gayguyswantbaby
Jul 10, 2012, 03:34 AM
Hey
I am a gay guy with a great desire to be a father. Having been in a great relationship for 7 years now I feel we are ready to take the next step and give a loving home to a child. We've looked at adoption, but its not possible for various reasons (which I am willing to explain fully if asked.) We cannot afford surragacy and I have to admit I don't really believe in buying a baby as such.
As I said, I have a burning desire to be a father and I remember when first coming out my mum was really sad as she said that the one thing she felt I would miss would be the joy of being a great father. You see I always from a young age had that maternal approach to everything and I guess I have to admit that although I hate saying it, I am the home maker and love nothing more than when we look after our friends kids and have them stay over for weekends. I feel like it is my role to organise and my partner relishes being the 'good' person who has the fun! Pretty much like real parents I guess??
As I get older, am now 33 and the desire becomes stronger and I cannot think of anything else. I go shopping and look at baby clothes and go online and put things in my shopping baskets to pretent to buy things, totally stupid I know but I cannot help it.
Historically I guess I've over compensated with my sisters children, my 11 year old Nephew used to stay with us weekly and see's us as being his parents. We've set up a University fund for him as I know my sister doesn't think of such things and I want him to not have to worry when he gets older. My sister has recently given birth to a little girl, she is such a joy and I wish I could keep her. This will sound totally hateful and horrible but I often have visions of my sister and her husband being killed in accidents and I get the children. I feel so much shame after these thoughts and am welling up whilst writing this, but I guess that's the way it is.
I suppose on a practical note, for those reading this I would say that both myself and partner are both in well paid jobs and we are certainly in a position to build a great life for a child/children.
I am a gay guy with a great desire to be a father. Having been in a great relationship for 7 years now I feel we are ready to take the next step and give a loving home to a child. We've looked at adoption, but its not possible for various reasons (which I am willing to explain fully if asked.) We cannot afford surragacy and I have to admit I don't really believe in buying a baby as such.
As I said, I have a burning desire to be a father and I remember when first coming out my mum was really sad as she said that the one thing she felt I would miss would be the joy of being a great father. You see I always from a young age had that maternal approach to everything and I guess I have to admit that although I hate saying it, I am the home maker and love nothing more than when we look after our friends kids and have them stay over for weekends. I feel like it is my role to organise and my partner relishes being the 'good' person who has the fun! Pretty much like real parents I guess??
As I get older, am now 33 and the desire becomes stronger and I cannot think of anything else. I go shopping and look at baby clothes and go online and put things in my shopping baskets to pretent to buy things, totally stupid I know but I cannot help it.
Historically I guess I've over compensated with my sisters children, my 11 year old Nephew used to stay with us weekly and see's us as being his parents. We've set up a University fund for him as I know my sister doesn't think of such things and I want him to not have to worry when he gets older. My sister has recently given birth to a little girl, she is such a joy and I wish I could keep her. This will sound totally hateful and horrible but I often have visions of my sister and her husband being killed in accidents and I get the children. I feel so much shame after these thoughts and am welling up whilst writing this, but I guess that's the way it is.
I suppose on a practical note, for those reading this I would say that both myself and partner are both in well paid jobs and we are certainly in a position to build a great life for a child/children.