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Wazzzie
Jul 10, 2012, 04:59 PM
New to this forum but yea, anyway me and my ex had been dating for at least 1 year and 3 months, We've meet when she was a freshman in high-school (15) and I was a junior (17). She dated one of my friends for a year and their relationship was not as perfect and she said she regret it, only reason why she stayed with him was because she lost her virginity to him and she was attached in a way. She was young and she doesn't know exactly what love is.

The other part is that me and her were talking on and off when her ex were together and sometime I would hangout with her and make-out. She was very young and emotional where she didn't know what to do. So she would break up with him so many times, but end up being together again. She would tell me why are you doing this to me and why are you playing with my emotions. Well to be honest to you guys I was still in high-school and I was living the life. Going out to parties and hanging out with other girls/hooking-up. To me my ex was just any other girl I've hooked up with. I was never a relationship type of guy hence I've never been into one because I thought it was pointless to be in high school.

Anyway she broke up with her ex march of her freshman year. Then we started talking more seriously. Her prom was coming up and she asked me if I wanted to go with her. (Also know the fact I was still living the high-school life and had been asked to prom with other girls) I joking said I already had a date where I was not even planning to go to prom anyway. More like after prom parties is where I wanted to be at.

Getting down to the point, I didn't go to prom, and she went with another guy, she invited me to her prom after party and I went because that was the word of mouth and all my friends were going. We had fun we got drunk and high and whatnot. So it was the end of the night were everyone was passed out and me and her was talking the whole time. Basically tailing each other the whole night. I went to the bathroom and she came in with me and we had a long talk. She was telling me all of her feelings to me as I did also, I told her I was scared to be in a relationship because I don't know what to expect from it. Bottom line is that I asked her out in the bathroom and she said yes. I wasn't really sure what was our status now because I was drunk when I asked her out, lol

Now lets move a little bit faster on to my story. We were dating and that we didn't say we loved each other 2 months later. We were laying in her bed when we said it to each other. It was really hard for us to say we loved each other because it felt really weird to both of us, weird in a good way. Thinking about it it was probably because she and I noticed that this was "real love", "True love" for both of us. She never felt this way before with her past ex. I was her first love and she was my first love.

Fast forwarding more. Me and her had ups and down and breakups where we would break up for like a day or two and make up that day. We've spent precious time together as I would do anything she would tell me to do to make her happy. I told her if you are happy I was happy. We had a very strong heart to heart connection as I gave my whole heart to her. I was basically over at her house everyday for a year and the longest time we weren't together was 4 days.We were crazy for each other and she would beg me to stay longer or stay the night over.

On break-ups she would tell me that she wanted the old me back as I was really confused to how she thought I've changed. I didn't notice it till couple months later. Where we would do the same thing everyday, or is it the part where I was over at her house all the time and we didn't do anything for like 2 months like go out etc: etc: So I did try and change, I took her out plenty of times, bought her stuff etc: etc: then couple months later we got into a petty argument and she mentioned that I've changed again, like this point on I was really confused to what I did wrong. I did try to change and asked her how I've changed. She said that she doesn't know. It wasn't really helping me that much at all.

So moving on we got back and well it seems like everything is still perfect till her best friend moved in with us because she got kicked out of her house. The twist in this is that her best friend had a thing with me and still does. My ex knew that so she told me to be careful around her. She lived at her house for like 5 months till her junior year was over and moving out. Throughout the 5 months when her best friend lived there everything was going downhill. I did not notice it, but my ex did. For me it felt like it was still perfect before her best friend moved in. It didn't bother me at all. But I can tell my ex did because we would argue about her and its arguments about her assumptions that me and her best friend flirt all the time. Which I don't at all. It is probably because my ex is a jealous person and insecure person which she doesn't let me talk to other girls. I respected her so I cut off so many girls that I'm friends with.

Jumping on the week of the break-up, I stayed at my ex house for a week straight as we would spend time with her family at the lake. So we had no space between each other. Oh and remember that everything was perfect between us. So on that week we went to the movies and watched Men In Black 3, took her on a date basically. I stayed the night that night and told her I had to go home sometime to see my family, so I did. After that it really went down on a steep slope where she told me she needed space because we were together for a week straight. It didn't bother me because I did agree.We didn't text/call each other as I did respect her space. It was 5 days since I didn't see her so I decided to buy her something nice. I bought her a glass figure of a flower with a picture of use kissing in the middle of it. I wanted to surprise her. Went up to her room and called her up. Then I saw all of my stuff/clothes on a pile by the couch as I was confused. She came up looking like she got done crying and we talked and asked what was wrong. She told me that it doesn't feel the same anymore, but she still loves and cares for me. She wanted to break up with me. It was out of the BLUE. I didn't cry at all because I was really confused what was going on. I kept asking her why are you doing this, and she explained herself that she doesn't want to be held down anymore as she hasn't been single for like three years. She said all this stuff on how she wanted to finish high-school, and find herself out. I left with little words said to her if I could get one last kiss, and we did. As I walked out of the door confused like no other.

It didn't hit me till I went home and asked her mom was was going on, her mom told me that she has been crying everyday for 5 days not knowing what to do. That is when it hit me, my heat dropped and cried like no other and felt something that I've never felt before. It hurt so bad that it made me do things that I would never thought I would do. I was depressed, as I would call/text her crying and begging to give me a real second chance into making things work. She said no and that it will never be the same for her anymore.

I know how girls work, they think with their heart before their head. I knew for the five days we were away from each other she was planning of the break up. That was why she didn't cry at all when she broke up with me, not even a tear. Like it was so easy for her to say that to me. She was emotionally drained.

I've texted her a couple times asking if we could meet at park at night where we shared heart to heart, It was our special place. I've stayed on that spot for 3 hours waiting for her but she never came. She ignored my phone calls/text, She was ignoring me and it hurt so bad that she never showed up.

I've sent her a long text message saying that I've accepted the breakup and ended it with an I'm sorry. It has been 2 months now since the break up and we haven't talked to each other besides text messages saying happy birthday to each other. She is 18 now and I am 20. My birthday was 2 days ago and I asked her if she wanted to go get ice cream with me for my birthday, She said yes happily. I was nervous to see her as I don't know what to expect. So I picked her up form her house and it was awkward at first, but we just talked about what we were up to these days. We never brought up the break-up as I wasn't intentionally trying too. I wanted this to be a fresh start for both of us of being friends. Then it went downhill from there. My car broke down and needed a new battery. I went to walmart and got a fresh one. While we were waiting she looked at me and started crying, I held her tight and asked her what was wrong, and her respond was "idk" She went to the bathroom and came back fine.We walked around walmart waiting for service to call me saying my car is ready and I've never felt so close to her in my life. We smiled and held hands a couple of times. I can tell she wanted to let go, but couldn't so I would purposely let her hand go. It felt amazing as it was we were together again, but I didn't want to put that on her because we actually weren't together. We left and I asked her if she still wanted to get ice cream and she said Yes, So we went and like we sat down and talked about what were our plans in the future. Then she started asking questions like who I was talking to, and if I've hooked up with anybody lately. Being honest to her I told her the truth. I told her I wasn't talking to anybody or hooked up because I was too busy with work and basically keeping myself busy all the time.

But then I was really curious. I wanted to know if she is talking to anybody or hooked up with anybody. I was smart, but curiousness took over me. I knew that asking her would hurt me more if I didn't get the right answer I was hoping for. Then I asked away. I told her if she is talking to someone and she replied that he was talking to her, She said the name of one of my friends (I kind of got the idea who she was talking too because my brother found out and told me before I even said that I didn't want to know who she is talking too, it would just hurt me more)
But her just telling me this actually hurt me because it was confirmed by her. She also mentioned that they hung out couple times and only kissed. And it HURTS knowing this. Then I asked what is it between you two and she said that he is talking it too fast for her because he has been calling her baby and whatnot and she is not ready to be in a relationship again.

Then she cried again. So I asked if she wanted to leave and just take you home, she said yes. On the car ride home she kept crying and crying, and she said that she misses me and that she wished that she felt the same way again, but she couldn't feel it. The car ride back to her house was quiet and emotionally. I left her house by giving her a big hug and said to her that she will be fine. I know that she still loves me because we are each other's first love.

To me it seems like we are both back at square one where we've broken up. I was doing great before I went out and saw her. I should have kept the meet short as this would have avoided all of the commotions. Now all I can do is just imagine what her and that guy are saying to each other and how many more times they will see each other. I know my ex very well that she will not sleep with him unless they are dating, she wouldn't have sex with me till we started dating, but that was a year ago and I don't know if she changed from that. This is killing me and I hate knowing answers to questions that I don't want to know the answer too. So my question to this is now what? What are your guy's input into this situation?

Sorry for the long post I thought I'd be detailed as possible.
Thanks

wazie
Jul 11, 2012, 11:33 PM
Bump?