Okay me and my boyfriend have been dating about 1 year and 3 months. We were both 17 when we met in school but didn't talk a lot, then after high school we met up online and started to hang out and instantly liked each other :) And started dating shortly after.
At the time my life was pretty normal.. I had the usual stresses but nothing major. I hung out with people.. not too many but mostly co-workers.
He has a job as well.. but in the begging of our relationship he didn't really have friends... so the closer we grew as a couple, the more he wanted me all to himself.
Well this went on for about 6 months.. I would go out with my friends without him.. and he would get so angry.. he would make me feel bad not intentionally.. but since I loved him I wanted to make HIM happy.. so slowly but surely I started cutting my hangout times with other people.. and even when I did hang out with people I would make sure I was by my phone the whole time if he needed to get ahold of me.
As time went on I got used to this and stopped seeing people outside of work all together.. me and him fought about this occasionally but I ended up trying to see it from his point of view.. and realized that he was all that mattered so I stopped for him.
Well shortly after that I lost my job.. since I didn't do anything outside of work anymore except for seeing my boyfriend.. I had a lot of time on my hands to say the least..
I decided not to get another job just yet because I enrolled in school and I'm going to focus on that.
Well like I said the beginning of the relationship.. it was HIM who didn't have the friends or anything to do except see me..
But now everything has switched around.
HE has the job which keeps him occupied..
HE now talks to some of his old friends
HE is living like how I was in the beginning of our relationship.. and me.. well I'm not exactly sure what happened..
But every time he goes to hang out with someone without me I get SOO mad at him! I changed my WHOLE life to make HIM happy... and he said that that's what he tried to do to.. he said he knew it was selfish of him to keep me away from people I wanted to see..
But it's not that simple just to turn back for me.. because with all of the time that I've spent with him.. now it's like I don't want to hang out with other people anymore... when I do all I can think about is how I'd rather be with him..
I never felt the need to be with someone before.. I used to be my own person with any other relationship... but with this one... I guess I just fell so hard but now I don't know what to do..
It's getting so bad to the point where I get mad no matter what he does.. I want him to fight for me like he used to.. it's so bad that I'd rather DIE than be without him.. that being said...
PLEASE DON'T TELL ME TO BREAK UP WITH HIM..
I KNOW that this is a problem... but I want to fix it.. not destroy it.

Sweetie I am in the same boat. My boyfriend was like that and it switched to me. He made me the center of his world in many ways and I always had my cell in my hand even when I slept. People told me on here to be in charge of my own happiness. Stop relying on him for my happiness. Do that. Call up your friends... go hang out. No do not break up. Just go make a life for yourself outside of the relationship sweetie. It's going to be hard trust me I know. I am still working on it. But also talk to him about it. You can not cut out conversating about a problem. Good Luck :) I hope I helped some.

Healthy relationships outside the relationship are also important.
Reconnect with old friends, join a gym, you're in school so form a study group, keep busy when you are not with your boyfriend.
Most importantly, let him know how you feel and meet in the middle.
If you don't talk about how you feel, you may slowly begin to resent him, leading to hurt feelings and arguments.

You say you want to fix it, so that means a lot of hard work. Old friends will surely take you back into their lives, that's what friends do. You have to force yourself to re-connect as part of breaking out of your obsession. The result is a degree in self-sufficiency that will allow you two to get along better.