Hi... im 16 year old... actually I had some really near friends between guys... but this time is different I started to know a guy who is 23 years old and since the first time I saw him at a friends house but not ina normal way... we'v been just sending text message to each other since 6 months ago and now we have some deep feeling for each other... although we haven't see each other for a second time... I just want to know if I should continue or not..

Unless you want him to go to jail, I would stop right away before you both do something stupid.

Do you live in the USA? I'm just interested for laws and stuff.

You also have to think about whether he just wants to use you for sex or other things. This can be common for elder men and younger girls. There is no doubt about whether you have feelings for him, but on his behalf, indeed he may have feelings for you, but they may be more driven on the idea of your body than yourself. Especially as you haven't seen each other for a second time. I hope this has helped <3

You do not need to see him. He is too old for you for one thing. Does he know you are only 16?

It is really not necessary to keep this friendship with a 23 year old boy. Concentrate on your studies, all other things can add up later in the life.

You don't need to be just friends with a 23 year old, especially since you like him in a "different" way.
You have nothing in common with a 23 year old and he has nothing in common with you. There is no reason for him to be communicating with you.

You can keep the friendship. Every friendship doesn't mean bf & gf stuff and you don't need to meet up also. But it is really not necessary to keep this friendship with a 23 year old boy. Concentrate on your studies, all other things can add up later in the life.

You don't have a 16 year old daughter do you? Friendship is not an option here, this guy is a borderline pedophile. Would you let your daughter keep a "friendship" with a 23 year old?

You don't have a 16 year old daughter do you? Friendship is not an option here, this guy is a borderline pedophile. Would you let your daughter keep a "friendship" with a 23 year old?

I don't have but where did she mention about any sexual texting or movements? But I think you are right. I changed my above comment for the betterment of the kid and for other kids who can/may read these posts.

hi ...im 16 year old ....actually i had some really near friends between guys....but this time is diffrent i started to know a guy who is 23 years old and since the first time i saw him at a friends house but not ina normal way...we'v been just sending text message to each
This is not a normal and innocent communication, at least not on her part and he has no business communicating with her at all.

You don't have a 16 year old daughter do you? Friendship is not an option here, this guy is a borderline pedophile. Would you let your daughter keep a "friendship" with a 23 year old?


Now THIS is offensive to everyone who posts here and if it's not against the rules it should be.

Original answer: "You can keep the friendship. Every friendship doesn't mean bf & gf stuff and you don't need to meet up also. But it is really not necessary to keep this friendship with a 23 year old boy. Concentrate on your studies, all other things can add up later in the life."

Then my colleague, "Cobra," questioned the thinking.

NOW the (amended) answer reads: "It is really not necessary to keep this friendship with a 23 year old boy. Concentrate on your studies, all other things can add up later in the life."

This is dishonest!

And another case for ALWAYS quoting the person you are answering, particularly if they can never be wrong.

Yes he does

Now THIS is offensive to everyone who posts here and if it's not against the rules it should be.

Original answer: "You can keep the friendship. Every friendship doesn't mean bf & gf stuff and you don't need to meet up also. But it is really not necessary to keep this friendship with a 23 year old boy. Concentrate on your studies, all other things can add up later in the life."

Then my colleague, "Cobra," questioned the thinking.

NOW the (amended) answer reads: "It is really not necessary to keep this friendship with a 23 year old boy. Concentrate on your studies, all other things can add up later in the life."

This is dishonest!

And another case for ALWAYS quoting the person you are answering, particularly if they can never be wrong.


Never meant for the post to be changed, I simply felt that the post did not reflect through the eyes of a father, which in this case I feel it to be quite important, especially since we are giving advice to someone else's daughter.

My sincere apologies if I offended anyone.

Never meant for the post to be changed, I simply felt that the post did not reflect through the eyes of a father, which in this case I feel it to be quite important, especially since we are giving advice to someone elses daughter.

My sincere appologies if I offended anyone.

No you didn't offend me anyway. In my comment I have agreed with you and changed my comment for others and also informed you about that too.

Thanks for correction. I appreciate it.

Never meant for the post to be changed, I simply felt that the post did not reflect through the eyes of a father, which in this case I feel it to be quite important, especially since we are giving advice to someone elses daughter.

My sincere appologies if I offended anyone.


No, no, no - nothing offensive about your post at all.

I find it offensive that a person posts, someone questions, the first person CHANGES the initial post and then the thread makes no sense.

I have always found you to be very "ethical," if that's a good word, and straight forward. This was NEVER a criticism of you.

No you didn't offend me anyway. In my comment I have agreed with you and changed my comment for others and also informed you about that too.

Thanks for correction. I appreciate it.



Do you understand that when you go back and change your answer you throw off the entire thread? If "Cobra" had not quoted you no one would have a clue what was going on.