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Jasper23
Jul 23, 2012, 12:46 PM
All right. Well I'm 17. And the girl I'm in love with is 16. Ill just start from the beginning.
I met this girl through some friends beginning of April 2010. Talked like a day. We clicked instantly. I asked her out on a date, we had so much fun. I honestly fell in love with her when I caught a glimpse of her. Anyway. We started dating instantly. And everything was fun but we fought so much. At least everyday. We broke up 2 or 3 times a week. We last for about 3 months doing that. She ended up dating someone else. But I ended up getting her back. Our relationship was off and on. But we loved each other. She cheated. More then once. With my friends. And I dated other people. I never cheated though. We went through so much. And the whole off and on thing went on until September 2011. My parents thought I needed help because I was doing drugs so they sent me off to some wilderness program. I didn't have any contact with her for 2 months. She ended up leaving me for my best friend while I was there. I had no idea until I got back in November. The day I got back I saw her. And everything was perfect... I thought we were going to be back together and everything. Turns out she loves my best friend. I know there are some other people out there that knows how that feels.. It hurts. Bad. Anyway, it came to the point where she had to pick between me and my friend. Well all of a sudden we didn't talk for days. And so I finally called her and it turns out she tried calling me everyday and I guess my phone was messing up and it sent her straight to voicemail. I used to have a voicemail where I was talking but I changed it to just the default voicemail they have. And she thought I was ignoring her. So she ended up picking my friend. I haven't talked to a girl really since then. I mean yeah friends that are girls. But I haven't had the urge to date anyone else BUT her.. We didn't talk from December until last month. She's still dating my Friend but they are fighting like me and her used too. Me and my friend started hanging out again so she's always with us. And just 2 days ago. He slept the whole day when we were at his house.. and we started talking. And I finally confessed to her that I still loved her. And that I thought about her everyday.. She said she can't say she stopped loving me or thinking about me because she would be lying.. You have no idea how amazing I felt right then.. well she ended up calling me that night. And last night. And we talk during the day when he isn't around.. but now she's wanting to hang out.. just me and her. Or just with someone that won't tell her boyfriend. And my Best friend.. I want to hang out with her.. But I honestly don't want to hurt my friend like this.. Yeah he did it to me. And Ive done it back to him. But I don't want to hurt him. But I don't want to lose her.. so basically. My question is.. what do I do.. I'm lost. :/ Sorry that I typed a lot. Just a lot to tell I guess..

Homegirl 50
Jul 23, 2012, 01:21 PM
Why are you confused? There has been nothing but drama; lying cheating back and forth, fighting since you have known the girl. She is bad news.
Get a clue guy. Leave this girl alone!

Jasper23
Jul 23, 2012, 02:17 PM
Why are you confused? There has been nothing but drama; lying cheating back and forth, fighting since you have known the girl. She is bad news.
Get a clue guy. Leave this girl alone!

All right I kind of made it seem like it was all bad. It wasn't. All the good times we had together it was just amazing. It made it better then the bad. And I never cheated. If you read it all you would know that..

Homegirl 50
Jul 23, 2012, 02:28 PM
You are delusional. You reread what you wrote. You fought almost everyday, broke up 2 to 3 times a week. Doesn't sound good to me. She cheated on you more than once with your friends. Doesn't sound good to me. This relationship is full of lying cheating and drama and now she is messing with your best friend and you want to step in on that to get this girl back.
This girl is bad news. Do you think you can't get anybody else?
I'm not understanding the confusion here. Grow a pair and leave this girl alone. She is leading both you guys around by the balls.

Jasper23
Jul 23, 2012, 02:43 PM
When we broke up we would get back together like an hour later. Yeah I know its bad. I've had chances with other girls I just didn't take the chance. Its hard. And I wanted someone to give me an answer not a lecture. I don't get why your acting like a about it.

Homegirl 50
Jul 23, 2012, 02:47 PM
You asked what do I do? And I told you. Leave her lone. She is no good for you. Nothing but trouble.

Jasper23
Jul 23, 2012, 02:48 PM
All right. Thank you. Now was it that hard to be nice?

Homegirl 50
Jul 23, 2012, 02:54 PM
Alright. Thank you. Now was it that hard to be nice?
I told you that from the beginning, you didn't like it and then told you in terms I hoped you would understand. I still don't thunk you get it but that's OK.
Just leave her alone. She is bad news.
No need to get smart.