Well... I lost my virginity about a month ago, and I did it with a boyfriend that I truly love. I've masterbated before, but with small items not huge sex toys, and I've had a vibrator but it never got insterted just on my area. My boyfriend knows I masterbate. But one day.
My boyfriend wanted to have sex and well I wanted it more then he did.he couldn't bare to see me in pain so we smoked a sweet. I was a half baked. I laid back, he pulled out and all my highness just flew away, I guess it was because I was neverous... I expected this wild orgasm painful ride.. but.. I didn't feel ANYTHING. He got on top looked at me in the eyes and slowly insterted his penis, I could slowly feel it go inside. He doesn't have a monster penis, its 6 in.. I thought it was perfect! ^-^. But when he started going back and forth I didn't feel anything. I pretended that I was in pain to make him feel good because it was his first time too. He got on his side anf put me on my side with my leg over his body and instered himself in this position and got his fingers and started playing with me, at the same time going back and forth.. That's when it started feel amazing! But he stopped and cummed really quick.. I didn't get an orgamism, it didn't hurt at all, he was just tickeling me. I bled a little bit.And he was so happy I couldn't tell him that I didn't reall get an orgasm! I felt bummed out questioning myself. Maybe I wasn't tight enough to feel the pain? But I t hurts to finger myself with 2 fingers?! Maybe I was too use to the vibrations on my.. but I still got oragisms from masterbating.! Maybe I was too high I didn't feel anything?! Maybe he didn't find my G spot. Idk..
All I know is that it DIDN'T HURT! All the other girls say its an amazing painful ride! That its going to hurt too much, that your going to bleed a lot. That it feels so good. I didn't feel any of that!? Why!!

How old are you both?

How old are you both?
I'm 20 he's 23 we've dated for 11 monthes now

If you smoke, then there is a chance it could have affected you that way, but most likely not. A lot of people find sex more enjoyable after smoking actually. Just as a general comment cause a lot of people may harp on that- smoking and then having sex is perfectly fine as long as someone isn't being taken advantage and I am pretty sure that isn't the case here. I think you are expecting more from sex than you should be though. It is actually very common for woman not to orgasm during sex. If you are both virgins then it is no surprise he came early too. It can take guys a little while before they can control themselves decently. It is actually good that you can orgasm during masturbation, masturbate regularly, and that he was stimulating you in other ways besides just penetration. Most people say that with masturbation that you learn how to please yourself and lead yourself to orgasm. Try applying some of the stuff you do when you are together- the same could go for him. Also it is normally much easier for woman to orgasm and in general just more enjoyable when woman are being stimulated with their or whatever they think feels good. It is still a little strange about the feeling pain with 2 fingers but not with his penis. The only comment I have for that is even when being fingered if the hands our rough/ long nails, etc it can be more painful/ irritating than a smooth penis. I really not sure what kind of girls you are talking to but they seem to be hyping it up way more than what it actually is. My first time wasn't painful at all and I didn't even bleed because my hymen was broken way before. Not sure if its what you guys are into or not but making him think you are in pain is a little odd- for the first time I would think that should be more of a concern or really in general if there is legit pain (not talking kinky) than it should be more of a concern.