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mame_chula123
Jul 14, 2012, 02:56 PM
Hi, I have a huge problem right now in my life. I am going to give birth to a child. I just found out a few weeks ago, and I don't know what to do. I'm not ready to be a 15- year- old mom, and I will definitely not have an abortion. I'm scared to tell my family, and the father of my baby. Should I tell him right away, or wait until I give birth? I'm scared if I tell him, that he will say he doesn't want anything to do with me and the baby. I'm stupid for having sex so young. How can I tell my parents? My friend gave me an option to leave the house and run away with her, but.. I'm not sure. Please help.

Fr_Chuck
Jul 14, 2012, 02:59 PM
Let me see running away, living on the street at some point, or having to have sex with someone for a place to live, ( that is where it ends up at 15) Police looking for you as a run away and that being on your record for the rest of your life also. WOW, what a choice.

You acted like a grown up, time to act like one again, tell mom and dad, tell boyfriend, of course it is likely to run off, that is because it is YOUR problem now, and he will not want any part of it. Depending on where you live and his age, he could be in trouble also

Wondergirl
Jul 14, 2012, 03:01 PM
Well, running away (to where?) will not solve anything and will, in fact, make things worse. So forget that.

First, tell your parents. I wish I could be there to sit with the three of you and hold your hand for courage, but I can't. You've made a grown-up decision to have sex, so now you have to do the grown-up thing and talk with your parents about the coming baby.

Your boyfriend is the father, so it is his right to know.

I do wish you well.

mame_chula123
Jul 14, 2012, 03:04 PM
Well, running away (to where?) will not solve anything and will, in fact, make things worse. So forget that.

First, tell your parents. I wish I could be there to sit with the three of you and hold your hand for courage, but I can't. You've made a grown-up decision to have sex, so now you have to do the grown-up thing and talk with your parents about the coming baby.

Your boyfriend is the father, so it is his right to know.

I do wish you well.

Thank you.

Wondergirl
Jul 14, 2012, 03:11 PM
Thank you.

Let me know how it goes, okay? I will be thinking of you.

mame_chula123
Jul 14, 2012, 03:15 PM
Let me know how it goes, okay? I will be thinking of you.

I will. :/

Mobley119
Jul 14, 2012, 07:37 PM
Just to keep in mind there is always adoption. There are many wonderful families who can't have children of their own that have to wait many many years on a list. I know quite a few adopted people, all live wonderful lives.

mame_chula123
Jul 15, 2012, 06:02 PM
Just to keep in mind there is always adoption. There are many wonderful families who can't have children of their own that have to wait many many years on a list. I know quite a few adopted people, all live wonderful lives.

Yes, I know. I would like to adopt, but I have a feeling that when I am already a grown women, I will regret to give away my baby. I'm going to act smart and know this baby changed my life. I want to keep him/her and hope for the best. I already told my family, it was very hard, but there encouraging me to keep my life going and they will help me on the way. :) but now, it's the fathers turn to know. :/