I have two children, their fathers haven't been in their lives my boyfriend who lives with me is step dad to my kids. My kids love him & call him daddy. Him & I didn't live our lives in a christian way before we met. We both stopped drinking alcohol I even stopped smoking pot. He still smokes cigarettes & doesn't seem as if hhe'll quit. We both were far from leading a spiritual life before we met but now we both attend church every Sunday.

The thing is we both have a short fuse, I believe I have anger issues & he has trust issues. We fight about everyday. I might accuse him of staring too much @ a female ,or he'll accuse me of staring. Small things spark bigger fights. He'll say smthng hurtful or disrespectful & fire back to hurt him even more. He's lost respect for me & I've lost respect for him.

Ive asked him to move out but says he has nowhere to go & can't live with his family because their isn't enough room @ his sisters house & his mothers house won't allow extra people to move in. he asks how can I be so evil if I know he has no where to go. He said he will need time to save money & find another place. He says if I'm a christian I should be more understanding. He says how could I do this to my children.

But I wouldn't feel comfortable with him living with me while he finds a place because it makes it harder for me and my kids. He says since I'm 33 years old & I haven't had a stable life or father for my kids I should try my best to work it out with him. He tells me because of my pattern of my past relationships that didn't work out.. I will most like go back to the way I was & I will never be able to be in a normal or functioning relationship with anyone. I tell him that's why I want him to move out so I can work on myself because I know I have issues and want to become a better person & mother but he insists we should work our issues out together.

I love him & is good with my kids but I don't know if I love him enough to keep trying.. Ive always quit on past relationships but because I didn't make the right choices on the type of men that I have chosen before.

So the guy I'm actually with right now has a stable & legal job. He is interested in my children & sincerely caring. Sometimes I lose self esteem or even depressed because he doesn't trust me or isn't encouraging when I need him to be supportive..

Are all relationships like this? Should I keep trying & not give up.. He says he wants to get married when his divorce is finalized. Im beginning to think something is wrong with me since I haven't lead a normal functioning relationship in so many years because of my past drug problems that I have recently been.able to overcome.

I can assure you not all men are like this. He is manipulative and abusive, what is more evil is you allowing him to stay in your home and abuse you in front of your helpless children.

Kick his sorry butt to the curb and find a man, not a boy.