An ex will keep trying after a break up, and if you keep talking to them, they will keep trying.

First three days of no contact on a long distance relationship is not really that bad, so you are needy and want more contact, have you discussed this with him. Obviously he does not want or need as much. So you are both different, so some middle ground should have been reached, not always your way, not his.

Next do what do you want to do ? If it is break up, then unfriend him, don't read his messages and stop contact, if you want to try again, then do that.