tillymoore
Jul 28, 2012, 11:34 AM
We knew we were mean to be together the week we met so breaking up is not an option.
He started sweet and caring and so selfless.
I went on holiday
1 week into it a past boyfriend offered me emotional support and helped me through a rough night. My boyfriend complained that it should have been him helping me. And then went into a pit of despair for 2 days.
2 weeks into it he found a video of me and a boyfriend at the time playing with smoke (aka transferring it from his mouth to mine)
Now he wants me to
Delete every fb pic with a boyfriend in it
Get rid of any possessions accumulated with another boyfriend
Throw away any clothes associated with sex with another guy
Throw away corsets and any underwear another guy has seen
Get new bed sheets and pillows
Get a new mattress
Or he won't come in to my house
And this is all because seeing that vid made him feel sick. He says he can't handle anything associated with another boyfriend because it hurts too much and that we have to start afresh with stuff that's only 'ours'
I know half of it is because he doesn't feel like he measures up and that he's being compared with every other guy
I can't talk to him because he either feels like I'm attacking him or blames himself to the point where he's bawling and I can't get a word out of him so I end up comforting him instead and pretending there is no issue
I know I have a problem too. I'm terrified of not being with him, I love him to death and that's why we're getting engaged at the end of the year. I just can't imagine life without him.
He refuses to get help because no one but family should know about his issues.
I used to have a jealousy problem and every guy left me for it
I won't leave him like they left me, abandoning him will not solve anything
I'm in love with him so I will do anything to help him
But I feel suffocated and restricted and like he has guiled me into this with emotional blackmail
(I'm still on holiday by the way, due back home in a week and a half)
HELP!!
He started sweet and caring and so selfless.
I went on holiday
1 week into it a past boyfriend offered me emotional support and helped me through a rough night. My boyfriend complained that it should have been him helping me. And then went into a pit of despair for 2 days.
2 weeks into it he found a video of me and a boyfriend at the time playing with smoke (aka transferring it from his mouth to mine)
Now he wants me to
Delete every fb pic with a boyfriend in it
Get rid of any possessions accumulated with another boyfriend
Throw away any clothes associated with sex with another guy
Throw away corsets and any underwear another guy has seen
Get new bed sheets and pillows
Get a new mattress
Or he won't come in to my house
And this is all because seeing that vid made him feel sick. He says he can't handle anything associated with another boyfriend because it hurts too much and that we have to start afresh with stuff that's only 'ours'
I know half of it is because he doesn't feel like he measures up and that he's being compared with every other guy
I can't talk to him because he either feels like I'm attacking him or blames himself to the point where he's bawling and I can't get a word out of him so I end up comforting him instead and pretending there is no issue
I know I have a problem too. I'm terrified of not being with him, I love him to death and that's why we're getting engaged at the end of the year. I just can't imagine life without him.
He refuses to get help because no one but family should know about his issues.
I used to have a jealousy problem and every guy left me for it
I won't leave him like they left me, abandoning him will not solve anything
I'm in love with him so I will do anything to help him
But I feel suffocated and restricted and like he has guiled me into this with emotional blackmail
(I'm still on holiday by the way, due back home in a week and a half)
HELP!!