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Amberlee122
Jul 20, 2012, 09:31 AM
Please tell me how you males find it okay to get horny and wank over other woman when you have a girlfriend who is dying tk have sex with you?

Fr_Chuck
Jul 20, 2012, 09:44 AM
A man does not do it instead, they do it in addition to. The women does not have time in the morning she has to get her make up on for work. The women can not tonight, she just did her hair and can not mess it up. It works both ways. If you and he are not having sex and he is doing it instead there is a issue

JudyKayTee
Jul 20, 2012, 12:50 PM
Please tell me how you males find it okay to get horny and wank over other woman when you have a girlfriend who is dying tk have sex with you?

This is more discussion and less question.

Because they can.

I don't think "you males" is accurate because this is not "all males." This is, apparently, your boyfriend.

CravenMorhead
Jul 20, 2012, 02:08 PM
Hi. I am a man. I don't think JudyKayTee could have been more succinct.

Because we can. Because we want to.

It is scratching an itch. It is a personal and private moment for the guy. Alone, no expectations, no one else to please, no one else to judge. Just himself. The porn is just there to provide a thought, a seed of fantasy if you will, for him. It isn't a reflection of any deficiency you believe that he might think you have.

The male is a visual creature. We get aroused by what we see. The female is more of a emotional/intellectual arousal. You can read a trashy romance and get turned on. We try to do the same thing and... doesn't work. Just as if you were to watch a porn, chances are you wouldn't be aroused.

The specific answer to your question is, "Because it is okay."

Unless he is doing it to the exclusion of you. You might want to initiate more if you're dying to have sex with him. It isn't solely up to him to start making love.

I feel the need to also draw a difference between making love and a quick wank. Making love is a long affair that ends ideally with both participates being satisfied as well as some fluids being exchanged. A quick wank is a 5 minute affair that usually leads to a sock needing to be washed.

I understand that you're annoyed, just by the tone of your pose, so this is the advice I have to you:
1). Calm down and think about this a little.
2). If it is REALLY bugging you, than talk to him. Get him to be more discrete with his activities. For the love of all that is holy don't tell him to stop. He won't. He will just be more clever.
3). If your sex life is suffering, than talk to him.
4). If it isn't suffering than there is no problem. He is still making love to you.

He probably isn't dissatisfied with you. Realize that.

JudyKayTee
Jul 20, 2012, 02:22 PM
I feel the need to also draw a difference between making love and a quick wank. Making love is a long affair that ends ideally with both participates being satisfied as well as some fluids being exchanged. A quick wank is a 5 minute affair that usually leads to a sock needing to be washed.


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