Hi I'm 20 years old and my best mate would like to foster me is it able to be done without going through court and getting my actual mother to hand me over.

I have no idea what you mean by "fostering" or where you are. If you are 20 you are an adult in many places and don't require/qualify for "fostering."

What is the rest of the story?

Adoption is a legal process. ANY question on law needs to include your general locale as laws vary by area. But most areas do not allow an adult adoption.

What is behind this?

Well since I was 9 my best mates mum always used to have me since my brother has died my mother blamed me and don't want to know me my best mate would like to adopt me but without my mum handing me over

This makes no sense - you STILL haven't told us where you are.

Someone wants to adopt you but without your mother signing any paperwork?

If you're an adult the person can adopt you without your mother's consent.

Of course, I don't know where you are so this is a guess.

What is the purpose of the adoption?

At 20 you are most likely an adult and don't need an adoption. You should be able to move out of your mother's house any time you wish to.

I in Swindon the uk

I have already moved out of my mums she chose her boyfriend over me after he purved on me and me and my mate are both happy for her to adopt
Me as my mum don't want anything to do with me

Don't you understand? You are an adult. You don't NEED to be adopted. At 20 you are free to do whatever you want. If you don't want your mother's name, go to court for a name change. But you are too old to be adopted.

Don't you understand? You are an adult. You don't NEED to be adopted. At 20 you are free to do whatever you want. If you don't want your mother's name, go to court for a name change. But you are too old to be adopted.


In some Countries an adult CAN be adopted - usually for purposes of inheritance.

The UK is NOT one of those Countries.

J9 has it right - change your name if that's what you want. Live wherever you want to live.