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lala34
Jul 18, 2012, 06:18 PM
I was recently engaged. My fiancé and I had a very boring sex life. I love him deeply and he is my best friend, but there is defiantly passion lacking in the bedroom. We were in a long distance relations for 9 years. We seen each other once a month when we could afford it. We bought a house together and started planning a wedding. The only problem, we couldn't seem to put commitment into the wedding (ie: pick a venue, date, location). I was a state away working at my law firm on a contract and he was tied to his career.
We split up a few months back, and I started talking to this guy to occupy my time and my broken heart. He turned out to be amazing. Everything about his is wonderful. He is a firecracker in bed (actually gave me my first orgasm), amazing kisser, and very very respectful and old fashion. He opens doors and picks up the check at dinner. He is what I would call, the perfect man (or at least for me).
Now my problem here, is that my ex fiancé wants to work things out (no marriage). I still love him deeply. The guy who I started talking to knows that my ex wants to work things out, and he knows that I am contemplating going back. He is very supportive of whatever decision I make. He too cares about me deeply and doesn't want to see me go, but understands that I have long history with my ex.

My question here is, do you think it is possible to fall in love with a man, while still in love with another man? Or is my mind clouded by amazing sex (which I have never had before)?

Enigma1999
Jul 18, 2012, 06:36 PM
Let me ask you this... What do YOU deep down want to do?

If you are having mixed feelings, then perhaps you should NOT get back together with the ex until you have a better understanding of what you want. Maybe you are not ready to be in a long term committed relationship. Which is OK, by the way...

Great sex CAN cloud a persons judgement. You might think that you are in love with this new guy because he can hit your G spot.

Just be careful... with both men.