OK so I'm 46 and been in a relationship with a same sex partner for 8 years. The last two have not been good.

I met someone casually in making a transaction, we started emailing, and well I caught some hints that maybe this person was interested in me. I went to this person house a few days ago and there was some comments that led me to further question this persons intentions. I didn't act on them.

But I can't get this person off my mind, I know they have been straight for many years and looking for an opposite sex partner, but they told me they were open to meeting someone of the same sex (desperate?). I'm very confused at the moment as I had not been looking to meet anyone, didn't want to find anyone, had no plans of cheating..

Now I can't sleep, my waking moments are thinking about this person, and I don't even know if they are really attracted to me or just curious and wanting to see if I know any single persons of the same sex.

I've tried bringing it up in emails, but get told "maybe this should be talked about in person".. I don't know if that is the healthy thing to do, and would like to know where things stand before I go back for a face to face.

Need some input here, and I need some sleep!

Maybe you should meet in a very public place and talk face to face, preferabley a place where you can resist temptation, and perhaps take a long hard look at your current relationship, perhaps you don't want to be with them any more?? 8 years is a long time to throw away if you aren't one hundred percent sure.

Now I can't sleep, my waking moments are thinking about this person, and I don't even know if they are really attracted to me or just curious and wanting to see if I know any single persons of the same sex.

I've tried bringing it up in emails, but get told "maybe this should be talked about in person".. I don't know if that is the healthy thing to do, and would like to know where things stand before I go back for a face to face.

Need some input here, and I need some sleep!


I've shortened your quote - what do you have to gain by meeting OR discussing the sitution face to face or, for that matter, by any other means?

What are you looking to accomplish?