BobaFettish
Jul 9, 2012, 08:57 AM
I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 years.
Obviously, as with most relationships, we've had ups and downs. I've never given any reason for him not to trust me, and nor him to me.
Recently, I was on the internet, and as some of you may know, the search bar on Firefox can keep all your searches. I was typing in something unrelated, when I noticed a user name linked with a photobucket tag. It is a user name I have on another website, but not my photobucket.
I knew it wasn't me that searched for it, because my username for my actual photobucket was something different, and why would I be searching for myself.
Previously, about a month ago, he brought up that he just happened to "stumble" upon my pictures on the internet (nothing nsfw, but I am a busty girl, and hackers will take anything they can get), and asked me about it.
I thought it curious that he just happened to "find" these, but I figured whatever, and deleted my entire photobucket to take the pictures down. I asked him how he just happened to stumble upon them, and he just said he was internet browsing.
Now I realize he clearly went out of his way to look for my pictures on the internet. I have also since noticed that he goes our computer, and looks through all my internet history, documents and photos.
I have nothing to hide (I never delete my history) and I have never given him any reason to distrust me, so I can't understand why he's looking through all my stuff.
I want to talk to him about it, but I don't know how to bring it up without him getting defensive about it. He obviously lied about how he found them to me once already, so I don't want him to feel that I am attacking him.
I trust him enough that I leave my Facebook account logged in all the time, so he has easy access to it at all times.
Has anyone been in this situation? I am not sure what to do about his "spying" on me. I am hurt that he feels the need to go through my stuff.
Obviously, as with most relationships, we've had ups and downs. I've never given any reason for him not to trust me, and nor him to me.
Recently, I was on the internet, and as some of you may know, the search bar on Firefox can keep all your searches. I was typing in something unrelated, when I noticed a user name linked with a photobucket tag. It is a user name I have on another website, but not my photobucket.
I knew it wasn't me that searched for it, because my username for my actual photobucket was something different, and why would I be searching for myself.
Previously, about a month ago, he brought up that he just happened to "stumble" upon my pictures on the internet (nothing nsfw, but I am a busty girl, and hackers will take anything they can get), and asked me about it.
I thought it curious that he just happened to "find" these, but I figured whatever, and deleted my entire photobucket to take the pictures down. I asked him how he just happened to stumble upon them, and he just said he was internet browsing.
Now I realize he clearly went out of his way to look for my pictures on the internet. I have also since noticed that he goes our computer, and looks through all my internet history, documents and photos.
I have nothing to hide (I never delete my history) and I have never given him any reason to distrust me, so I can't understand why he's looking through all my stuff.
I want to talk to him about it, but I don't know how to bring it up without him getting defensive about it. He obviously lied about how he found them to me once already, so I don't want him to feel that I am attacking him.
I trust him enough that I leave my Facebook account logged in all the time, so he has easy access to it at all times.
Has anyone been in this situation? I am not sure what to do about his "spying" on me. I am hurt that he feels the need to go through my stuff.