I am a 65 yar old woman who raised my children alone and worked like a mad woman to provide. My adult children , 2 of 3 disrespect and demean me. I am being told I am a Narcissistict Mother, I have looked up the descriptions and disagree on most points. My daughter has accused me of doing horrendous things to her most of which are out of context... back in the mid 70's early 80's before setbelts where completely mandatory my kids thought jumping from the back seat in!to the front was great fun, it was dangerous is what it was! After pulling over many times , reasoning with them , my daughter who was perhaps 4 at the time decided to make the trip over the front seat, I put my arm up to stop her and hit her in the nose causing a nose bleed... now the story is thast I back handed her and broke her nose... She never had a broken nose as a child.. Was I a perfect Mom... not! I gave it my all... where is this coming from? Her older brother now 45 hasn't spoken to me for over 20 years and I have yet to meet his wife or children, came scenario, you abused me, you were never here, yet they both have university degrees. My middle son and I have a reasonable relationship. HELP

Why has the older brother not spoken to you?

I understand how you feel. You did your best, but they do not understand. Sending you love and positiveness from my side :)

How else did you abuse them as they claim?

How else did you abuse them as they claim?

Why would you ask this question!

Why would you ask this question !?

Because she has issues with her own mother - therefore, she's on the side of the children apparently no matter what the issue may be.

Here she's recommending leaving a 90 year old woman to fend for herself for a couple of weeks - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/emotional-wellbeing/how-get-over-mothers-hatred-when-she-elderly-683148.html

I appreciate family issues, but...

I can feel how painful it is when children don't love back. But don't worry. You are one of the best moms. Its good that you have a son with you. Keep telling him that how much you have loved all and hope to see the other two future. I believe one day they will surely come back.

Why would you ask this question !?


Because she has serious issues, one of which is punctuation.

At least she and her boyfriend are trying to abstain from sex so there's a chance the chain will be broken. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/christianity/premarital-sex-once-you-start-can-you-stop-628344.html

When 2 children in their 40s won't have anything to do with their mother, the mother needs to look to herself. Were they in their 20s still, I would say have patience. Were this just 1 of 3, not 2 of 3, I would chalk it up to 1 child. But relating just seatbelt/bloody nose story is some sort of denial, I believe. It's never a 'story,' and I'm sure you know it.
You have a 'reasonable relationship' with your middle son - ask him! I can't imagine what you think we can do or ascertain.
This isn't about making the other 2 respect and communicate with you. It's about finding out what you can do to show them a different person.