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Missy1921
Jul 7, 2012, 06:02 PM
Hi everyone I'm a mother to a beautiful baby boy who is 5 months old. I have left my husband repeatedly because of mental fisical and financial abuse . He has said things like if I ran he would beary me in the back forty and my family would never find me . Or I'm too poor and can't afford to devorce him. I'm a terable wife I don't do my job and that's to have sex with him and clean our house and I do t take care of our son when I'm the only one who looks after him and feeds him. His parents have seen our son maybe 7 times and sometime. He doesn't even speak to our son he is just on his phone . I think he has cheated also.
This last time I had enough an went to the cops after he tried to strangle me . I still feel torn and not sure what to do . Go back cause its easy or stay away and keep the emergency protective order ? I go to court next week . He says this time he will change but I don't think he will .
I had my fortune told and she said if I go back my son would have a hard life and would see more and more domestic abuse happen to his mommy . I'm so weak besacuse of his manipulation but there's a part of me that hates him and his family because they are all the same way. I went to the house to get more stuff and took the cops with me and I was full of hate for him and one small part missed our house . I singed a prenup so I get nothing he even tried to put a cap on child support . That was teriable but I wouldn't agree to that .
I'm unsure of what to do as I am staying at a friends house . I don't like that me and my son don't have any were to call home . My family is in a different province . Victum services says there's no way I should go back and I'm classic txt book of a battered women .
Please help with any feed back

cdad
Jul 7, 2012, 06:29 PM
Yes make the restraining order permanent. As far as a prenup goes who wrote it? You shouldn't go back into that situation and now that the police are aware of it by going back you could have your child taken from you. Is that enough reason to stay away ?

Fr_Chuck
Jul 7, 2012, 06:29 PM
You would be a classic abused wife if you go back, you child would learn that abuse or being abused if the proper behavior.

Missy1921
Jul 7, 2012, 06:41 PM
I was told that my son would be taken by police if I returned but when I called social services they said I could go back because the charges were dropped . My husband is a volunteer fire fighter and the police now him were we live . I did my statement in the city and one department is on my side the other department is on his so they dropped the charges . I'm so confused and had some feeling that this would happen . The officer that took my stament feels I will end up on dateline.
My family has been scared ever since he left me 4 hrs away from home in the woods . Like bear meet . The police picked me up and I went back to him married him and had a baby

Nlove741852
Jul 6, 2013, 05:51 AM
You have to find the positive in the situation as hard as it may seem. Be thankful your eyes are now
Open to see the pain he has caused. Stay strong and focused on making those changes permanent. Yes make the restraint permanent.

JudyKayTee
Jul 6, 2013, 10:09 AM
No written agreement changes the State's law on child support.

Why did you have a prenup? He had a lot of assets? He had a lot of assets? Either one of you had a really good job?

How old are you?