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sith
Jul 11, 2012, 01:41 AM
My boy friend doesn't like to sex with me anymore .he suck me once .after that he says he don’t like girls any more .I know it’s not true.
This is our first time sex .he said his first sex partner is me. My first sex partner also him.
I didn’t have sex with anyone else before .he also.(still we haven’t loose our virginity in here sex what I mean is sucking and touching only )
After this happen he won’t texting me or calling me. He completely ignoring me .one day he told me he never meet me again and he want to stop our relationship asked him what s was the reason .first he told me there are no reason then he told me he has some financial problem so he can’t marry me so he said “we must stop our relationship. “Like this every day he has a point to stop our relationship.
He is a Muslim guy .I m not Muslim I am a Buddhist .when we falling in to love he don’t care about our religion but now he care about it.
He is younger than me .I m 7months elder than him. (He 1990 am 1989)i feel like he didn’t love me he just used me .now he want to stop over relationship. But I love him lot. Even he didn’t satisfy me I don’t care I want him .but he didn’t like me.im try to call him but he didn’t answer.

About him
He is a Muslim guy
He s handsome
21 years old
Every time he say he want fun in his life.
He watched too much porn.

About me
Am a Buddhist
He said I’m pretty
I’m 22 years old
I’m a silent person

please help i want him back

Cat1864
Jul 16, 2012, 07:36 AM
sith, I understand that you have strong feelings for him. However, he doesn't share them. Whether the feelings ever existed for him or they changed, he has. This is something you are going to have to accept. I know it isn't easy, but it is a part of life, loving and relationships.

Let him go and focus on moving forward with your own life. Stop trying to convince him to be with you. It isn't working. It sounds like he has tried being nice and letting you down easy. Please, do both of yourselves a favor and walk away before he feels the need to be cruel and mean to get you to back off.

Heal and when you are ready find someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him.

If you want advice on letting go and healing, please ask.

sith
Jul 17, 2012, 01:24 AM
I can't forget him . Please don't say like that.in my life he help me lots. Suddenly he changed .one day before we brake up .he told me we can married where ever I find a girl who love me like you .I love only u .like that
When we love old days he gave his Facebook password and g mail passwords . Yesterday I call him .and ask a help he told me he will help .but I'm not sure about that. Today he changed his password .its make me killing.
Please I want him back I love him lots.

Cat1864
Jul 17, 2012, 11:59 AM
sith, 'forgetting' him and 'letting go' are two different things. You probably won't forget him. When we care about someone their memory stays with us. However, trying to hold on to someone who has different needs than our own isn't healthy-mentally, emotionally or physically.

Even if he did want to be with you again, you still need to take time to let go of the pain, hurt and confusion. You need to focus on yourself and giving yourself 'help' and support. You cannot rely on him to supply your needs. It isn't his responsibility. It is yours. Take some time to do things and be with people (other than him) that encourage you to feel good about you.

For the next couple of weeks, keep yourself busy and try to focus on you. Stop trying to contact him. Stop trying to get him to help you. Look at other resources you have especially yourself. Look for peace within you instead of creating drama trying to get him back. With peace comes security and confidence in yourself. Find that place of inner stability before trying to be in a relationship with anyone.

I know it doesn't seem possible at this moment to be content or happy without him, but if you don't let go and heal, you won't be happy or content with him or anyone else.