My boyfriend and I have dated for 8 months and we have recently been getting in little fights. I think it's because we were livig together and we were always together. He just told me he needed space and we needed a break for two weeks.

Let me give you some information about him. He is the most honest straight forward guy. Not just to me but to everyone. Trust has never been an issue. He told me he wasn't doing this to find someone else. He was simply doing it cause he wants things to work but he's unhappy and he needs to take a step back.

I was mean to him sometimes because I knew I could be. He would just take it. It got to the point where I would just start an argument about nothing. Anyway he asked for space and I am having a hard time giving it to him.

This is the third day and the 1st two days I have talked to him and texted him and blew his phone up. All of my friends say stop texting and calling him, but is there an easier way for all of this? At the end of the two weeks it would be ideal if we were back together! Help?

If you keep bothering him, you are not respecting his "time" and "space"

You need to talk and set rules, can you both talk once a day, is one email or two email a day OK or does he want no contact at all. Then you set a day, two weeks in the future to meet and discuss the last two weeks.

But to be honest the "I need space' or "I want a break" is almost always a break up.

He just wants you to start learning staying without you..
But accrdng to me silent would work in your case.. Just stop msgng n stop ol d contacts until 2 weeks... See if he told you 2 weeks.. give him.. Have control over you.. Engage yourself in some work which is really important... 2 weeks after it he would come himself.. U would know aftr 2 weeks what is he exactly..
If you keep msgng n callng him.. Its not a space..

He said we will talk once a day. When I talked to him last night he seemed pretty annoyed. But I told him that I trusted him to tell me at any time he feels like we won't be together. I mad a list the first day of things that needed to be changed and how I was going to fix them.

Last night he told me he wanted it to work out. So why is he doing this? Yes I know I shouldn't text him. But it's questions like that that I want to ask.

If its usually a break up than I don't want to do this two week thing. So what do I tell him?

My boyfriend wants to go on a break for 2 weeks. He says we are both single and that he just wants to live his life and see at the end of two weeks if we need to be together. He's a straight forward honest guy and told me he is not doing this to be with other girls. I think he just needs to find himself. Do I do no contact? If so how?

Yeah, treat this as a break up. Go no contact forever, don't know what you mean by how... Think of all the ways you can communicate with someone, and just don't do them. Phone, email, Facebook, face-to-face, texts, etc.

Of course you do NO CONTACT, and the how is to have fun and leave him alone. He will call when and if he is ready!

This is most likely a real break up, would you really want to go back after he has dated others for two weeks. This is not what people who really care for each other do.

He said he wasn't going to Get with other girls and he wasn't trying to move on he just really needs to figure some stuff out.

He told me he wasn't doing this to find someone else. He was simply doing it cause he wants things to work but he's unhappy and he needs to take a step back.

I was mean to him sometimes because I knew I could be. He would just take it. It got to the point where I would just start an argument about nothing. Anyways he asked for space and I am having a hard time giving it to him.

Seems you gave him no choice as not only are you impulsive, and out of control, but mean to boot.He had no choice but to step back and unless you straighten up your act in the next two weeks he ain't coming back.

Maybe some anger management classes or something like that, but its not realistic he will keep putting up with your mean bad behavior. Even go so far as to have a check up if you are prone to wide hormonal changes. ANYTHING to get some guidance in the right direction.

I mean you can understand can't you that you cannot terrorize your own partner! I think this is your LAST, and ONLY chance to make amends and gain his confidence again.

Yup, do No Contact and live your life without him totally.

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Yup, do No Contact and live your life without him totally.

I agree.. Start from a new beginning... Enjoy your life start doing things which give you joy.. Consider it as your break up.. Take up a calendr in d box you start writing your feelings for him.. Your thaughts about him.. But yes involve yourself in othr friends.. Do thngs meet up new people.. Face book and yes don't talk about you boyfriend with your friends the more you talk d more you will be disheartten you both don't speak until 2 weeks at all and aftr that discus calmly what he exactly wants and don't argue... Dat day just hear what he says think about it and reply him aftr a day or two.. Think whethr you want to go back to him or no.. Cause if he did it once again he can ask you for it.. Don't take any deccission in hurry

The first three days I talked to him. And pretty much blew up his phone. Do you think I've ruined it?

Guess you wll never learn, so get help!

I fully agree with Tal. You need to look at why you have treated him the way you have and how you can change your behaviors. So far, you haven't given any indication that you are truly willing to change. Yes, 'blowing up his phone' and not giving him space and time are a continuation of showing him that your needs are more important to you than he is.

Out of the eight months you have been dating, how long have you been living together? Do you still have a place together? If you are the one still staying there, then the only time you should contact him is if there is an emergency involving the apartment (plumbing breaks and floods the place type emergency) or to make arrangements for him to pick up any mail/bills that might arrive during this time and need immediate attention. If you left, then let him contact you. Have a set time to pick up your mail and have no other contact with him.

For the next two weeks (restart the 'break'), show him through your actions that you do respect him and his needs. Get out and make certain you have friends and hobbies/interests that give you time apart from him. Hopefully, he is doing the same. You shouldn't be spending all of your time together. You should have support systems outside the relationship. Think of it as blowing off steam so you don't blow up at him.

Do I think you have made an irrevocable mistake by contacting him? Not necessarily. I think IF you both want the relationship to survive, it will take patience and working through the issues before you move back in together. I think you both need time to show that you can move forward and work on the issues. I would expect the end of the 'break' (if you are still together) to be a beginning of working things out instead of a continuation of the way things were. I would not expect to be moving back in together just because the 'break' is over. Go back to the beginning.

I fully agree with Tal. You need to look at why you have treated him the way you have and how you can change your behaviors. So far, you haven't given any indication that you are truly willing to change. Yes, 'blowing up his phone' and not giving him space and time are a continuation of showing him that your needs are more important to you than he is.

Out of the eight months you have been dating, how long have you been living together? Do you still have a place together? If you are the one still staying there, then the only time you should contact him is if there is an emergency involving the apartment (plumbing breaks and floods the place type emergency) or to make arrangements for him to pick up any mail/bills that might arrive during this time and need immediate attention. If you left, then let him contact you. Have a set time to pick up your mail and have no other contact with him.

For the next two weeks (restart the 'break'), show him through your actions that you do respect him and his needs. Get out and make certain you have friends and hobbies/interests that give you time apart from him. Hopefully, he is doing the same. You shouldn't be spending all of your time together. You should have support systems outside the relationship. Think of it as blowing off steam so you don't blow up at him.

Do I think you have made an irrevocable mistake by contacting him? Not necessarily. I think IF you both want the relationship to survive, it will take patience and working through the issues before you move back in together. I think you both need time to show that you can move forward and work on the issues. I would expect the end of the 'break' (if you are still together) to be a beginning of working things out instead of a continuation of the way things were. I would not expect to be moving back in together just because the 'break' is over. Go back to the beginning.

We don't live together as in we have the same bills he has his own place. But we spend every night together and every second outside of work.

I can tell he is so annoyed by me! But also when I talked to him last night I'm pretty sure he would have told me the break was over if he truly wanted it to be.

He told me that he WASN'T looking for another girl and he WASN'T trying to move on. He's just trying to find himself again. I really do respect what he wants I just thought that contacting him would make him realize that I'm fighting for the relationship.

He said he doesn't want the same relationship that we had because he was unhappy. And so I honestly don't think he'll come back. I know y'all are going to tell me "well then it wasn't meant to be". Although that's true, I just want someone's advice on how to turn this around and get him back!

I just want someone's advice on how to turn this around and get him back!!
I think that ship has sailed.

You can't control yourself, and he won't come back until you do. Now go turn yourself around or forget it!

Why are you being such a troll! Arguing instead of taking the advice?

You can't control yourself, and he won't come back until you do. Now go turn yourself around or forget it!!

Why are you being such a troll! Arguing instead of taking the advice?

Umm troll? That's weird. I'm not arguing! I'm getting all my information out there do I can get all the advice I can. This guy means the world to me. I would hope that at the end of the two weeks he wants to be with me. I was just asking if anyone thought that I may still have a chance to get him back? I haven't talked to him today and don't plan to.

He would have told me last night if he wanted to completely break up and not use the two weeks. But he didn't. So yes I am going out and hanging with my friends and stuff but that doesn't mean I'm still not wanting to be with him.

Then act like it and stop the rude impulsive behavior! Not for one day, for two weeks and forever. Stop being a raging pest. Because you can. Now do the RIGHT thing! Make HIM happy, not unhappy.

He just told me he needed space and we needed a break for two weeks.

He asked for space, no contact, just for 2 weeks. That's all he asked for, but what did you do?


the 1st two days I have talked to him and texted him and blew his phone up



I can tell he is so annoyed by me! But also when I talked to him last night I'm pretty sure he would have told me the break was over if he truly wanted it to be.

You blew it. He asked for space and you didn't even give him an inch of space. He asked to be left alone for two weeks and you hounded and hounded and hounded.

If he wasn't already aware of the type of person you are, he is now.

It's time to leave this poor guy alone, I doubt that there will be a relationship after this.

Well thanks.

Well thanks.

I know that's not what you wanted to hear. If you want someone to tell you what you want to hear, ask you friends, they'll sugar coat it for you. We won't. We base our posts on what you've written.

You have control issues. That much is obvious. You were controlling with him, and mean (because he let you be mean). When he asked for space you continued the control by blowing up his phone with messages. You can't, or won't give up the control you have over him. That's not a relationship, and it seems like he finally realizes that.

If you want any chance of saving this then you need to get your issues under control. Do you want a boyfriend or a puppy that does everything you want it to do?

Do not text him anymore. Let him be. Give him the 2 weeks he asked for, and during that 2 weeks better yourself. Change how you treat him.

I can't say that this will bring him back. It may already be too late for that, you've done quite a number on this poor guy. But even if you two are over, changing your behavior will help you in your next relationship.

I wish you luck.

Thanks! I do know that I am controlling and that's why I want so bad to control the situation. But I have realized that I just can't and if I want him back I have to quit now.

Like I said I know he would have told me we we're completely over and there was no chance yesterday of that was the case. I do think I slipped far away from him when I texted and called him.

But hopefully you are right. I need to give him the remainder of these two weeks and work on my controlling self so that this won't happen again.

Thanks! I do know that I am controlling and that's why I want so bad to control the situation. But I have realized that I just can't and if I want him back I have to quit now.

Like I said i know he would have told me we we're completely over and there was no chance yesterday of that was the case. I do think I slipped far away from him when I texted and called him.

But hopefully you are right. I need to give him the remainder of these two weeks and work on my controlling self so that this won't happen again.

Good for you! I'm glad you listened. :)

I hope you stick to this, and actually do take control of your own behavior. That's the only thing you should be controlling.

I could say "if you care about him you'll do this for him", but really, you need to do this for yourself. You need to get to the bottom of why you treat him the way you do, and why you're so controlling. Even if it doesn't work out between the two of you, and that very well could be the outcome of this, you need to work on yourself so that your next relationship doesn't end like this one did.

I can understand control issues. I have them too. I've had to work very hard to get over my control issues. For me it stemmed from things in my past. I felt that controlling things would spare me from getting hurt like I did in the past. I only ended up pushing people away.

I can't say that I have a complete handle on things. I still tend to dictate things, and I can be controlling when I don't rein myself in. But, I'm a lot better than I used to be. Thankfully I have a husband that understands and accepts me for who and what I am.

Have you considered therapy? Is there something in your past that's made you this way? If you want to talk about it, we're all here to listen, and to help. We're not counselors, but we are honest, upfront, and we'll tell you the truth. I guess you figured that out already. ;)

Well thank you. I think I'm just going to try to fix myself for him. And for myself. I know you say it won't work out. But I really really hope it does!

I didn't say it won't work out, I said it was unlikely. Anything can happen, no one on this site knows what he's going to do anymore than you do. Only he knows. We could all be wrong.

If you treated me the way you treated him, and did the things you did, I wouldn't go back. But that's me. I'm not him.

If you were treated the way you treated him would you want to continue the relationship? Be honest with yourself.

1TOTALLY ignore him! Let him miss you and stop being so clingy and mean to him! Treat others the way you want others to treat you!

Well thank you. I think I'm just gonna try to fix myself for him. And for myself. I know you say it won't work out. but I really really hope it does!

The key words are 'for me'. If you don't make the changes for yourself then they won't stick and you will be repeating the same thing over and over again.

Understand that as harsh as we are on you, all the 'blame' is not your burden to bear. He needs to look at himself and see what changes he needs to make. He should not have allowed you to treat him the way you have. He should have put his foot down long before now.

If the relationship survives the break, you are going to have to work together to mend the foundation. Do not allow guilt or any other negative emotion to cause you to think you have to do everything to make up for the past. Accept responsibility for what you did and make the changes to be a stronger and healthier partner and move forward whether he is with you or not.

Good luck.

I did something horrible. Yesterday I saw him in the car with a girl driving to the next town. And I told my friend and she lives by him. And she said she would see of the girls car was there on the way home. It was. I got upset and texted him this morning. He said I was making this easy and the girl wasn't even there he drove her car from a friends that she stayed at.

You should have kept this to yourself until you had enough facts. But drama queens can seldom contain themselves from such reactions and confusion.

Think before you act! I don't know what the facts are, neither do YOU!

What do y'all think?
He's supposed to call me later?
Do I say something to him?

Would it be too much to expect you just to listen, and give yourself time to think about what you hear without the dramatics, emotions or over reactions??

No I mean I realize I should have stopped and thought about it. Or turned my phone off so I wouldn't. I really don't know what to do anymore. When he calls what do I do? Obviously I suck at break ups, or I wouldn't even be asking for advice.

Disappear and have no more contact and ignore attempts by them. Thats a clean break and totally appropriate when you get dumped.

But I suspect you will continue to run guys off with your out of control impulsive behavior (CRAZY!! ). Maybe being single and working on your issues would be better than continue getting into these crazy situations. I doubt this is the first time this has happened to you.

You have to have noticed that despite great suggestions you always fall back on "I don't know what to do.".

You do know, its just that you don't want to. Yet you wait for the solution you want to hear, how to get him back. YOU don't. He has to come back on his own, and he shows no signs of that. Actually it seems he is stringing you along, until something better comes along.

The advice I've already posted still stands. Obviously you're not listening to that advice, you're just pretending that you will.

That's your choice, but it doesn't seem to be working too well for you.

Since you won't listen, I'm done. Either learn from your mistakes, do what you said you were going to do, or continue to make these mistakes and drive the final coffin into this relationship.

You're on your own now. Time to put on your big girl pants and sink or swim. Just so you know, so far you're sinking.

Good luck.

Whew! I just read this thread and here's my take... He thinks you're a controlling loon and you're proving to him that he's right. You need to back off and leave him alone and hope that's enough. It may be too late already.

I know if I was in his position and this was going on, you'd be looking for someone else to have on the leash.

Okay thank you for your advice. I am really good at listening to advice I just have weak will power.

He talked to me tonight about what happened this morning with me texting him and he said it made him mad, but he isn't giving up. He still just needs space and that will help.

It opened my eyes and Every time I have the urge to text him I'm just going to turn my phone off for sometime. I'm sorry I didn't put the stuff y'all said in action and I really hope that it's not too late. :) thanks again guys and I'll post updates and those of y'all who are still willing to give advice please do!

We will expect frequent reports as you fight off temptation to contact him!

Help! He's coming over tonight to get his stuff what do I say

Help! He's coming over tonight to get his stuff what do I say

Have his stuff packed up, answer the door, give him his stuff, and say goodbye.

Have his stuff packed up, answer the door, give him his stuff, and say goodbye.

What she said.

Don't get mad at me for asking this. But what's the reason for doing that

Don't get mad at me for asking this. But what's the reason for doing that
It's over.

We are on a break

break = no contact for two weeks

Break, breakup, it's really all the same at this point. He's picking up his stuff. Why would he do that if it was only a 2 week break? The reason is so that he doesn't have to contact you again when the two weeks is up and he makes it official. That's the way I'm reading this.

The reason you pack up his things, don't even let him in the house, hand him his stuff and say goodbye, is because you're doing no contact. Even better would be having a mutual friend pick up his stuff for him.

Yup. Everything Alty said.

So I already have an idea of how this is going to go... tell me if I'm wrong...

You're here asking for our advice and we're giving it to you. Very sound advice really. However, you're not going to listen to it when he comes over, are you?

You'll be back later complaining of or asking us about a new development in the situation and what should you do about it. Right?

Yup. Everything odinn7 said.

(Have you guys done this before?)

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to odinn7 again.

I'd bet you on it, but you'll win.

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to odinn7 again.

I'd bet you on it, but you'll win.

What does that mean?

What does that mean?

The red part means that I tried to give Odinn a "helpful answer" reputation, but I recently gave him one and I have to spread the reputation around before I can give him a "helpful answer" rep again.

The second part means that I agree with him, that you will likely not follow any of the advice we've given, and tomorrow, after he comes to pick up his stuff, you'll be back with yet another "I didn't listen, now he's mad, I don't know what to do, is it over" post.

I would make a bet with him that he's wrong, but it's a fools bet, because I'm sure that's exactly what will happen.

I'd love it if you prove me wrong. In other words, I'd love it if you'd actually follow the advice you've been given. But it's not a good bet. So far you haven't done one thing we advised you to do, so it's safe to say that this time won't be any different.

Ahh... but I was able to give you a +1 for your direct and blunt answer, Alty.

I also would like you to prove us wrong and do what we've said but I see that so far, you haven't listened and just made things worse.

Ahh...but I was able to give you a +1 for your direct and blunt answer, Alty.

I also would like you to prove us wrong and do what we've said but I see that so far, you haven't listened and just made things worse.

You were able to rep me because I rarely say anything inspiring, therefore you had plenty of time to spread the rep. ;) Yes, I'm fishing for compliments. Bring it on. :)

I do have to say, you amuse me.

I do have to say, you amuse me.

LMAO! If I had a dime for every guy that's ever said that to me, I'd be rich. Just saying. ;)

Well here's what happened.
He ended it for good. Told me he had something to tell me and said he didn't want to get back in a relationship.

I thought I would be devrstated. Turned out I was relieved he told me an answer. I laughed when he told me it was over. Idk why but I didn't "beg" for him back or try to be like desperate. I just laughed.

He told me that I wasn't reacting the way he thought I would.. Anyway so I just sent him a text after it was all said and done and said thank you for doing it and I wish him the best.

You guys are going to think I'm stupid for saying this but I still have feeling for him and I want someday for him to come back.

He told me that nothing that I did made his decision for him. He kind of just knew he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore.

I plan on not talking to him anymore and haven't even had the urge to do so. But we will bothe be at the same small university at the end of August and we both have the same friends and hang out spots.

Maybe someday we will rekindle. But right now I will just push him out of my mind and move on. Or make it seem like that.

Good for you. At least now you have an answer and you can move on. Don't move on in the hopes of getting him back. Go out, live your life, date other people, and if it happens, it happens. But don't sit around waiting for it to happen. Okay?

I'm proud of you.

Just be patient I'm going through the same thing at the moment, I know its tough but just try to change and be a better person so that maybe you could have a second chance with him... I don't know that's what I think

Thanks! Yeah I don't want to wait around for him and am really going to try to move on. Im going to give it a month or so and try to move on but if I don't and still have strong feelings I'm just going to try to be friends and have casual hang out time.

Thanks! Yeah I don't want to wait around for him and am really going to try to move on. Im gonna give it a month or so and try to move on but if I don't and still have strong feelings I'm just going to try to be friends and have casual hang out time.

That's the way to do it.

Keep yourself busy, surround yourself with friends, and let your heart heal.

When you're ready you'll start dating again. There's no hurry. Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire. Besides, you still have some work to do on yourself. Don't forget about that. This relationship may be over, but that doesn't change how you treated him, and what you can do to change it.

Is that still something you want to do? If so, now's your chance.

Yes and I know I sound so stupid wanting someone when they clearly don't want me. But that humans we want things we can't have. At this point I just want to get him back the right way instead of being scared to death for an answer in 2 weeks like I was.

Now it's time to figure out my steps to get him back. Don't think I haven't researched this. Obviously I'm asking for advice from here so yes I'm looking for advice. I read somewhere where it said to mark my calendar for 30 days. At the end of the 30 days I should contact him.

Yes and I know I sound so stupid wanting someone when they clearly don't want me. But that humans we want things we can't have. At this point i just want to get him back the right way instead of being scared to death for an answer in 2 weeks like I was.

Now it's time to figure out my steps to get him back. Don't think I haven't researched this. Obviously I'm asking for advice from here so yes I'm looking for advice. I read somewhere where it said to mark my calendar for 30 days. At the end of the 30 days I should contact him.

Sigh.

Have you learned nothing?

The object is not to get him back. It's to learn to live without him. Learn to better yourself. Learn to be the best you.

If I had a dime for every guy I absolutely had to have but couldn't, I'd be rich! Thankfully I followed the advice I'm giving you. I lived, I learned, and I found the right guy for me. If I had hung on to some guy that didn't want me, I wouldn't be happily married with 2 kids, a house full of pets, and living with the man I'm meant to be with. I'd still be sitting around wishing for something I can't have.

If your only goal is to get him back, I see nothing but heartache and a wasted life in your future.

He is no longer in your (romance) life. Now, since there are 7 billion people in the world so there are many men to check out, it's time to get your own act together and eventually find a new date.

Okay I'm just saying thatsbwhatvi plan to do. Could it work? Thanks for the advice I really am going to try to move on

In 30 days? No, it won't work. You will be ancient history by then.

Okay I'm just saying thatsbwhatvi plan to do. Could it work? Thanks for the advice I really am going to try to move on

Sorry, but what the heck does "thatsbwhatvi" mean? I read it 5 times and I still have no clue. Can you try again in English?

Until I know what you're saying, don't know if it will work or not. I'm guessing it won't, but that's a guess. Remember, we speak English, not bingo. It's before, not before, and I have no idea what "thatsbwhatvi" means.

Are you kidding me? I'm on my phone and didn't type right. It said "that's what I". You can be a bit nicer. All I am doing is asking for advice.. Sorry I had a typo.

Are you kidding me? I'm on my phone and didn't type right. It said "that's what I". You can be a bit nicer. All I am doing is asking for advice.. Sorry I had a typo.

I'm not trying to be mean. Typo or not, I didn't know what you were saying. Was I supposed to pretend that I understood? Would that have made it "nicer" for you?

Sorry, I don't pretend to understand. If I don't know what you're posting, I'll ask. I'm also not one to sugar coat things. I'm blunt, that's who I am. If I don't get it, I'll ask. Which I did. I also abhor chat speak, which is what your post seemed to be.

If you thought I was deliberately being mean, I apologize. I am not a mean person. I simply don't beat around the bush. I don't sugar coat. I say what's on my mind.

Let me put it this way. Ich koente dich nicht verstehen. Darum hab ich gefragt was du meinst.

It's German. Don't understand it? Well, that's how I felt.

If you say "I don't understand" , is that being mean? No. You don't speak German, right? So it makes sense that you'd ask what I wrote. That's what I did.

So wait a minute here...

All this and you came here saying:


Thanks! Yeah I don't want to wait around for him and am really going to try to move on. Im gonna give it a month or so and try to move on but if I don't and still have strong feelings I'm just going to try to be friends and have casual hang out time.

An hour and 3 minutes later, you come back with:



Now it's time to figure out my steps to get him back. Don't think I haven't researched this. Obviously I'm asking for advice from here so yes I'm looking for advice. I read somewhere where it said to mark my calendar for 30 days. At the end of the 30 days I should contact him.

Are you playing us? Are you just looking to string us along or get attention? In your first post, you're ready to just go with it and in your second one, you're planning on, and asking advice about getting him back.

You are setting yourself up for some major emotional pain. You haven't listened... you heard, but didn't listen. All the advice you're getting is just thrown out the window. I'm done here. I feel this is just a waste of time as you are already set on what you're going to do and you're just asking us just for something to occupy your time.

Then don't answer me if you don't want to. Duh when you're going through something you act out of instinct and I am sorry but I love the guy. First and last time I ever use a website for this stuff. :) thanks so much.

Then don't answer me if you don't want to. Duh when you're going through something you act out of instinct and I am sorry but I love the guy. First and last time I ever use a website for this stuff. :) thanks so much.

You think nobody else here has been through anything like this? You think we're just pulling these answers out of our as$es? No, you don't just go on instinct... but I do see that you just go on impulse... and in the long run, you will be sorry that you did.

First and last time? So sorry. You're welcome!

I've posted on this before and got upset, but I really have changed the way I look at things.

My ex broke up with me about a month ago. At first it was a break, and then a week later he ended it. I have been annoying and called and texted him. (stuff I knew I shouldn't do) he stopped talking to me and just started ignoring me. Well one day I saw him and he called me crazy:( and then I realized I have got to change the way I'm going about this. I sent an apology text saying I was sorry and hope that someday we could be friends.
He replied and said its okay I accept your apology and this this was it he needs some space.

I didn't talk to him for about a week. And then saw him driving one morning and called him. He surprisingly answered and then he asked about another guy and acted like he didn't care. I asked him to get a drink and he said he would call me later on in the week.
I've texted him a couple times since then. (it's only been 3 days) one of my texts said are we still on for this weekend? (from me) and he said "umm yeah about that idk if I'm ready for that, it's not you it's me! I'm not saying no but not yes either"

I never replied and that happened last night. I was this guy back and I want to go about it the right way. Please help me out.

You sound like you desperately want him back. Just chillout and don't contact him so much, and if you do just do the basic one question one answer kind of communication - you must give him space though, probably a month should do it. If he texts you like that it means he's telling you to back off

Okay today he texted me and asked what I was doing? So I called him and asked if he needed something. He told me to come over so I did and then he told me that he thinks about me everyday and he has to try his hardest not to talk to me and now we agreed to work things out but right now we aren't in a relationship because we are trying to take it slow.

What do I do? I don't want to mess this chance that I have up.

Merged

How do you work things out without being in a relationship? Work out what things? How?

Why are you so all fired pushy about this? Desperate is NOT attractive. Neither is obsession. His agreement to talk it out and take it slow sounds so great to you, but all he has done is remain free, and uncommited and is no way a reason to have false hope.

Its one of those hope for the best but plan for the worst kinds of situations.