Hi, my problem is very long winded but here goes...

I was with my ex for 3 years from 15-18. We split which I was heartbroken but life goes on. Well it would if I wasn't still in love with him! It’s been 4 years since we split and I have either spoken to him, seen him or been drawn back in by him every year since we split.

I dropped all contact with him change my number, email. Me and my partner (who I have been with for 3 years and have a son 1yr with) moved in together, so he doesn't have my address now. Yet he still manages to get in contact with me and I hate it. I turn to mush when I see him. Forget all the bad times and it’s like I am a kid again and just go with whatever he says. He’s constantly in my head, and dreams and I know I am so stupid for even thinking of him because I know better.

I know even if we did get back together we wouldn't work as we are two totally different people now. And I don’t want to mess up what I have now and am scared that I will always want him an I will never be happy in my relationship because I am still in love with him.

He's just one of those people that we always come back to. You wish you can just go on. But because you were with him in an easier time and had lots of fun with him, that's all you see. We always are blind to either the goods or the bads, we can't seem to just remember all of what they were to us. You'll be OK. You just need closure. You need to see that he isn't right for you anyway. That your life is loads better now without him. You don't need him. Enjoy life.