Okay, so this is going to be long, but here goes.. my girlfriend and I been in a relationship for over a year, were both young but it's been tough.. I don't know how to make her happy, I Haven't known since we started dating.

Our relationship has been 1 year of hard fights that I have Always been at fault for. Everything has been my fault and she's always right and she's always disappointed in me. Nothing I do or say comes out right.. but for the past month or two things have been really bad. It gets harder and harder to connect with her, we are less and less intimate, I find myself begging her to kiss me like it's a chore for her even though she says I'm a really good kisser she isn't into it. She won't lay and cuddle with me like we used to, we don't play and feel and talk like we used to, all she wants to do is sit and watch TV. I ask what's wrong and she gets mad at me for asking even though I can see it in her eyes, I can hear it in her voice, I can feel it in the little pecks she gives me because she "isn't in the mood to kiss".. I can feel she's unhappy and my worst fear is that she's just still with me because she feels bad for me.. if that were true it would break my heart.

The worst stuff started a few weeks ago when we were texting each other late at night, asking each other questions and we had to answer them honestly. Well she asked me who else I would have sex with, and I thought I had to say Someone so I just made up someone from our school and an excuse that it would be good and that's why I would... well, she didn't like it, at all.. something I said hurt her really really bad, and that wasn't even my intention!

So the next day we were with each other at my place and she told me she wouldn't have sex with me until prom, about 10 months away. This upset me, a lot , because I've been used to having sex 3-5 times a day almost every day with her, since October of last year.

A complete cut off threw me off guard, but I still bent the rules and seduced her a few times, but the few last times we have had sex I could tell she wasn't into it, she wanted it to be done nice and fast and then right when it was over she got up got dressed and acted like it never happened, leaving me laying on my bed feeling not good enough for her (size wise) and feeling bad because she didn't really want to anyway. It was sort of sympathy sex.

It also had a lot of other effects on me, this last week I've been Very on edge and jealous and suspicious and Extremely insecure. So I checked her Facebook because I knew her password, just to see if she was talking to anyone else, turns out she was online when I was checking it, and she was major flirting with some guy way way older than her! So I had the pleasure of sitting there watching the one person I've ever truly loved flirt with some guy that came out of nowhere! I was extremely hurt, so I confronted her about it, over text, but instead of apologizing or explaining anything she dumped me...

This left me that night apologizing to her and trying to get her to take me back, but she told me she didn't feel intimate with me. That crushed me, because for the last few months I've just became more and more in love with her. So there I was thinking everything was fine but I didn't know that she was losing feelings for me..

Yesterday we talked and she told me she wanted to be just friends for awhile so she could figure out if she really wanted to be with me. Of course I was crying, but she wasn't..

This summer I've cried in front of her about 5 times, and every time she seems to care less and less..

Today we were getting along, I tried to flirt with her to try and bring back some of her feelings but she never picked up on it like she did with the other guy.. I tried straight up telling her I want to be with her but she told me that I need to change if I want to be with her, she says I get mad at little things too easily and I don't listen to her, and of course I couldn't tell her I would change because I've told her that several times, none of which I Did change.

So here I am with 2 choices and feeling unattractive, insecure, jealous, confused, unsure and very, very unhappy. I can tough it out while she has time to think and see what happens, or I can just leave, which I've had Plenty of times where anyone else would've dumped her in a second, but I just can't do it. I can't leave her, I can't let her go, I love her too much.
I don't know what to do or say to make both of us happy while still being with her, please help.

You are hopeless. I say this because, even though she treats you like crap and clearly doesn't love you in return you love her more. You're going backwards and it's because of your insecurities. I don't get why people can be insecure, when love is blind and knows no boundaries and the people who matter don't mind, and the people who mind don't matter.



This upset me, a lot , because I've been used to having sex 3-5 times a day almost every day with her, since October of last year.

No freaking wonder she's sick and tired of you! 3-5 times a day! I truly hope this is exaggeration, because 3-5 times a week is too much let alone a day? Sex isn't an activity to do, it's something that happens when two financially capable adults love each other and want to start a family. You guys aren't even out of high school, how did you plan on raising a child if she became pregnant, hope you had a good job.

Anyway, you've got a lot to learn about love. Having sex 5 times a day does not show that you love each other, after a while, it does the exact opposite. Making love should be the most intimate thing a couple can do. When that becomes a chore, what else is there left?

Take this relationship as a lesson. Don't wait around because she's not going to come back and you shouldn't want to go back. Go find someone who treats you right! Not brings you down.

Oh and if you can't go a week without having sex, maybe you should get some help for that. You shouldn't be humping around like a rabbit at your age or you're going to have a kid before you're 20 and possibly ruin your future, it's really not worth it. My cousin, who is now 23, had a kid at 18 and another one a year ago. She works at a call center, hates her job, her and her boyfriend can barely pay the bills and they jump from apartment to apartment. Think about the life you'd have if the girl you're having sex with got pregnant, and don't say "birth control and a condom" because you can still get a girl pregnant using both of those.