My question is it has been only 4 weeks and my girlfriend stopped all contact with me. She has been a wonderful person but she forced me to get aggravated with her. But she led me to believe she wanted me to have a relationship with her for the rest of her life. We are not kids. She is going on 41 and I am older.

How can I get this girl to understand this was true love for me? After one year of dating I feel she is the one, but I think she could be an opportunist. Just trying to get married to whoever offers her something. But she is always with her parents, and cannot do anything behind their back.

Anyway this 41 year girl is beautiful. She was crazy about me in the beginning through half the relationship. I noticed she could not do anything without her parents knowing. Yes she lives with her parents. They are nice people who loved me but I was frustrated because this girl who claimed she loved me and wanted me 4 ever, started to get tired of certain arguments but it was almost impossible to not argue because of her values.

I cannot reveal everything but having a physical relationship was not of that much interest to her. Yes she was attracted to me and that is one of the things she liked about me my appearance. I am also friends with her uncle and that is how we met. She always felt her parents were first and I was always second or third. But she never told me that I was second or third. Anyway up to Father's Day I was welcomed into their lives but two day later without notice, she got into an argument and stopped all calls coming in.

She is a 40 year old woman. I am older but still young. It is sad to think she is not around and I am trying to figure out how to get her back on my side. She seems tired of arguing but she is delusional and thinks you can never argue in life.

Let the dust settle and leave her alone because if you haven't convinced her to your way of thinking in a year, I doubt she puts you above her parents.

Leave her alone and maybe she misses you, maybe she doesn't. Sorry, but she may be kind of entrenched in her life style, or home style as the case may be, and sex isn't in the cards with her.

You should be old enough to know, when it looks good on paper, it could be ugly in reality.

I posted a question yesterday and I want to thank whoever did respond but now I want to really get to the bottom of this problem.

I am very upset. I would like to fill you in on this matter. I was dating this very attractive woman from Brooklyn, We met over at friends party. This friend of mine happened to be my ex girlfriends Uncle. In the beginning she was overwhelmed with my presence because I was older and she thought I was very attractive to her which was very nice to hear. She is out of work when I was with her. She was homebody in her little world with her mom and dad.. She was a journalist in Colombia and is also educated in paralegal law. Well when I met her our relationship was good while I would I drove to see her one way for 23 miles. I would have done anything for this girl.

But for some reason we would clash at certain things. She is a mommy and daddy's little Senorita`. ( if you know what I am getting at). But this is no little girl at 40 she has the body of a woman but everything was on a time clock and she wants to always account to her parents wherever she goes. We'd be on a date and her mother would call maybe twice sometimes on that date We did practically everything. I brought her flowers twice a week. Gave her gifts but she would pressure me as far as my job which is in Limbo . I have my own business that I need to rebuild. It's bad timing because I was abandoned prior to this from a relationship of 18 years with another woman over 4 years ago. This girlfriend was always trying to be one step in front of everyone, especially me. But I resisted her with arguments.

Her biological clock seemed to be ticking. We argued many times . She will not give in to say she was ever wrong "She is a collector of grievances" where she will not forgot about an argument that happened 6 months ago.and she would bring up past arguments while we were currently arguing. I always said to her LET'S stop and not argue. And believe it or nor she said always that she wanted a relationship where there is never an argument in life. Boy is she going to have a rude awakening Every date in the last 3 months or so I felt like I was walking on eggshells with her.

We dated for one year and it ended on June19th by her standards. I have not heard or spoken to her since except for a cute card I sent her three weeks ago. And her response was in a 7 page letter that I was always treating her rudely. Which is not true. I was the greatest boyfriend for anyone. Except she drove me crazy. People think she has issues and need help. But I still love her

I really think we love each other, but she made an abrupt split with me 31 days ago. All I heard and read was that she was in love over the first 8 months or so, even up to the last two weeks now it seems she is out of this love with some confusion. I didn't expect this. I am very hurt . I want to at least talk with her. I want her back knowing mistakes I made but she seems to be blowing things way out of proportion.

She was a major part of our problems but she doesn't think so. So what do I do with this type of person? She once called the police to find me in the earlier part of our relationship because I was out playing tennis and came home a little late because she worried as to where I was.

I feel I lost all respect from her and for myself which I can't believe. Her parents are hiding now because they are listening to their little princess. I was so close to the family. They loved me but I think she made me look bad in their eyes. I want her back but don't know if that can happen. I miss this person. How do I turn the tables on her? Please respond.

Wow does she sound controlling. Perhaps a bit of a princess. Can you ask her what she expects from you? If you are always giving and she is always taking it will never work. Do you really miss her or the person you thought she was? Remember we always want what we can't have!

Your heart break and confusion is still fresh, but you have to admit that you two couldn't get this to work enough to take things further, and your anger and regrets are very understandable.

You have to realize and accept that this is over, and let go of it.In time you will,but for now, its miserable. I get that, we all do. Obviously when the fun faded and reality took hold it became apparent that you two were not compatible so its only fitting that this relationship ended.

Have you read the stickies here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/)? They can help you understand what's going on with YOU, and give you suggestions to help you through this.

In romance,and relationships you have to expect the unexpected, and deal with the results and feelings and make some positive adjustments for yourself. Sometimes its for the best you leave old spoiled psycho females alone.

They can drive you bonkers. There is no easy quick fix for the break up blues. Just slow and steady healing. The quicker you let go and rebuild a life that you enjoy, the quicker you heal and move on and put this behind you.