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Miawallace27
Jul 24, 2012, 11:12 AM
So a little over a month ago, I met a guy while out of town. We had a great night together and ended up having sex. I made it seem like it was a one night thing, but he came back the next day and we had sex again. When I got back to town he pursued me heavily. Texting me all the time and telling me he thinks I'm great.

A week later we met up in a nearby city and had an amazing weekend as well. Now I'm used to getting my heart broken, so I had a huge guard up and was acting like it was just sex. He kept saying that you can't do that with love, and that you have to give it your all, and all these other sweet things.

When we went home we continued to talk almost every day, and he would always say he wished I was there with him. Finally I caved and told him I had feelings for him, and he didn't even freak out. We continued the same way.

Then one weekend he was going back to the city we spent the weekend in, but said it was a boys trip. He sent me a pic of the hotel we stayed at to be cute, but then he went MIA for a couple days so I texted him. I told him I would be visiting his home town, but he said he wouldn't be in town. I acted nonchalant about it. But then he changed his mind and stayed.

I was busy with family that weekend so I only got to see him one night. The whole weekend he texted me. Then we spoke on the phone and he said all those things about love, and how he acts like that until he gets hurt. He also kept saying that all I want from him is sex. How I have this guard up against him.

So we had a great night together again, but this one seemed very deep, with a stronger connection. But when I got back, nothing, silence! He just disappeared.

I admit I have always been reserved from showing emotion, but I think physically I do. What on earth happened?? Help me please!!

Fr_Chuck
Jul 24, 2012, 11:24 AM
Let me see, he was looking for a relationship and a girl friend, and you were treating it as a booty call, You keep your "guard" up so much he was not let in, so he did not want to waste his time on someone just looking for sex.

Miawallace27
Jul 24, 2012, 02:00 PM
Let me see, he was looking for a relationship and a girl friend, and you were treating it as a booty call, You keep your "guard" up so much he was not let in, so he did not want to waste his time on someone just looking for sex.
But I thought t was clear how I felt! Also that weekend he was on the boys trip I saw a pic with him and a girl. But thought nothing of it cause this past weekend his behavior didn't change. Could that be a factor?

Homegirl 50
Jul 25, 2012, 09:35 AM
First off, stop starting new threads with the same question.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/just-started-dating-guy-but-worried-hes-cheater-684471.html and https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/does-he-really-like-me-675047.html
All you have is a sexual relationship with him and appears he has found another sexual relationship. You need to leave him alone. Stop being a booty call and one that seems to beg for it.
Get to know a person first the next time For get about him.