We aren't dating but he is kind of like a fighting partner. He treats me like a girlfriend but also like a best friend. We have had our moments but have not made any sexual contact. I really like him and I feel like he might feel the same, I can't stop thinking of him, and it's hard to avoid him when I'm in the gym, or just outside my house, he is the 17 year old guy next door to me, best friend..

Your title says he's 22. Your post says 17. Which is it?

Why would either age be interested in a girl who is just coming out of childhood?

Your title says he's 22. Your post says 17. Which is it?

Why would either age be interested in a girl who is just coming out of childhood?

Sorry I accidentally wrote my reply under the answer, but to answer your question: the guy I am interested in is 22 but is friends with the 17 year old next door to me.

You are 13 interested in a 22 year old? You are just entering your teens.
This 22 year old will go to jail messing with you. A man that age showing interest in you is a messed up individual, a predator.
Your title and post don't connect at all. It is very confusing. Who are you asking about?

You are 13 interested in a 22 year old? You are just entering your teens.
This 22 year old will go to jail messing with you. A man that age showing interest in you is a messed up individual, a predator.
Your title and post don't connect at all. It is very confusing. Who are you asking about?
Sorry for the confusion, I like the 22 year old NOT the 17 year old. My question is, would it be illegal for me to date a 22 year old if I am only 13?

Sorry for the confusion, I like the 22 year old NOT the 17 year old. My question is, would it be illegal for me to date a 22 year old if I am only 13?
What do your parents say?

What do your parents say?

My mom doesn't mind as long as we keep it secret do he doesn't get into any trouble. I know that it's illegal to engage in sexual activity but would it be illegal for us to see each other?

I'm curious to know if this 22 year old is mentally challenged. Is he interested in dating you or is it wishful thinking on your part to date him? Most guys this age look at girls like you as little sisters. Any romantic interest is wrong on so many levels.

I cannot believe your mother said that. Either you or she misunderstands.

Yes, it would a be a Very Bad Thing if you and he date. He could very likely end up in prison and be branded a sex offender for the rest of his life.

There are no laws governing dating. If your parents (both) approve AND you have no sexual activity (and I mean NONE) no laws are being broken.

That being said I can't imagine a parent that would allow their 13 yr old daughter to date a 22 yr old. Frankly I don't believe your mother agreed.

Also, I cannot imagine what a 22 yr old would have in common with a 13 yr old. I can't imagine what he would want except sex. He might be leading you on until he can get into your pants.

Any honest and smart 22 yr old would run from a 13 yr old who thinks of him romantically. You are what is referred to as jail bait.

I'm curious to know if this 22 year old is mentally challenged. Is he interested in dating you or is it wishful thinking on your part to date him? Most guys this age look at girls like you as little sisters. Any romantic interest is wrong on so many levels.
I know exactly what you mean by him thinking of me as just a little sister but then he kissed me and it confused me, I have always admired him and thought he was attractive, I practically fell for his personality but tried to forget about it because I thought he thought of me as a little sister but then he kissed me and I started think of the possibilitys

This guy is a creep, a pedophile. Him kissing you is just wrong on a lot of levels.
I would venture to say you are probably not the first 13 year old he has done this with.
If you were my daughter, he would be in jail or in the hospital

I know exactly what you mean by him thinking of me as just a little sister but then he kissed me and it confused me, I have always admired him and thought he was attractive, I practically fell for his personality but tried to forget about it because I thought he thought of me as a lil sister but then he kissed me and I started think of the possibilitys

This pervert kissed you! He is a very sick and twisted man. You need to stay away from him at all costs. Tell your parents IMMEDIATELY what he did before he rapes you!

t he is kinda like a fighting partner. .

What is a fighting partner?

But for him to kiss you, goes way beyond propriety. Tell your parents NOW.

Im 13 and I think that age doesn't matter, but if he's over 18, He's a creeper. I don't think your mom should tell you its all right as long as you keep it secret because its not all right at all. First of all: If he is 22 then He should be in college or at work, not taking a 13 yearold to school. 2nd of all: it is very illegal and if you love him don't send him to jail for sexual conduct. Im 13 and I have no idea what you would see in a 22 year old guy because all that would be going trough my mind would be, "rape, rape, rape, run from rape!". If he's interested in you, than its probable that its some kind of fettish. Its not OK to date a 22 year old when your 13. I get it if your older and say your 34 and he's 45 but that's not the case. You should be thinking about school, and who your true friends are, not who your true love is.

Keeping it secret is even worse because if something happens to you, and he might be the cause, your mom is the only one that knows and someone's bound to find out, then your friends will ditch you, and your life will be over. Its not smart, and I guarantee that he's not going to wait 2-3 years for sex if he's 22.

I don't think its OK for you to date him. Just be friends with him until you it 18, maybe then you can think about him, but right now, think about you, and what college or high school you want to go to, and what you want to do for a living.
Live like you are a teen, it will be the best years of your life.

what is a fighting partner?
What I meant by fighting partner is that we are both boxers but he is my grappling partner

What I meant by fighting partner is that we are both boxers but he is my grappling partner
Grappling? Heavenly days! Now I know why he's hanging around you.

What I meant by fighting partner is that we are both boxers but he is my grappling partner

This man is a SERIOUS pedophile and you need to run, not walk, to your parents or police right now! He is getting his jollies from grappling with you and this is just sick, sick, sick!

Grappling? Heavenly days! Now I know why he's hanging around you.
Not like that -__- I grapple with most of the guys I train with, I'm the only girl do I don't have a girl partner to grapple with. And by the way most of the guys I train with are within the age area of 17-23

This man is a SERIOUS pedophile and you need to run, not walk, to your parents or police right now! He is getting his jollies from grappling with you and this is just sick, sick, sick!! I'm a ing fighter! This is what I do to practice! I win every time and I'm pretty sure that if they were happy, about grappling with me, then they wouldn't be pinned on the floor bleeding, sweaty, and about to cry.

If he's grappling with you AND he kissed you, he's a serious pervert. He most definitely has other things on his mind.

I would report the gym. A gym, even a boxing training facility, that would allow a 13 yr old (whether male of female, but especially female) to "grapple" with adult males, needs to be closed up.

But for him to kiss you goes way over the top. You seriously need to talk to your parents about this today.

Im 13 and i think that age doesnt matter, ... Just be friends with him until you it 18,

While you generally gave good advice here, I wanted to point out these two comments. The only people that say age doesn't matter, are people trying to justify a relationship that is wrong. Age very much matters. It matters less and less as people get older. To the point that when BOTH are mature adults, then it matters extremely little. But when you are dealing with children or young adults, especially when one is an adult and the other a child, then it matters a great deal.

Did you read that this pervert kissed the OP? And she should still be friends? She needs to get away from him now.

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i dont think its ok for you to date him. Just be friends with him until you it 18,.
This creep has already kissed her. Friend zone is out the door. She should stay away from him and he should be in jail. Her parents need to be told about this.