topgun07
Jul 16, 2012, 09:34 AM
Hi all,
I figured this was a good place to get some advice as I have seen others get great advice. I guess the best thing to do would be to give you guys some background on my situation. My ex-girlfriend and I were together for about 6.5 years prior to our breakup near the end of February of 2012. We started dating in grade 12 and prior to me she was in a long relationship as well. All throughout high-school she had a crush on me and after her and her then boyfriend broke up, we started talking and dating. She actually pursued me. We dated for about 3 years and never had any issues. We did have a break up after 3 years because she said she never had the chance to be single and doesn't want to have regrets in the future. I fought for her to stay and I eventually stopped. A month or so later, she came back to me saying that she wants to be with me and etc. We got back together and again we dated and had no issues, without the obvious occasional fight every now and then.
For the next 3.5 years we grew closer, met each others families, went to certain family parties together, etc. We also discussed getting married, kids, the whole 9 yards. In January of 2012, we were great as well, no issues, talked about the same things and just our future together, etc. One day, when she was drunk, she tells me she loves me and really appreciates me and how she wants to spend our entire life together, so it felt very real. And then in February, valentines day went by and everything was still perfect. She later started telling me how her and her friends were talking about marriage and how it really scared her and etc. So to sum it all up we broke up again due to the fact she claims that she doesn't to have regrets and etc. and that she needs to be single to figure things out for herself and what not. Also, she told me that she wish she met me later in life and when I asked if she would ever consider us getting back she said no its not possible, and to me it seems as if she said this because she didn't want me wiating around.
Since then we do not really hang out, she will text me every once in a while, but it is not much. I understand a lot of you will say that we were young so it was bound to happen but at 24 years old, I can tell you that it was very special and it still is to me. To anyone that can provide me with some insight on what might be going on and etc, I would really appreciate it, although I know its hard as an outsider looking in. Should I every ask her out again? Can this be fixed? Any comments or help would be great. Thank you!
I figured this was a good place to get some advice as I have seen others get great advice. I guess the best thing to do would be to give you guys some background on my situation. My ex-girlfriend and I were together for about 6.5 years prior to our breakup near the end of February of 2012. We started dating in grade 12 and prior to me she was in a long relationship as well. All throughout high-school she had a crush on me and after her and her then boyfriend broke up, we started talking and dating. She actually pursued me. We dated for about 3 years and never had any issues. We did have a break up after 3 years because she said she never had the chance to be single and doesn't want to have regrets in the future. I fought for her to stay and I eventually stopped. A month or so later, she came back to me saying that she wants to be with me and etc. We got back together and again we dated and had no issues, without the obvious occasional fight every now and then.
For the next 3.5 years we grew closer, met each others families, went to certain family parties together, etc. We also discussed getting married, kids, the whole 9 yards. In January of 2012, we were great as well, no issues, talked about the same things and just our future together, etc. One day, when she was drunk, she tells me she loves me and really appreciates me and how she wants to spend our entire life together, so it felt very real. And then in February, valentines day went by and everything was still perfect. She later started telling me how her and her friends were talking about marriage and how it really scared her and etc. So to sum it all up we broke up again due to the fact she claims that she doesn't to have regrets and etc. and that she needs to be single to figure things out for herself and what not. Also, she told me that she wish she met me later in life and when I asked if she would ever consider us getting back she said no its not possible, and to me it seems as if she said this because she didn't want me wiating around.
Since then we do not really hang out, she will text me every once in a while, but it is not much. I understand a lot of you will say that we were young so it was bound to happen but at 24 years old, I can tell you that it was very special and it still is to me. To anyone that can provide me with some insight on what might be going on and etc, I would really appreciate it, although I know its hard as an outsider looking in. Should I every ask her out again? Can this be fixed? Any comments or help would be great. Thank you!