My loving guy of 9 years(& 4 kids later) seems more into everything else than having sex with me. I have since had my tubes done to no longer become pregnant & he avoids or seems it is a chore to have sex. We are only intimate maybe once every few months. I've tried talking & saying how it makes me feel, but it doesn't work. Any advice how to fix the situation?

I could see how that could happen, I've had the same problem, either make a night without kids and dress up and play along with it, see what happens, maybe he's just too use to seeing you as 9 years of wife a 3 kids, and I'm sure just like me and every other mother in the world don't get glamour shot ready everyday... I'm talking French maid costume candles a whip, and deff plenty of free time... And if he doesn't react to that and blows all of what you did to make this happen, kick his to the curb... or He has the respect to you to at least explain why he's been like this

How old are y'all if you don't mind?

We are both 27. Even a kid free night doesn't seem interesting anymore. Just wish the tables would turn & he'd actually be the guy & not want to keep his hands off me. I've lost the baby weight & tried to persuade him to exercise with me, hell I tried to get him to watch porn with me! Thinking maybe he's done, but too comfortable to want to leave.

I can relate to this post completely! The only time my guy wants to have sex is about once a month, and we're 19 and 22. It makes me feel extremely unattractive and undesirable.

I can relate to this post completely! The only time my guy wants to have sex is about once a month, and we're 19 and 22. It makes me feel extremely unattractive and undesireable.

Maybe it is time to get a new guy...