Jon567
Jul 19, 2012, 12:00 AM
So hear is the story,
My girlfriend told be a about 6 months ago the one of her ex boyfriends came into her work one day. He didn't know she worked there but talked to her for a few min. and handed her his number. The story I got from her before this was that she cheated on her first love/high school sweet heart with him at a party. She was crazy about him but he broke up with her because he got jumped by a guy that liked her and told him to do it. Witch he did and the guy that jumped him just so happen a year after it all to father her child. 4 years later here we are. She told me that he gave her his number and that she wasn't going to talk to him a few weeks later he shows up again and she told me that they talked out in her car after work since it was really cold out and he and some family issues he just wanted to vent. This is when I told her that I don't like that he is coming in and that it makes me unconformable that she talks to him. We had a talk later on, and she said that she would stop talking to her ex boyfriends that were trying to start talking to her again. A few weeks later she tells me about a girlfriend that she might be hanging out with. She said that she is coming up for down south and she wants to hang out I said OK that fine did you go to school with her I ask? She said no... Ok did you go to church together? She said no... so I just asked where do you know her from? She replied that I don't need to be in her business or need to know everything about who she hangs out with? (Hello red flag) I later find out this is the sister of the exboyfriend that was trying to talk to her. About the sametime I find out that her and her ex talk every know and then. Through Facebook and through texting. I looked on her phone with her permission and went to look at some of the our pictures we had taken. I notice a pictuer of a little girl I remembered her telling me that her ex boyfriend has a daughter. I didn't say anything that I saw it because I didn't want to start a fight he was just showing her a picture of his daughter no big deal I guess. I told her that it still make me unconformable. She said that she hasn't talk to him since he has been asking her to hangout... the past month or to I have noticed she seems more distant. We don't live together but we go to church together sometimes. She will always text me in the morning and say I'm going to church you coming? In enough time for me to get ready we go at 10:05 if we go. Last Sunday she texted me a 10:03 saying Im at church. TTYL. She called when she got out and I asked how it went and if she was coming over. She said she was not sure if she wanted to. I told her I wanted to go out to eat, and that changed her mind. I thought it was weird because we hangout every weekend with our work schedules we don't see each other during the week and she didn't come over at all that weekend. Again I noticed her being distant when she came over she really didn't seem like she wanted to be here. She was out coloring with the kids in the kitchen and I went to my room to get my shoes on when I noticed her phone. I had a gut feeling and against my will to trust her I looked at her phone... She had been texting her ex all that morning and even telling him she is going to church he replied OK be safe. He even sent a picture of him and is daughter that morning. I put the phone down and before we left I just asked her if she had talked to any her friends latly she said no. Then I asked her if her ex finally left her alone she she said, looking me in the eye that he hasn't tried talking to her for a little over a month now. That's when I got upset and we got into a hug fight. I hurt me that all the trust I thought we had she could just lie to me like that about her ex. She says well I lied to her about what really happen to my motorcycle. I feel this is slightly different. After the flames died down a little we are back to talking without fighting. I had a feeling she might be talking to him the past few days. Tonight she told me that she want to be right with the lord and she wants to be a better Christian. So she wants to have no more Physical intimacy (SEX) till we are married. I don't like it but if that's what she wants, and needs to feel better about herself then I will support her. I told her that I will still trust her but she needs to stop talking to her ex. She was quiet for a while and when I asked if she could please do that for me and for us she replied, YA SURE, OK... I told her that it hurts me and is doing no good for us and will keep causing problems in our relationship. She said she will try to stop. Then she says He told her he just wants her to be happy and that he is always here for her and just wants what's best for her... Her ex boyfriend just got suppurated from his wife and she has a new man already. I am a guy I know what he wants and what he is doing but my girlfriend doesn't see it that way. She really doesn't want to stop talking to her ex! Can anyone tell me why this is? Am I over reacting?
My girlfriend told be a about 6 months ago the one of her ex boyfriends came into her work one day. He didn't know she worked there but talked to her for a few min. and handed her his number. The story I got from her before this was that she cheated on her first love/high school sweet heart with him at a party. She was crazy about him but he broke up with her because he got jumped by a guy that liked her and told him to do it. Witch he did and the guy that jumped him just so happen a year after it all to father her child. 4 years later here we are. She told me that he gave her his number and that she wasn't going to talk to him a few weeks later he shows up again and she told me that they talked out in her car after work since it was really cold out and he and some family issues he just wanted to vent. This is when I told her that I don't like that he is coming in and that it makes me unconformable that she talks to him. We had a talk later on, and she said that she would stop talking to her ex boyfriends that were trying to start talking to her again. A few weeks later she tells me about a girlfriend that she might be hanging out with. She said that she is coming up for down south and she wants to hang out I said OK that fine did you go to school with her I ask? She said no... Ok did you go to church together? She said no... so I just asked where do you know her from? She replied that I don't need to be in her business or need to know everything about who she hangs out with? (Hello red flag) I later find out this is the sister of the exboyfriend that was trying to talk to her. About the sametime I find out that her and her ex talk every know and then. Through Facebook and through texting. I looked on her phone with her permission and went to look at some of the our pictures we had taken. I notice a pictuer of a little girl I remembered her telling me that her ex boyfriend has a daughter. I didn't say anything that I saw it because I didn't want to start a fight he was just showing her a picture of his daughter no big deal I guess. I told her that it still make me unconformable. She said that she hasn't talk to him since he has been asking her to hangout... the past month or to I have noticed she seems more distant. We don't live together but we go to church together sometimes. She will always text me in the morning and say I'm going to church you coming? In enough time for me to get ready we go at 10:05 if we go. Last Sunday she texted me a 10:03 saying Im at church. TTYL. She called when she got out and I asked how it went and if she was coming over. She said she was not sure if she wanted to. I told her I wanted to go out to eat, and that changed her mind. I thought it was weird because we hangout every weekend with our work schedules we don't see each other during the week and she didn't come over at all that weekend. Again I noticed her being distant when she came over she really didn't seem like she wanted to be here. She was out coloring with the kids in the kitchen and I went to my room to get my shoes on when I noticed her phone. I had a gut feeling and against my will to trust her I looked at her phone... She had been texting her ex all that morning and even telling him she is going to church he replied OK be safe. He even sent a picture of him and is daughter that morning. I put the phone down and before we left I just asked her if she had talked to any her friends latly she said no. Then I asked her if her ex finally left her alone she she said, looking me in the eye that he hasn't tried talking to her for a little over a month now. That's when I got upset and we got into a hug fight. I hurt me that all the trust I thought we had she could just lie to me like that about her ex. She says well I lied to her about what really happen to my motorcycle. I feel this is slightly different. After the flames died down a little we are back to talking without fighting. I had a feeling she might be talking to him the past few days. Tonight she told me that she want to be right with the lord and she wants to be a better Christian. So she wants to have no more Physical intimacy (SEX) till we are married. I don't like it but if that's what she wants, and needs to feel better about herself then I will support her. I told her that I will still trust her but she needs to stop talking to her ex. She was quiet for a while and when I asked if she could please do that for me and for us she replied, YA SURE, OK... I told her that it hurts me and is doing no good for us and will keep causing problems in our relationship. She said she will try to stop. Then she says He told her he just wants her to be happy and that he is always here for her and just wants what's best for her... Her ex boyfriend just got suppurated from his wife and she has a new man already. I am a guy I know what he wants and what he is doing but my girlfriend doesn't see it that way. She really doesn't want to stop talking to her ex! Can anyone tell me why this is? Am I over reacting?