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nina9
Jul 9, 2012, 08:37 PM
I was in transition of divorce after 15 years of marriage and moved in with a friend of mine in March. My divorce was finalized in April. She immediately tried to set me up with several different people including a few of her ex boyfriends but I wasn't interested in any of them except for one with whom I am still involved. I explained to him from the beginning that I was not ready for a relationship and he stated he was not looking either. We agreed to be “friends with benefits." The problem is neither of us are seeing other people, we spend every weekend together, and the sex is out of this world. It is starting to feel like a relationship to me. On the weekends he picks me up and drops me off but drops me off when he feels like it. I am a runner by nature. I want to end the relationship before it goes any further. I feel very vulnerable right now. Frankly, I just don't want to get hurt again and before I start to develop stronger feelings I think it would be a good time to break it off. Why do I feel this way? Is it is just too soon after the divorce, am I jaded? Should I stay or go? Any insight?